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Prostate Cancer Incontinence: What products do you use? Tips?
My husband had successful prostate cancer surgery in 2003 at age 53. In 2025 at age 77 he is becoming more incontinent but he feels worth the price to be alive all these years. He uses Depends and has to change frequently but wonders if anyone experiencing this same outcome has any other better methods or product they use. He does kegel exercises everyday and wants to stay away from surgery. He thinks it is stress incontinence as he has no problems during the night.
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Thank you all for sharing. My radical prostatectomy was on 3 Oct, almost a month ago. Catheter out on the 17th. I have been going through about 2-3 pads a day. The urine stream has been very inconsistent, with some only dribbling and some pretty strong. Today, I was unable to control/feel the leaks as much and it happened much more. And there was some pressure in the bladder, but no urge to go; only mostly dribbles, little flow, when I tried to pee. And I have not yet had a hard urge to pee, even when I feel that I have to go. Is the inconsistent flow and light urge something others have experienced?
@davederousseau Hang in there dude. It takes some time with some inconsistencies that get frustrating. Kegels DO help. I am two+ years post RARP and had leakage bad for first couple of months. About month 3 it started getting a little better and by the end of month 4 I was using light pads and by end of month 6 I was nearly dry all the time except for stress incontinence (sneezing, coughing, lifting etc). Now two years out, I still wear a light pad in the daytime, but most days stay completely dry. It is insurance and doesn’t bother me. I don’t use anything at night. Good luck, it is a journey.
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hang in there it takes time
the research ( the 'good' research not commercial research for example the American Academy of Urology and NIH put an average of just under a year for most men following RARP. I am at month ten getting better very slowly with periods of regression
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Thanks for the quick and detailed replies. Just a bit frustrated and worried about the inconsistency. Kegels will continue and I believe it will improve. Time. My wife keeps reminding me it has been less than a month as well. Best to you both and a great November weekend to all.
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2 ReactionsTena #3 pads are much better than Depends.
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1 ReactionDitto. My husband just started using Tena after doing some research on best pads. Better than Depends. Less bulky and sides prevent soiling of underwear.
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1 Reaction@script72
Another vote for Tena.
But buy one packet initially, to test out.
It's a shame you can't order free samples up there.
I did.
If buying pants, buy the navy ones. Please.
*Edit
Canada offers free samples
https://www.tena.ca/en/tena-samples
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2 Reactionsanother vote for Tena
I have tried others tena outperforms
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3 ReactionsAnother Tena endorsement.Men’s Sensitive Extra Coverage. 90 pads for $39.99 on Amazon ($.44/pad). Since these pads do not show under any of my cloths it makes sense to buy the most absorbent ones.
Hi All,
I am six weeks out from RARP and doing reasonably well with incontinence. From the start I have used Depends and found they work well for me. My question is how do you know if you are ready to switch to pads? Since Depends has worked well, I am very comfortable using them and a bit nervous about switching to the Tena pads some of you are recommending. Thanks@