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Caregiver Burnout

Posted by red888 @red888, Nov 20, 2024

Hi, I am 57 soon to be 58. I have been taking care of my mother for 30 years. She has never been mentally stable and she is now 84. Things have gotten progressively worse since she turned 80. I’m completely burnt out! I have to pay a sitter almost as much as I make to stay with her when I’m working and I can only work part time. I have a very stressful hospital job as well. I have no life of my own and I am very resentful after all this time… I don’t know how to go about getting her in a nursing facility when she still in her own home in my backyard. Any information, advice would be greatly appreciated. I feel like I’m dying a slow death with no joy in my life…. Please help me…. Thank you

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trishaanderson | @trishaanderson | Nov 26, 2024
In reply to @celia16 "As I try to care for my parents, especially my dad, I recall reading about people..." + (show)
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As I try to care for my parents, especially my dad, I recall reading about people continuing to live at home when their care needs become so great. He may say he doesn’t want to go to a facility, but it’s like they are already in a care home, but I’m the only staff member. If I were to place them in a facility, I wouldn’t consider a place that had one staff member and that one staff member working 24/7, which is similar to what I do now. At least I’m on call 24/7. I know in my situation, it’s not feasible, not sustainable.

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That's an interesting statement; I never thought of it that way—one staff member 24/7.

"If I were to place them in a facility, I wouldn’t consider a place that had one staff member and that one staff member working 24/7, which is similar to what I do now. At least I’m on call 24/7. I know in my situation, it’s not feasible, not sustainable."

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