Recently diagnosed with osteoporosis and I am terrified

Posted by drterri @drterri, Nov 3 9:03am

Hi, I was diagnosed with severe osteoporosis in my spine and hips about a month ago and I am now living in fear. I feel like I'm made of glass and I'm afraid to move. I walk around stiffly, afraid to bend, afraid to twist, stepping carefully to avoid falling, scared to drive or ride in a car in case I get in an accident. Note that I am actually doing everything I need to do (taking care of myself and my house, working full time, going out with friends) but I am doing it all in a constant state of anxiety. Every so often I go down a very dark path, mentally, and decide it would be better to just end it before it gets worse. I have been able to talk myself out of it every time, thankfully, by thinking about how sad my family would be without me. Will I be able to get past this and live my life without fear again? I'm 62 and figure I have another 20+ years on this earth. I have been looking forward to spending my final years peacefully, enjoying life but at this rate, that isn't going to happen. Any positive stories or encouragement would be much appreciated!

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@bswpb before getting my 1st injection of Prolia my levels were good it was after that my serum calcium level dropped and I had to increase my Calcium. I just want to pass this knowledge on. If there isn’t enough calcium coming in the body will pull it from the bones.

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@kristie2 oh I see! Yes that can be a side effect and why they have to check levels before next injection and make adjustments before the injection.

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You asked me to share my DEXA scores. The oldest one I can find dates back to 2006 at age 59. My femoral score was -2.1, my total hip scores were -1.6. In 2012 at age 65, my femoral neck score was -2.6 and my spine was -2.1. Can’t find my hip scores on that date. In 2024, 18 years from my first DEXA scan, my scores were left femoral neck, -2.9, right femoral neck -3.2, hip scores in both is -3.3, and spine -2.3. The average rate of bone deterioration is approximately -.1 per year. So according to that, my spine is holding up pretty well, my femoral neck is not doing too poorly, but my hips are not great; however, better than average. That being said, I don’t put a lot of faith in DEXA scores. Obviously the machines have changed a lot over the years; to get an accurate score, you not only need to return to the same facility, you should have your screening done on the same machine with the same technician! That’s not likely to happen ever! Have you taken the FRAX test? After you enter your information, it will score you on how likely you are to have a fracture in the next 10 years.

Now let me share two personal stories with you that happened in the last couple of weeks. Yesterday, my neighbor fell while walking her dog. Slipped on black ice, age 74. She does not have osteoporosis, but she broke her wrist and will require surgery. Another neighbor fell while playing pickle ball; he is in his 60s, strong bones, and broke his wrist in two places. My belief is, whether you have osteoporosis or not, our chances of breaking a bone if we fall hard enough, is somewhat likely. Now another story about a neighbor who took her first Reclast infusion. I saw her walking her dog a few days ago and asked her if she had a nice Thanksgiving, she replied, “no I was in the hospital. I took my first Reclast infusion. Had 105 temperature, vomiting and diarrhea and ended up in the ER. I thought it was dying!” She said she was sick for seven days!
Another younger neighbor, who was on oral bone meds, developed kidney stones. That being said, I also have a lot of friends, ages 60 to 80, who are taking various forms of bone drugs without complications. I’m just not willing to take the chance because I do not believe the overall benefits outweigh the risks and I’m not willing to be on drugs for the rest of my life, even though I am a labeled as elderly!
I do have the distinction of being the oldest Pickleball players in my neighborhood and also one of the best!💪

Sorry, this is much longer than I had planned, but I would like to share my experience with doctors. After my assigned GP, who i had never met, called me and wanted me to run to the pharmacy and pick up some bone meds after my latest DEXA test in 2024 (absolutely no conversation about the fact that I have discomfort with acid reflux, so should not be a candidate for oral meds and no discussion about any other side effects) — let’s just get you started on oral medication right away! So I asked to see a specialist. I did a 24 hour urine test and had a follow up appointment with endocrinologist. At the end of our visit, when I told her I had decided, after studying clinical trials, watching dozens of videos, reading several books, and listening to shared experiences from friends and also support groups such as this, I’d made the decision not to take bone meds. She said, “then why are you here? You’re wasting my time and yours “ Unbelievable, right? “I told her, I wanted to get the results of my urine test, which she didn’t share with me and was so upset, she marched me right out of her office, put her arm around me and said, “good luck! I’m sorry I couldn’t talk you into taking medication.” If it hadn’t happened to me, I’m not sure I would believe that this could really happen. So maybe you can understand why I’m a little bit cynical towards doctors, drugs, pharmaceutical companies and don’t get me started on clinical studies! If you have time, just read up on the difference between relative and absolute findings and the way clinical studies can be skewed.

