Visual Prompts Help

Thank you for your thoughtful insight! I will try this as I find making choices is getting much harder for my sweetie.

Fully agree. I have also found this out with my wife. If I give her choices she likes to see them and sometimes say she will have all of them. Only one I tell her. Everyday is different and unpredictable but we all smile and carry on. My biggest challenge these days is the constant talking and wanting to go home (we have lived here for 17 years but she does not remember -) thinks she came here for a holiday and now wants it to end.

The "going home" really was grating on me. My husband wanted to go home to his family and small children. He'd thank me for a nice meal and want to leave. We have been married for 57 years; our daughters are in their 40's with their own families. He left one evening to go to Detroit where he is from; that is a long walk from Santa Cruz, CA. It was risky, but I moved from our condo near the beach where wehad lived for ten years to a one floor home near our daughter. The 3 tier condo was dangerous with all its stairs; and there was too much traffic for his sundowner treks. Choices have to made for the good of the corps. Your wife really doesn't feel rooted to her longtime home because it isn't familiar to her. Nothing is. Think about going into a party where you know no one...every day. That must be how it feels. Instead of trying to get her to remember things about the house, try embracing the aspects of it that are now new to her. Oh wow, look at this view, the mantle, the bathtub..anything. All new to her. You can change yourself and your own attitude, but you can't change another person especially now. AlZ has the winning card, so the best we can do is play the game as well as we can.

Thanks. We are 59 years. We built our retirement home, it also has 3 levels oceanfront. Your comments helped me think more about how she sees it now rather than how I see it. I am fortunate in that our grown son (bachelor) resides in the basement suite, has an excellent job in health care and helps me out a lot. Thanks again.

I've been giving my husband visual choices for quite a while now and it is so much easier than for him to struggle to give me an answer. He usually can't tell me "what" he wants to drink, so when he says he wants something to drink, i start off with asking him if he wants cold or hot and then go from there. I used to show him the choices of what we could have for side dishes with dinner but I've stopped doing that because I know what he likes 🙂 and he just wouldn't know, so I made the choice for him and he doesn't complain about my choice. When it comes to clothes, I give him those visuals as well, because he can't picture the colors in his mind when I ask if he wants the gray shirt or the blue one and when he points to it, he THEN says "the blue one". And it's those little moments that mean so much to me and to him cuz he remembers, if only for a moment. I think both of you will get much satisfaction by letting you're sweetie see his choices. Good luck and hugs to you

I've been giving my husband visual choices for quite a while now and it's been so much easier on him than struggling to find the words. I have a picture board of family photos to help him and i love your idea of a picture book when talking about family. He can recognize faces either in person or thru photos (as in he knows them somehow) but not their names, so a photo book might help before they come to visit... so i'm going to give that a try. Thanks for the suggestion.
Prayers and hugs to you