Anyone who has attended the HABIT program knows one of the key components of the program is The Calendar. An excellent tool to keep track of tasks, appointments, and action items and; because it is used by both the participant and the care giver, a useful means to help reduce repetitive questions and increase independence.
Keith and I attended HABIT two years ago and have been faithful users of our calendar ever since. However, I remember well, feeling and expressing a very strong resistance to incorporating the Calendar when it was initially introduced.
Prior to going to HABIT I had been using a ‘standard’ 12 month calendar, which fit nicely on my desk and, I felt, had been serving me quite well. I thought I was doing just fine keeping track of things (although I must admit I had missed several appointments recently). I cringed at the thought of learning a new system… especially one that had so many ‘pieces’ and details. I even called it ‘over kill.’
However, I reluctantly agreed to give it a try during the two weeks of the program.
Well of course, by the end of two weeks, I became a devotee. I soon realized the benefit of having a ‘system’ of keeping track of action items (those accomplished and those still to be done.) Of having a page listing monthly events, as well as a daily page with space for hourly entries, to do items, and notes. Most important was Keith was using the same system, and had committed to coordinating our calendars on a daily basis (these days there are times we check-in even more often).
I keep my calendar within easy reach. At home it’s on my kitchen desk and when I’m away from home, it’s small enough to easily fit into my purse or a pants or jacket pocket. I use the calendar to keep track of appointments, of course, but I also make notations in it, such as:
Many of these things may seem trivial to others. But I’m the one who gets to decide what is in my calendar, and for me, the more the better.
Keeping my calendar coordinated with Keith’s is crucial since he is my primary caregiver and my major source of transportation. Also Keith is usually the one who keeps me on task; “We need to sit down and go over our calendars,” he gently urges when it’s been more than a day since we’ve collaborated.
The children also understand the importance of my calendar and keep me informed of the grandchildren’s events and activities, family travel plans, or any event which might impact me, as well as those ‘pieces’ that often go in and then right out of my memory bank.
Keeping such an extensive calendar, and having it with me all the time, has eased my anxiety and reduced my stress considerably, as well as increased my sense of independence. For example, once something is written down I can then ‘let it go,’- knowing I can easily retrieve the information later. Additionally I can now easily ‘go back’ and retrieve information without having to rely on someone else. An example is, I often have difficulty remembering the time of my yoga classes, as I go to two different sessions and often mix the times. In the past I would have asked Keith numerous times, for verification. Now I look back on my old calendars and find out myself. I’m also better able to keep track of birthdays, book suggestions, and shopping lists, because they are all located in one place.
Using the Calendar has increased my sense of confidence, capability, and independence. And at the same time has decreased some of my anxiety and stress. Which is not only great for me but for my dear care giver as well.