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Help - I am burned out and dealing with someone who is stubborn
My husband has a history of COPD and asthma. He has used every inhaler that is available and same with the drugs, which is claims to have problems with all of them
For the last two months it has been awful. We seem to be at the ER and doctor every few days. Last time at doc was Friday. He was given an antibiotic. This morning, I ask him how his lungs are doing and he tells me fine. I figured this because for the last two months or so all he does is go around honking, deliberately, up stuff and looking at what color it is. Trust me, I have the kleenex all over that I keep picking up. He is OBSESSED with the color - is it green, is it gray, is it clear. This even though the doc on Friday told him that color doesn't matter.
Now he is back on the phone for another doc. apt. His lungs, which were fine just an hour ago are now "all clogged up" and he is honking (generally becauses he keeps trying to) and he feels awful.
I must say, this shocked me as he just told me he was getting better.
Anyway, I can not clean around the house and he is b*tching that because of the house his lungs are bad. BULL. I do not use any strong chemicals. I generally use vinegar and water to clean floors, I dust weekly. NOW, though even vinegar bothers his lungs, so he claims.
The final straw for me came this weekend after it had rained several days. He walked outside and, oh his lungs were bothered. Why you ask, Because of the smell the air gets after it rains! This is not about pollen, etc, but just the earthy smell that comes after a good rain. At this point I am having my doubts.
I cannot tell you how many differnt doctors we have been to. Two weeks ago he told me to be ready to take him to the hospital, that didn't happen. Now he is sitting there telling me he is gonna die!
I just don't know what to do.
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Thanks so much for the support and advice. This board is fantastic as just coming here and venting for a moment helps my state of mind.
Seems every day has a new challenge. Today he wants to start from scratch. Redo tests, chest x-rays (just had one in mid-Aug.) etc. He's off and running and still the same. I told him, when we last talked about this matter, that they may not be able to do much more for him and he needs to have them figure out how to just best go forward as things are. That WE are both getting old and that neither one of us wants to hear or face it, that is just how life goes.
One thing we are fortunate in is that we have a wonderful Christian neighbor who does a lot for us without even asking. This morning, he was out checking our gutters and blew off the deck! He refuses money but I give him a check made out to his Church as I told him he was the Lord's blessing.
Far different from the step-daughter that will only do things if there is something in it for her. Interesting that we haven't seen hide nor hair of her since June and she only lives 8 miles away.
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2 ReactionsYou are so right. It is tough to see your loved one suffering etc. Sometimes, when H really starts honking and checking his mucus (which is pretty much ALL the tie, grr), I just get up and go in the other room and cry.
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2 ReactionsAs I said in an earlier post, I have a great neighbor. Earlier he was out cleaning our gutters. Now he is cutting the grass. Thank God!! That will keep H. from going out. H was going to go out and do that today, now he doesn't have to.
Our neighbor won't take money, so what I do is periodically give him a substantial check made out to his church. He is okay with that and that shows he does what he does for the right reason.
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