Recent Stage 4 Colon Cancer diagnosis

@jamaler, what treatment is being recommended for you? How are you doing?

Hey, @randyw2025. I thought I'd check in to see how you're doing. Can I ask how old your kids are? How are holding up?

I have a 6 year old girl 11 year old boy and 18 year old boy. We are doing alright. I decided to do my best to live like nothing is wrong until the oncologist tells me something new. The treatments and the consequences of those treatments are just something that I adapt to and overcome. My wife struggles with fear of the bad news. I try not to think about it.

Si usted cree que hay un ser superior, piense en eso y tenga fe ha habido muchos casos como el suyo y han salido adelante en esto, solo tenga fe.

My logic part of my brain takes charge here… the amount of people with my condition at my age is like .00001 percent of the population. Oncologists can’t give me a real survivability rate at 5 years because there isn’t a whole lot of data. However, the data that exists shows about a 1 in 6 chance of surviving 5 years… maybe I’ll be the 1… or maybe the same like that got me in this position will continue and I’ll be gone before I get to 46… it’s hard to fight the logic

@randyw2025 Hi,
My husband was diagnosed with stage 3 colon cancer, we have 3 kids same as your kids age, younger one girl I was shkcked and in fear eventhough I am a regi Nurse. But trust in Lord changed everything. Keep your trust in Lord God. Let her fear turns into Trust. My husband had surgery in April. Just completed 10 rounds of Folfox. Even if my problems are like mountains, My Lord is bigger than them.
God Bless You.

I believe God busted me down for something he needs of me. I don’t worry. I find it frustrating having to deal with her fear while dealing with my physical problems and trying to keep pressing forward. I told my wife we can’t worry about the efficacy of the treatment until we know if it’s working. Even then we pivot to whatever is next and keep pushing forward. Once the battle is either won or the end is coming, you prepare accordingly. I’ve gone into overdrive with the energy and good days I have preparing things for my family if God decides it’s my time.

@randyw2025 yes, we just have to deal what’s in front of us the very best we can….and I found peace of mind knowing I had taken care of legal and financial matters for my POA/ Health proxy (a kind and generous relative).Then I could go into the mode needed to deal with a scary diagnosis. Besides, doing that stuff was a good distraction, though it took a kind of grit i didn’t know I had.

I compartmentalize really well. I find it hard to bring people into my world. Hard to explain how I feel about it because unless I am directly addressing it, it's another Tuesday just a little under the weather ya know. When I stop and think about it. I grieve who I was like a year ago.. 3 months ago.. hell the day prior to my diagnosis I was workin a heavy bag in my driveway in 95-degree heat. Now, if I think about sweating I have a really hard time dealing with dehydration and can't run half a mile without feeling like I'm going to throw up. I have anger bubbling just under the surface. I don't smoke, don't really drink. I exercised regularly. And BOOM no more of that nonsense. I was diagnosed 2 days after I was given an approved retirement date after spending 20 years in the military... I had made it.. ahh just kidding you get to deal with this nonsense.

I suggest to connect with Colon town. Lots of very good informational videos and people are very good at digging up data on clinical trials. Here is a research of those one of the colontown people dug up. Good to look at more options for down the road. I do that as a stage IV colon cancer patient. It is important to know your tumor mutations to research the trials. And fear is normal, perhaps give your wife the job to scour the internet, listen to Colontown providers videos. It helped my husband cope with the fear and anxiety over my diagnosis. Hope this helps