Gotta get the trash out, have breakfast, walk my dog, take care of my neighbors dog and try to get to pickleball in an hour, so must end this. Could go on and on!

There’s an interesting article on the history of Osteoporosis, bone drugs, and the Dexa machines, “How a Bone Disease Grew to Fit a Prescription”. Old article, but worth reading.

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@glnamcgr
What an awful experience…unfortunately it’s not uncommon these days. My husband has a medical background (he’s not a doctor but did do his beginning internship and quit to go into the arts instead)
He is my advocate. He gets so mad at some doctors and staff.
They can be complete idiots…as in any field…carpenters, plumbers, electricians…the list is exhausting.
Finding a good doctor is not easy. He did his early studies and thesis on mRNA before it was called that. Basically he is disgusted with the clinical reports and self appointed gurus.
“You’re wasting my time and yours “ Unbelievable, right?”
That same statement came from a poster on a forum in response to a question and comment I made…so it can happen any where.
I’m following the progress of a few osteo patients …keep posting any changes. ❤️

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@bswpb before getting my 1st injection of Prolia my levels were good it was after that my serum calcium level dropped and I had to increase my Calcium. I just want to pass this knowledge on. If there isn’t enough calcium coming in the body will pull it from the bones.

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@kristie2
Prolia prevents the bones from releasing calcium. In this way it causes low serum calcium.

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You asked me to share my DEXA scores. The oldest one I can find dates back to 2006 at age 59. My femoral score was -2.1, my total hip scores were -1.6. In 2012 at age 65, my femoral neck score was -2.6 and my spine was -2.1. Can’t find my hip scores on that date. In 2024, 18 years from my first DEXA scan, my scores were left femoral neck, -2.9, right femoral neck -3.2, hip scores in both is -3.3, and spine -2.3. The average rate of bone deterioration is approximately -.1 per year. So according to that, my spine is holding up pretty well, my femoral neck is not doing too poorly, but my hips are not great; however, better than average. That being said, I don’t put a lot of faith in DEXA scores. Obviously the machines have changed a lot over the years; to get an accurate score, you not only need to return to the same facility, you should have your screening done on the same machine with the same technician! That’s not likely to happen ever! Have you taken the FRAX test? After you enter your information, it will score you on how likely you are to have a fracture in the next 10 years.

Now let me share two personal stories with you that happened in the last couple of weeks. Yesterday, my neighbor fell while walking her dog. Slipped on black ice, age 74. She does not have osteoporosis, but she broke her wrist and will require surgery. Another neighbor fell while playing pickle ball; he is in his 60s, strong bones, and broke his wrist in two places. My belief is, whether you have osteoporosis or not, our chances of breaking a bone if we fall hard enough, is somewhat likely. Now another story about a neighbor who took her first Reclast infusion. I saw her walking her dog a few days ago and asked her if she had a nice Thanksgiving, she replied, “no I was in the hospital. I took my first Reclast infusion. Had 105 temperature, vomiting and diarrhea and ended up in the ER. I thought it was dying!” She said she was sick for seven days!
Another younger neighbor, who was on oral bone meds, developed kidney stones. That being said, I also have a lot of friends, ages 60 to 80, who are taking various forms of bone drugs without complications. I’m just not willing to take the chance because I do not believe the overall benefits outweigh the risks and I’m not willing to be on drugs for the rest of my life, even though I am a labeled as elderly!
I do have the distinction of being the oldest Pickleball players in my neighborhood and also one of the best!💪

Sorry, this is much longer than I had planned, but I would like to share my experience with doctors. After my assigned GP, who i had never met, called me and wanted me to run to the pharmacy and pick up some bone meds after my latest DEXA test in 2024 (absolutely no conversation about the fact that I have discomfort with acid reflux, so should not be a candidate for oral meds and no discussion about any other side effects) — let’s just get you started on oral medication right away! So I asked to see a specialist. I did a 24 hour urine test and had a follow up appointment with endocrinologist. At the end of our visit, when I told her I had decided, after studying clinical trials, watching dozens of videos, reading several books, and listening to shared experiences from friends and also support groups such as this, I’d made the decision not to take bone meds. She said, “then why are you here? You’re wasting my time and yours “ Unbelievable, right? “I told her, I wanted to get the results of my urine test, which she didn’t share with me and was so upset, she marched me right out of her office, put her arm around me and said, “good luck! I’m sorry I couldn’t talk you into taking medication.” If it hadn’t happened to me, I’m not sure I would believe that this could really happen. So maybe you can understand why I’m a little bit cynical towards doctors, drugs, pharmaceutical companies and don’t get me started on clinical studies! If you have time, just read up on the difference between relative and absolute findings and the way clinical studies can be skewed.

