What boundaries to set for my 29 yr old alcoholic son?

Try Al anon

@lisaav As his mom I bet you are thinking you can fix this. He is your son, and you love him so you are worrying yourself sick.

I’ve been through it all with 2 of my children. There were times I was so stressed, by my 11 year old drug addict son, that I couldn’t swallow food or drink. I’ve had 45 years of him and his actions. He is now 55 years old, and once again in a State Prison System.

Then, my beautiful daughter became addicted to painkillers. In 2018 she overdosed and died. She was 45 years old and the mom of 3.

Please, please look for Al-anon in your area. Al-anon is a program for family and friends of alcoholics. The focus of this Program is on YOU, not him. It will give you tools to take care of yourself. I joined Al-anon about 15 years ago. It basically saved me and my sanity. Please help yourself first. Your family knows you need peace.

Al-anon, 888-425-2666

Please know that I understand. I wish you peace, One Day At a Time

You have set pretty good boundries already.
Since he is having withdrawls without alcohol he will need to be in a detox center to stop drinking for any amount of time.
Talk to his GF and if you both are willing to confront him try to get him into detox.
I can only echo the above posters, you should find an alanon meeting and like minded concerned people.

Oh, my goodness. Very near my story. His gf may be taking drugs or she is in tremendous denial.

I take vitamins and have recently added a B Complex for my nerves. I don't care for medication. Prayer also helps tremendously. It helps to know that God has a plan for all of us. It is a tall order to "let go and let God." This is so difficult for parents, I believe especially for Mother's. Exercise, a good walk, swim, whatever. It is now about you keeping your sanity.
Al-Anon, prayer groups, are all helpful. They let you know that you are not alone. A good Sponsor can be helpful. God Bless You.

A lot to consider with helping your son to get sober. Has he said he wants to get sober? As long as he’s with this girlfriend enabling his drinking not a chance for his sobriety. From what you’ve said when he was with you & no booze he had to get medical help so sounds like he needs to get professional help to be medically withdrawn from alcohol. You could bring your family together for a intervention but best if you have professional help if you do that to guide your family & have treatment setup prior if your son decides at that time to get help so you can have him enter to get help immediately. Hope your son gets the help he needs & getting into a in-house program would be best for him.

You gave her great advice connecting with Al-anon!

I’m in total agreement with the other posters, they have experienced your pain and were able to move forward with the help from Al-anon, it’s truly your best choice and I think you have suffered greatly with your situation, I wish you well and hope that you find the peace you deserve.

Perhaps an intervention for him. I don't understand how these women think it is OK to enable this very deadly disease. What is she thinking? I shldn't judge, however; quite difficult not to.....she too is sick, I think that you know that......

I'm looking into it. I've tried online. But the chat rooms are always empty. There only one near me and the meetings are when I work. I may have to travel further. Ty

I'm so sorry that you've had to go through all of that. I will continue trying to find a meeting. My greatest struggle is my family being separated.
I'm not sure if I should let him continue to stay at my house. Ty.