small golden moments help

@billiekip What a wonderful golden moment to share with everyone!!! Question, though, how did your husband react to the suggestion of his death?

Billiekip, I am so happy for you!! Yes, these golden moments bring warmth to the heart which glow through your body for an extended time and I cherish the times we have left to enjoy too. Last week, very old friends of ours came over to visit and my husband suddenly came out of his shell to have a couple of hours of laughter…it was amazing!

He didn't react at all. I went on to chat about our other cats before Duke...Jenny and Dewey. It was really mind blowing...like a thought bubble just floated forward all of a sudden for him to think about a pet. Good question though. In the past, I've had problems with him denying the death of his mother, for example, although she died decades ago. We seem to be past that state now. But every day is different, so who knows.

My mother-in-law has Alzheimer. She's now at a stage where she's living in the past, before she was married and had children. When we tell her that my husband is her son (1 of 6), she laughs. She often asks about her parents, when they're coming, or where she is. We do a lot of fibbing: we go along with her conversation of the moment. The person she's completely blocked is her husband; we think that it's because she suffered a lot with him, mainly emotionally.

I commented in another post this morning about the same issue. The closest person..the spouse..seems to be the one blocked. After 60 years together, I still don't count as part of the past my husband remembers. His sister is the most clear to him. I don't think it has anything to do with your MIL blocking her husband due to emotional issues, although in this case, it sounds like a blessing. My mother in law remembered her first husband who died tragically; but she didn't remember her second husband who was a dud. We all enjoyed that blank in her memory, so sometimes it is a plus.

My father-in-law has been dead many years, when my husband was only 16. When she was still conscious and her daughter or my husband asked her if she never thought about going out with someone and marrying again, she would scoff and say, "My God prevent it" (Dios me libre). Later she stopped recognizing him on the pictures and his big portrait on the walls of her apartment, while she would still recognized her children. That is why we are pretty sure that she blocked him.

Another tender moment:
I have a tattoo of the oxytocin molecule on my left upper arm. In the warm weather, I wear sleeveless blouses. When I squat to take off my MIL's slippers when I put her to bed, she tries to scratch off those dirt marks on my arm. Hahaha!

The other night I noticed my husband was wearing 2 pairs of jockeys. I was hot, tired and irritable after cutting the lawn. I ordered him to take one pair off immediately! He turned around and mooned me! I laughed so hard.

That's a good one, @cbisman. Made me laugh out loud. Thank you!
Sometimes when I tell my husband to do something, he stands at attention and salutes me.