I need a caregiver helper.

Years ago I had a Mother's Helper, who turned out to be my friend and guardian angel. Her name was Jewel and she was a Jewel. She cleaned and cooked and helped wherever I needed her. When we went out of town, she was there to stay with the kids. She worked for me, actually with me for a couple days a week until my youngest was 16. Jewel couldn't drive but if she could it would have been perfect.
I need a Jewel. I don't see this as an agency person. I want someone who can fit into the family and be part of us naturally. Someone who can anticipate needs and help me when my own mind is losing it.
How do I find that person? Years ago I put an ad in the paper for "Mother's Helper." I interviewed several women and watched them with my children. Jewel was perfect. When I asked if she had a husband or children she said. " I was married once. Shot him in the foot and told him never to come back again." Perfect. She was perfect.
She died many years ago but we still have a cassette tape of an interview my son in law did with her. Makes me smile and cry.