Gotta get the trash out, have breakfast, walk my dog, take care of my neighbors dog and try to get to pickleball in an hour, so must end this. Could go on and on!

There’s an interesting article on the history of Osteoporosis, bone drugs, and the Dexa machines, “How a Bone Disease Grew to Fit a Prescription”. Old article, but worth reading.

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@glnamcgr
I asked AI to find this article. It found it in an article from a medical magazine. I get the gist, so didn't ask for it. AI is sending me an article on DEXA scans and alternatives to meds. I am using resistance bands, go to Pilates and take calcium & magnesium glycinate. I've just had it with side effects. My friend's doc told her, "If you're not going to take my medicine, then you don't need a bone density scan." My specialist said essentially the same thing to me. I told my internist and he said he could order it for me.
I just came off of Prolia after 1 injection. I had really bad muscle cramps afterwards.
Thanks for your input.

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@kristie2
Prolia prevents the bones from releasing calcium. In this way it causes low serum calcium.

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@gently
Thanks for the tip. Yes, I've had spasms in my legs and low back twice from the Prolia. I forgot my calcium for 2 days once, when I had too much going on, and the other happened when I inadvertently skipped my calcium, and had stopped taking Prolia after one injection. It was painful and embarrassing as I was in my dentist's waiting room. She gave me some Tylenol and it helped enough for me to drive home. I've had 2 dentists tell me that they see enough osteonecrosis that makes them think it's under reported. I personally know 2 women, in my small world, who've had osteonecrosis. I just keep as positive as I can.

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@glnamcgr
I asked AI to find this article. It found it in an article from a medical magazine. I get the gist, so didn't ask for it. AI is sending me an article on DEXA scans and alternatives to meds. I am using resistance bands, go to Pilates and take calcium & magnesium glycinate. I've just had it with side effects. My friend's doc told her, "If you're not going to take my medicine, then you don't need a bone density scan." My specialist said essentially the same thing to me. I told my internist and he said he could order it for me.
I just came off of Prolia after 1 injection. I had really bad muscle cramps afterwards.
Thanks for your input.

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@vagirl57 The article, “How a bone disease grew to fit a Prescription” can be found on npr.com all things considered.

And, yes, I believe it is common practice for doctors to disallow a DEXA scan if you tell them you’re not interested in bone meds. I’m sure I will never be able to get another one, nor do I want one. I’m going to assume my bones will continue to deteriorate, but I’m also going to continue to build stronger and stronger muscles, which will improve my strength and balance. Continue living my life to the fullest and pray that I don’t fall!

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@drterri Your post makes me sad for you! I have a couple more months than you since I was diagnosed with severe osteoporosis at 60 following a pelvic fracture for no reason. I certainly took it as a major wakeup call and fear was definitely a factor. I truly believe the antidote for fear is knowledge. You sound as if you are on the path to acquire some. Your specialist will test to make sure there is not an unexpected reason for the osteoporosis. With that information on board, they will work out the best drugs to start you with. There are many choices. Much talk is about the side effects of the drugs, but you must always remember that by far the majority of users have none! And they are rarely sharing that in chat groups as they are out living their lives!
I, too, felt quite 'exposed' until I started my medication. I tried to focus on what I could control; I started tracking my Calcium intake to ensure that I reached my target every day. I made sure I was getting adequate Vit D and I did research to get educated and be a partner in my own health journey. Your history of marathon running means your balance and flexibility is probably high which means you have a much, much smaller fall risk than someone else. Believe in yourself and try to stop sabotaging by walking stiffly.
There is strong evidence that weight based exercise will increase bone strength, but I have chosen not to start that until my medication has been on board for a few months and then I will be only doing it under supervision from an experienced exercise physiologist to reduce the risk of harm. In the meantime, like you, lots of walking and I also do pool based running to improve my flexibility and core strength.
It has forced me to really evaluate what I want to achieve with my remaining healthy years and perhaps brought some decisions forward as whether you have OP or not, none of us have any idea what is in store for us. I am excited at the possibilities and hope you can find some future plans to look forward to.

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Understood. I'm in the same place as you..a lot of fear. I don't like the side effects of drugs and my nurse daughter keeps telling me to stay offline. Not easy to do. I hope you figure it all out.

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