Watch for the Cavalry anyway

Hey, you never know.

Stay positive!

The Calvary may not be coming, but Good Samaritans often cross your path. Be a good advocate for your spouse.

I love the optimistic outlook here......but so far, seven years later, the Calvary is becoming less and less. Very few visits from church and if they come, they seem to have another appointment or sometimes a visit is scheduled (not by me) and they forget about it, family comes but seem oblivious to needs or respite opportunities (as one has said, no one wants to see him like this) so they come less and less, the neighbors seem to avoid us more and more. Meals used to show up - not in a long time. I am thankful for delivery opportunities to get needed food/supplies...but I will keep looking and hoping and when our journey ends - I hope to draw on this experience and be a part of someone's Calvary.
Jan

Jan,
My heart goes out to you, for not only are you sacrificing your own needs to be a 24/7 caregiver, but as you watch your soulmate fade before your very eyes, you see your family relationships fading and distancing too. That's why we need to keep encouraging each other on this kind of forum, and we may feel a little less alone in the process. Bless you as you travel this difficult road.

Thank you for this unexpected but greatly treasured support. As Mark Twain said, "I can live two weeks on one compliment." Your response will keep me going for awhile....I do miss my sweet hubby as he was, but I also treasure the opportunity to love him when he is facing the hardest ordeal of his life. It is not easy, and at times, it seems impossible- however
"Love bears all things.
Love believes all things.
Love hopes all things.
Love ENDURES ALL THINGS.
Love NEVER ends. So now faith, hope and love abide, these three, but the greatest of these is love. "
I Corinthians 13: 7, 8, 13.
With each other's support in this group, we can feel stronger and more confident in this very unpredictable, and also unavoidable journey.
I wish I could physically hug everyone here.
Jan

Good morning, Jan,
Thank you for the reminder from 1st Corinthians, I need to remember that.
Each day, as caregivers, we encounter interesting challenges and sometimes heartwarming and unexpected surprises. Many of us experience what I think of as "caregiver sundowning" when toward the end of the day, we are emotionally spent and discouraged and our patience is wearing thin. These are the times, especially, that it helps to visit this forum and feel the caring, compassion and encouragement that is offered here. One more thing to be grateful for! I start each day with a gratitude list of five things. Over the past two years, I have amassed an amazingly long gratitude list that I can refer to when things get stressful.

You know, we all deserve a medal or bouquet of flowers (at least the rest of you do!) because this group of caregivers are the most loving, giving, and source of strength group of men and women I have ever encountered! Thank you for being out there and lifting me up when my soul is struggling to do it all and somehow hold it all together as I lose my greatest love and friend.
Last weekend my hubby, who NEVER misses Mass said he didn’t want to go anymore and so my worries on every level began. I suggested we watch Mass on our computer like we had done during Covid and he agreed. It was almost a miracle to see him animated watching, saying all the prayers and discussing the sermon and interesting priest because he said he could see and hear it all clearly without distractions! The Lord is mysterious and Good! Just thought I would share that with you all and send you Love today🥰