Found this website today for women that need help with the court system for abusive behavior for themselves or children. Check it out and sign up if needed. https://www.wespoke.org/contact
This is the link to where I got the list of "35 Phrases to disarm the Narcissist". https://parade.com/living/phrases-to-disarm-a-narcissist
I also highly recommend to buy the book: It's Not You: Identifying and Healing from Narcissistic People Hardcover by Dr. Ramani
I am 69 years old and have been in a narcissist relationship for over 45 years. My therapist says the Narcissist gets worse with age in which it has. It is a scary road and sad road to travel down. We have to stay strong and know that we are good and IT IS NOT US that is the cause of dysfunction.
@gardenchef - Hello. Greatly appreciate your posts here, adding resources to what is a most challenging journey - and, for me, one of - if not THE - most difficult aspects is that it is invisible to all - often, unfortunately, even those living in the same environment with us and the narcissist/s.
May I ask if you could share what your choices are in this 45-year relationship with a narcissist? I know it could be a family member, (and we can't change who we're related to, of course!), but are there options you have to move on from this relationship and/or environment?
Look forward to learning more from you. Thank you, and sending warm wishes for whatever you envision brings you peace and comfort.
@gardenchef - Hello. Greatly appreciate your posts here, adding resources to what is a most challenging journey - and, for me, one of - if not THE - most difficult aspects is that it is invisible to all - often, unfortunately, even those living in the same environment with us and the narcissist/s.
May I ask if you could share what your choices are in this 45-year relationship with a narcissist? I know it could be a family member, (and we can't change who we're related to, of course!), but are there options you have to move on from this relationship and/or environment?
Look forward to learning more from you. Thank you, and sending warm wishes for whatever you envision brings you peace and comfort.
I have set my boundaries with him which has helped me a lot.
My therapist says the best thing to do is educate yourself on narcissistic abuse.
I have read Dr. Ramani's book It Is Not You. Now reading it again. I have also enrolled in her online course. I am very impressed with what is there. It has only been a week since I started with that. I am early on in this discovery of my husband. Only has been 2 months now. Here is the link. Check it out. https://doctor-ramani.teachable.com/p/taking-yourself-back-healing-from-narcissistic-antagonistic-relationships
I have also started this group on Mayo Clinic Connect for support from others. My hope is to make this group larger each week and bring awareness to everyone that this is real and that the survivors need to support each other.
I have set my boundaries with him which has helped me a lot.
My therapist says the best thing to do is educate yourself on narcissistic abuse.
I have read Dr. Ramani's book It Is Not You. Now reading it again. I have also enrolled in her online course. I am very impressed with what is there. It has only been a week since I started with that. I am early on in this discovery of my husband. Only has been 2 months now. Here is the link. Check it out. https://doctor-ramani.teachable.com/p/taking-yourself-back-healing-from-narcissistic-antagonistic-relationships
I have also started this group on Mayo Clinic Connect for support from others. My hope is to make this group larger each week and bring awareness to everyone that this is real and that the survivors need to support each other.
I just stumbled upon this discussion. I was raised by a narcissistic mother. I have been no contact with her for over 2 years now. It was the only way I could heal myself from the childhood trauma she caused me. I am now 58 years old. I always knew something was off with her, but never knew what it was until al few years ago after seeing a therapist who helped me through it.
I just stumbled upon this discussion. I was raised by a narcissistic mother. I have been no contact with her for over 2 years now. It was the only way I could heal myself from the childhood trauma she caused me. I am now 58 years old. I always knew something was off with her, but never knew what it was until al few years ago after seeing a therapist who helped me through it.
You must feel encouraged to now understand the problems you experienced with your mom. It is a relief to know that it was "not you" but her problem and that you were an innocent bystander in her world. Seeing a therapist can offer such relief from these childhood traumas.
I just stumbled upon this discussion. I was raised by a narcissistic mother. I have been no contact with her for over 2 years now. It was the only way I could heal myself from the childhood trauma she caused me. I am now 58 years old. I always knew something was off with her, but never knew what it was until al few years ago after seeing a therapist who helped me through it.
I am so happy for you that you got therapy and are moving on with your life in a healthier way. I am sure it has been tough on you to go no contact. If you feel comfortable please share will us more on what your coping skills/boundaries are?
I have been using the Grey Rock method for about 3 months now with husband and it seems to be working quite well for me. Always a struggle though but life is a lot better for me and I now know it is NOT ME!!!!
You must feel encouraged to now understand the problems you experienced with your mom. It is a relief to know that it was "not you" but her problem and that you were an innocent bystander in her world. Seeing a therapist can offer such relief from these childhood traumas.
Thank you Teresa. I had found a great therapist a few years ago and he helped me immensely. We relocated to a different state 2 years ago and I have not been able to find another therapist that takes out insurance, so it has been a struggle. I was dx with breast cancer the end of April and it has been tough not having a therapist to talk to.
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Found this website today for women that need help with the court system for abusive behavior for themselves or children. Check it out and sign up if needed.
https://www.wespoke.org/contact
@gardenchef - Wow! Is this ever to the point!
Thank you...but, phew! Kind of a stunning reality-check, isn't it?
@gardenchef - Hello. Greatly appreciate your posts here, adding resources to what is a most challenging journey - and, for me, one of - if not THE - most difficult aspects is that it is invisible to all - often, unfortunately, even those living in the same environment with us and the narcissist/s.
May I ask if you could share what your choices are in this 45-year relationship with a narcissist? I know it could be a family member, (and we can't change who we're related to, of course!), but are there options you have to move on from this relationship and/or environment?
Look forward to learning more from you. Thank you, and sending warm wishes for whatever you envision brings you peace and comfort.
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1 ReactionI have set my boundaries with him which has helped me a lot.
My therapist says the best thing to do is educate yourself on narcissistic abuse.
I have read Dr. Ramani's book It Is Not You. Now reading it again. I have also enrolled in her online course. I am very impressed with what is there. It has only been a week since I started with that. I am early on in this discovery of my husband. Only has been 2 months now. Here is the link. Check it out.
https://doctor-ramani.teachable.com/p/taking-yourself-back-healing-from-narcissistic-antagonistic-relationships
I have also started this group on Mayo Clinic Connect for support from others. My hope is to make this group larger each week and bring awareness to everyone that this is real and that the survivors need to support each other.
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3 Reactions@gardenchef - Thank you for starting this. It is essential.
I just stumbled upon this discussion. I was raised by a narcissistic mother. I have been no contact with her for over 2 years now. It was the only way I could heal myself from the childhood trauma she caused me. I am now 58 years old. I always knew something was off with her, but never knew what it was until al few years ago after seeing a therapist who helped me through it.
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You must feel encouraged to now understand the problems you experienced with your mom. It is a relief to know that it was "not you" but her problem and that you were an innocent bystander in her world. Seeing a therapist can offer such relief from these childhood traumas.
How are you taking care of yourself now?
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1 ReactionI am so happy for you that you got therapy and are moving on with your life in a healthier way. I am sure it has been tough on you to go no contact. If you feel comfortable please share will us more on what your coping skills/boundaries are?
I have been using the Grey Rock method for about 3 months now with husband and it seems to be working quite well for me. Always a struggle though but life is a lot better for me and I now know it is NOT ME!!!!
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2 ReactionsThank you Teresa. I had found a great therapist a few years ago and he helped me immensely. We relocated to a different state 2 years ago and I have not been able to find another therapist that takes out insurance, so it has been a struggle. I was dx with breast cancer the end of April and it has been tough not having a therapist to talk to.
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