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Why does life seem hard anytime you get it right?

Posted by ginnysnow @ginnysnow, Sep 22 6:16pm

It often feels like life throws the toughest obstacles my way precisely when I've invested the most time and effort in detailed planning and mapping out every potential scenario. This has been a recurring pattern in my personal experiences; the more I meticulously plan and strategize, the more challenging and arduous my journey seems to become, deviating from what I would expect given the preparation.

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diverdown1 | @diverdown1 | Sep 28 8:44am

I find that a lot of times things do NOT go the way I plan. In fact, that is the norm. I can look back however, and see that some of the things that I planned would have resulted in circumstances or situations that would have been worse. I have to try and relinquish my control over the things I have no control over, which is most everything except my reactions...even my reactions are hard to control at times. Letting go of control is actually kind freeing. I have had so many "hits" in the last several years. Terrible hits, actually, none of which I had any control over. I just try and stay in today. If I am feeling sad or depressed, I am usually thinking of the past. If I am anxious, I am usually thinking about the future. I can do nothing about the past and I have no idea what the future holds, so telling myself to do what is in front of me, today, is helpful.

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ginnysnow | @ginnysnow | Sep 28 10:07am
In reply to @diverdown1 "I find that a lot of times things do NOT go the way I plan. In..." + (show)
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I find that a lot of times things do NOT go the way I plan. In fact, that is the norm. I can look back however, and see that some of the things that I planned would have resulted in circumstances or situations that would have been worse. I have to try and relinquish my control over the things I have no control over, which is most everything except my reactions...even my reactions are hard to control at times. Letting go of control is actually kind freeing. I have had so many "hits" in the last several years. Terrible hits, actually, none of which I had any control over. I just try and stay in today. If I am feeling sad or depressed, I am usually thinking of the past. If I am anxious, I am usually thinking about the future. I can do nothing about the past and I have no idea what the future holds, so telling myself to do what is in front of me, today, is helpful.

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Wow, I didn't realize

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jenatsky | @jenatsky | Oct 2 3:39pm

@ginnysnow you just cannot prepare for everything in your life, otherwise life would become boring. You'd know what was down the road and be prepared at every step. How can you grow unless you explore what you don't know about life? We all try to plan ahead as we get smarter but bumps are part of life. As one poster said Murphy's law always has a hand in it. So as you stumble and pick yourself up and learn what happened so you don't stumble again. Think big and explore life.

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ginnysnow | @ginnysnow | Oct 2 4:39pm
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@ginnysnow you just cannot prepare for everything in your life, otherwise life would become boring. You'd know what was down the road and be prepared at every step. How can you grow unless you explore what you don't know about life? We all try to plan ahead as we get smarter but bumps are part of life. As one poster said Murphy's law always has a hand in it. So as you stumble and pick yourself up and learn what happened so you don't stumble again. Think big and explore life.

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Thank you for your kind words

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