Inconsiderate, intimidating neighbors cause depression and anxiety?

I’m happy to hear that . Your Landlord should have given them a lease violation. It’s a process . Prayers for you , stand strong .

I know the landlord has previously told the problem tenants what has been alleged by other residents and that it must stop. It's beyond warnings now. They have involved the police and my guess is that they will soon have information and proof needed to go foreword with a successful civil legal process. Like you said it's a process but in my case the landlord has told me it will definitely end sooner than later. No question about that.

As soon as they are gone my anxiety and depression will be totally gone as well. I have learned through this situation beyond a doubt that environment is so critical to mental and physical health.

Hang in there . You got this

Update: Without going into the details the men here are back in full force right in front of the nice apartment building I live in. It's something out of a nightmare. I can't believe this is happening! I have a message in to the landlord asking for a status.

@robertwills are these people actual tenants in your building, or are they squatters?

These people are legitimate tenants but have numerous "guests". It's a nice apartment complex in the good part of town.

Update: The landlord called me back today and said they could not give me the details of what is happening but assured me again that this situation will definitely be permanently ending.

The police were also at the complex today but I don't know if it had to do with the men. I rarely see police here so I believe it's a good chance it was. Plus the fact that I didn't see the men outside today gives me hope as they usually congregate on Friday.

Update: Tonight there were two men outside smoking weed so it hasn't stopped yet.

And I completely understand that calling the police brings up fears of worse retribution as it will be assumed it was you.

Intimidating seems to be the way of ego driven people. Like its acceptable. They have the right to trample on your rights. Theirs matter, yours don't.

I actually did imagine it was a tougher area of town. My own privilege showing.

We had this growing up for a while. But my parents still went out dancing nightly and left my younger sister alone with them terrorizing her. 14 years old hiding behind ths couch for hours. I was in nursing school by then and had no idea till we were in our 50s? But esp when our mom died. So many hidden feelings came out for us all, but I was esp touched by my "baby sisters" story. The other 2 of us had no idea.

Our parents are gone and we are late 60s. She still holds animosity to them back to then.

More to it of course, parents putting their own lives ahead of us kids etc.

I'm so sorry tho if that helps at all. I'm a lifetime "depressant". Because of a life changing nursing injury at 23. Just unexpected changes in our lives we never imagined.

Why doe the innocent party gets linished? You hsve to pack and and bear the expense of moving. Huge depression. Whatever you Feel is VALID!

Eventually my mom was scared of them too. Drinking, drugging, "peeling out" thru our front yard at 3am. (Can you tell my generation? Peeling out? Lol)

Small peaceful town in the 60s/70s. When they sold, my parents bought that house. My sister was married by then and my parents were home more at night. Esp mom alone sometimes

Its horrible and I feel for you. I know my sister would esp. I think those years of alone fear affected her life. Of course yes, anxiety, depression - anger gets to be tbe hardest thing to feel after a while.

Whatever you Feel is VALID! Time for a drs note to the landlord. Or police. Except now that makes us look crazy!

B

@robertwills I am curious about the situation you described. Someone in my family lived in a city apartment with lots of men (and some women) smoking weed on the stoop- as well as playing music. My family member was friendly to them and when there was a shooting in the neighborhood, the folks from the stoop protected my family member. When my family member left, there were hugs all around.

I had initially interpreted this group as "rough" but on the first day some of the men helped us move furniture. Appearances can be deceiving.

You keep mentioning that people look rough" or "mean" and are "intimidating" and "making threats. What exactly are they doing? Or is your main problem the weed?

I lived in a city building where the superintendent smoked week. I don't get the focus on this. Live and let live, say hello, try being friendly. Of course now that police are involved it may not be possible.

My family member kept things friendly but did end up moving due to the noise.

I’m going to agree, perhaps you’re fearful of the weed they’re smoking, you have never mentioned that they behave aggressively towards you or say threatening comments. In Canada weed is legal and I can honestly say that I’ve seen more people misbehaving when drinking alcohol than smoking weed. The only thing that I don’t like about it is when they smoke indoors and it comes into my home, now that is what I call invasive, thankfully I dropped a note in their door asking them to go outside on their balcony and thankfully they complied, good luck with your mission.