Rude Meeting With Surgeon Today

Yes, all good points,not here to debate, in too much pain for that. Just saying I choose the correct diagnosis and competency over empathy, and respect gets respect. You can always find a surgeon who will do the surgery when five others say no. Sometimes patients only listen to to responses they want to hear.Everyone deserves a clear understandable explanation but it doesn't have to come with hugs. Here is an interesting article annout the dilemma
https://www.managedhealthcareexecutive.com/view/many-patients-say-their-doctors-lack-compassion

Wish everyone all the best with their health issues and pray for you to find the optimal paths to healing.

It is so sad what has become of our US medical system. I read the comments here and wonder if a class in rudeness is one of the last classes doctors take.
I retired in Mexico five years ago and the difference is astounding!! I'm possibly facing fusion but my doctors are still consulting with each other and making absolutely sure that when we go, we're going after the right problem. My team of four, two orthopedic surgeons, a neurologist, and my anesthesiologist (pain management) know & welcome each other's opinions. They are compassionate, caring and actually give their cell numbers out to patients in case we need to reach them. Yup, doctors do that here!! I've seen the top orthopedic surgeon in a Mayo Affiliated Hospital in Guadalajara for approx. $65 US, that's it. No insurance. He spent an hour and a half (not uncommon) with me explaining everything & making sure I understood it. He ordered some more tests eliminating other possibilities & sent me home with a back brace that mimics what the fusion will do to make sure that fusion will work. FYI. Medicare may cover emergencies only on a reimburse basis which takes forever.
I received the same attitudes you're all talking about at the IHC Hospital in St. George, UT. , Dixic Medical Center. The pain management doctor's attitude was cold, arrogant and mechanical, spent only about 15 minutes with me including the time he asked me about the cartels in Mexico because he was watching "Narcos" on Netflix!!
It's deplorable what has happened with the medical system in the US. IMO, it's degraded to a conveyor belt of minimal care.

Don’t do the replacement unless you want to sit and do nothing the rest of your life. Mine got loose and created problems that can’t be fixed.

I would get up and walk out. Second or more opinions are the best idea. A third one might be good since they didn't agree. I had a similar rude doctor I did not take his advice so he said "you'll be knocking on my door". I did not,and I found better advice.

Doctors hate when you refer to other doctors or compare treatment. He is human, and unfortunately took offense. He still should not have commented the way he did. I am sorry you had to deal with this.

I agree, anytime a patient is considering spine surgery, a second and third, and fourth opinion are in order. And I understand what you mean about rude doctors. There should be more training on bedside manner, but I guess if the doctor is lacking in empathy and social skills, there's not much we can do about that. I think it's as important as their medical knowledge and skill. No one WANTS to be in pain and having to spend every day trying to figure out how to get better, spending all their $ too. People in need of medical care also need a lot of compassion. I'm a counselor and I have treated many with medical trauma, some due to the way they were treated by doctors.

I had a doctor fire me as his patient for challenging him about not ordering a chest x ray when I was short of breath. Some of these doctors have big egos and that carries more weight with them than by doing right by the patient. If a doctor is rude to you do not have him touch you! Walk out the door as fast as you can.

Happy Medicare! Great coverage with supplemental but it does take longer and more work for doctors offices.
I’m getting 3 opinions before my minimally invasive surgery