Hospice for COPD and Alzheimers or take him to treat cancer

Hi @norram, my husband is easy most of the time, for now. He does have difficulties with people who hurt him or want him to do things he doesn't want to do - doctors, the dentist, even physical therapists.
You need endless stores of patuence, for sure.
It sounds like taking him to get treatment would be so difficult and disruptive. Have you decided anything yet?

To answer your question, I am still processing, 59 years of marriage, being left behind, accepting the law of the universe, respecting my children's feeling and knowing how unhappy he is.

I used to not really understand what “quality of life” meant. We hear that term used a lot, but until you actually witness someone lose it, it doesn’t really resonate, imo. There are many factors that can impact this. I think we are all trying to do the best we can by our loved ones. It’s hard on us too.

Yes, it is.

@norram, I'm wondering how you are doing?

As you know, the goal of hospice care is to keep a patient comfortable to the end and facilitate the best ending possible given the circumstances.

Small skin cancers limited to the surface of the skin may not require treatment beyond an initial skin biopsy that removes the entire growth. What have the hospice doctors said about the skin lesion? Is it causing pain or uncomfortable itchiness? How is he doing? How are YOU doing?

Hello Colleen,
Thank you for asking. We are both doing as well as can be expected. Since he is at the stage where he is tired most of the time and does not want to leave the house, we treat it at home. He never complains that the lesion bothers him except when we clean and dress it. It's difficult to know if I'm making choices for him that help him feel good in the reality, he currently lives in.