How long does it take to recover from broken marriage?

I understand you’re hurting. I was married for 33 years and had to go through a divorce, not my choice, so I know the hurting feeling. The main thing for you to do is to keep busy with friends, family, and your interests and hobbies. The hurt will gradually subside with time, but may never totally go away. There is a line from a poet whose first name is Pablo. Love is short, forgetting is long.

I remember asking the exact same question after my husband walked out on me - how long is this pain going to last? For me, after 6 months I was able to pull myself out of the pain when I finally accepted the marriage was over and I didn’t want to waste another day of my life. It was a decision I made, but I think a person has to experience the pain/loss before they can make that decision. My thoughts are with you! It’s a painful experience but I will tell you that now I can look back and say that my divorce was the best thing that ever happened to me.

Marina, you come across as a kind, and caring person. As such, what would you do for a friend who was sad? Think about yourself from a third person perspective. Ask Marina, what does she need, right now? This is a chance and time to become your own best friend. Be there, for Marina. It takes a little bit of work to learn to think about yourself and your needs 1st. Don't give up. Keep moving forward. My friend, Frances, says "Gratitude", look around you, so much to be grateful." Losses and challenges are put forth into our lives so that we can learn and experience and grow and by doing so, we bloom and blossom and gives us the opportunities to share with others this incredible experiment of the universe of which we all are. May you be happy. May you be Healthy. May you feel at peace. May you feel loved. Shine on!!!

I was a bachelor for a long time, and I dated a fair number of divorced women.

Each individual is different, of course, but as a (female) psychologist told me, it typically takes two years for someone (man or woman) to stabilize after a divorce.

My experience bore this out.

One tip -- When you do start dating again (and you will), don't spend your first date with the new guy giving a litany of your ex's sins. That's not fair to you or the new guy.

Hi,

I just wanted to share where I’m at. In 13 days, it’ll be a year since my separation. Looking back, it’s been a rollercoaster.

When I first wrote here, I was angry. Then I went through a really sad phase where I wished I didn’t have to wake up every day. But one day, out of nowhere, I just felt okay—like I was exactly where I was meant to be.

About three months ago, I felt ready to date again. I thought I was fully healed. I made a profile on a dating app but didn’t find anyone I liked. Then two weeks ago, I started chatting with someone, and from the first conversation, I felt he might be the one. We met in person four days later and have gone on three more dates since. He’s amazing—kind, thoughtful, and everything I could want.

But dating him has shown me I’m not as healed as I thought. After our third date, I woke up feeling sad because I kept thinking it would end someday. I know that’s not a healthy way to think, but I couldn’t stop myself.

On the day of our fourth date, my mom was admitted to the hospital. He came with me and waited for hours while I was with her. That showed me how much he cares and what a great person he is.

Yesterday we spent time together, but today we didn’t. Even though there’s no reason to think it, I found myself doubting if he’s really into me. My mind just went to the worst-case scenario again.

Then, to make things harder, I started thinking about my ex—not because I miss him, but because the idea of being hurt by someone new scares me.

I know I still have work to do on myself, and this is part of the process.
The question is should I stop dating good guy until im totally ok ????

Keep dating him. He sounds like a keeper because of going to the hospital and seeing your mom.