Acceptance and Kindness

Jun 14 7:00am | Dr. Anne Shandera-Ochsner, HABIT Midwest Director | @dranneshanderaochsner | Comments (5)

 

I recently had a clinic visit with a patient and family who have been traveling along the journey from mild cognitive impairment to mild dementia. They expressed that they recently have embraced the Alzheimer's disease diagnosis and how freeing this has been for all of them.  I was struck by how acceptance of the diagnosis seems to have led to greater self kindness on the part of the patient and kindness toward the patient on the part of the family.  We have written about acceptance and self kindness in the past, and this clinical interaction really brought the intersection of these 2 concepts home for me.  It also reminded me of a favorite quote by the Dalai Lama, pictured above.

I would challenge us each to consider today the ways in which we might “choose kindness”.  For yourself, with MCI, it may be practicing acceptance of the diagnosis, and giving yourself grace that your memory is an area that needs support.  If you are a care partner, maybe it is thinking about ways in which you can support your loved one with MCI, or perhaps ways in which you can be kind to yourself.  Consider adding this to your to do list today!

Comment below on how you practice self kindness, acceptance, or both.

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I had a diagnosis of Mild Cognitive Impairment and am used to it and joined a support group and felt very good about myself. Then yesterday my neurologist announced that I have Mild Dementia. He had his assistant give me a cognitive test. I feel shocked. He did not say why I had advanced or tell me what Mild Dementia is. I take Namzaric and they help me a lot but it felt blunt. Like I was being hit from behind. He told me that I did much better than he expected on the test! I have a six month appointment and will have another cognitive test. I went on the Mayo website and felt better I do need more than a dx, pills and a test. My husband was with me then and he was surprised too. You are the first person that I have told. I have had mini strokes in my brain and my last brain MRI was three years ago. My brain is shrinking more and I have hyperintensies on the last MR!/

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@carolee888

I had a diagnosis of Mild Cognitive Impairment and am used to it and joined a support group and felt very good about myself. Then yesterday my neurologist announced that I have Mild Dementia. He had his assistant give me a cognitive test. I feel shocked. He did not say why I had advanced or tell me what Mild Dementia is. I take Namzaric and they help me a lot but it felt blunt. Like I was being hit from behind. He told me that I did much better than he expected on the test! I have a six month appointment and will have another cognitive test. I went on the Mayo website and felt better I do need more than a dx, pills and a test. My husband was with me then and he was surprised too. You are the first person that I have told. I have had mini strokes in my brain and my last brain MRI was three years ago. My brain is shrinking more and I have hyperintensies on the last MR!/

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You have such an amazing attitude, Carol. I've seen you offer support to others in various groups on Mayo Clinic Connect. Thank you.

Here's another place where you may wish to give and get support:
– Living with Mild Cognitive Impairment (MCI) https://connect.mayoclinic.org/discussion/new-to-mci/

I wonder if you, like @larryh123 who lives with lewy body dementia, may wish to give the patient perspective for care partners caring for someone living with MCI in the caregivers group:
– Caregivers: Dementia https://connect.mayoclinic.org/group/caregivers-dementia/

Your insights are valuable.

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@colleenyoung

You have such an amazing attitude, Carol. I've seen you offer support to others in various groups on Mayo Clinic Connect. Thank you.

Here's another place where you may wish to give and get support:
– Living with Mild Cognitive Impairment (MCI) https://connect.mayoclinic.org/discussion/new-to-mci/

I wonder if you, like @larryh123 who lives with lewy body dementia, may wish to give the patient perspective for care partners caring for someone living with MCI in the caregivers group:
– Caregivers: Dementia https://connect.mayoclinic.org/group/caregivers-dementia/

Your insights are valuable.

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I have already looked into the first one and will check out the other one later one. Will be looking on my own for more information. I am also considering changing my neurologist. I think he does not know what to say to me so he tells things in few sentences and is ready to go out the door.

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@carolee888

I had a diagnosis of Mild Cognitive Impairment and am used to it and joined a support group and felt very good about myself. Then yesterday my neurologist announced that I have Mild Dementia. He had his assistant give me a cognitive test. I feel shocked. He did not say why I had advanced or tell me what Mild Dementia is. I take Namzaric and they help me a lot but it felt blunt. Like I was being hit from behind. He told me that I did much better than he expected on the test! I have a six month appointment and will have another cognitive test. I went on the Mayo website and felt better I do need more than a dx, pills and a test. My husband was with me then and he was surprised too. You are the first person that I have told. I have had mini strokes in my brain and my last brain MRI was three years ago. My brain is shrinking more and I have hyperintensies on the last MR!/

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Your message reaaly resonates with me, since I too had brain shrinkage, mini strokes, hyperintensies, and a diagnosis of Mild Cognitive Impairment. However, the good news is that although I am still struggling cognitively, I have brought my score up to the point that I am no longer eligible for dementia drugs. My efforts are paying off!

Are you familiar with the book Memory Rescue, by Dr. Daniel Amen? I highly recommend it.

Have you looked into online brain training exercises? I have tried 3, and I think the best and most scientically supported is Brain HQ. I also like Lumosity. I use both.

Changing our neurologist sounds like a really good idea!

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@alexandrapurkis

Your message reaaly resonates with me, since I too had brain shrinkage, mini strokes, hyperintensies, and a diagnosis of Mild Cognitive Impairment. However, the good news is that although I am still struggling cognitively, I have brought my score up to the point that I am no longer eligible for dementia drugs. My efforts are paying off!

Are you familiar with the book Memory Rescue, by Dr. Daniel Amen? I highly recommend it.

Have you looked into online brain training exercises? I have tried 3, and I think the best and most scientically supported is Brain HQ. I also like Lumosity. I use both.

Changing our neurologist sounds like a really good idea!

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I have checked him out previously and in a fraud checket and it stated that there is too little evifdent to support his conclusions. I want to make sure that science supports it before I try it.

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