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Parents abusing one child, loving the others.
As the parents abused the one child, they are teaching her siblings to also abuse that same child! She becomes the black sheep of the family. Hearing this from her dad she will grow up never to amount to anything! But does grow up to have a great. Life, is beautiful! But her family made her adult life at time horrible , making false claims to the cobs, telling her, if she hangs with this person she can’t hang with them. Making fun of her every time they get together. Not caring when she had cancer. Always talking behind her back with lies. And so mush more. At what point will this sister ever get her time to stand up for herself? Because she stands alone, there’s four of them. They never see her side, so she just takes it. Even though she knows what’s right and wrong! Her dad sexually assaulted her as her mom watched! But they all lied, said it never happened to protect there mom, made her look stupid! Her grandfather also sexually assaulted! She was alone growing up! But somehow she had great faith in GOD! She married a great man she said he is a gift from GOD so she would know how to love and feel loved! She also had 2 daughters, who she was the best mom, one grew up to hate her. But her sisters got to her daughter told her lies about her mom! The daughter believed the lies, over her mom! The other daughter is disabled but has the best mom! Why does this person have so much to deal with, she is now suffering some hard health problems! Plus everything else! She hasn’t seen or talk to her family for 15 years, still hears from other the rumors they are passing around! Her mom’s second husband die she didn’t include her in the obituary as a daughter . She still calls the cops on her about once every 3 years. She remains silent! Why can’t the leave her alone? She has left them alone! She lives in a small town people talk, and she hears the rumors! It’s getting harder and harder, she wants to her life back she would move, her husband doesn’t! Her sisters are out spoken she isn’t all her life she has put down she really doesn’t have a voice in her family! But doesn’t think they are worth her time! She just want peace! But fears it can never happen! Why?
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I am sorry, at the end of my letter I was so tired, I should’ve posted anything! I made so many mistakes! Please forgive me!
No need to apologize. You needed to express yourself. This is a great place for that. Who we are is a combination of mind, body, and spirit. Finding our center requires healthiness in all three.
I cannot entirely relate to your experience, however, I know how it feels to be different in the family. It can be so isolating. The rest of the family develops a resentment towards you because you do not want to bend to their will. That means you are stronger than them. Like a bully, they antagonize you because they want you to respond. They want you to feel the smallness of their own lives. They thrive in a world of hate because of their deep self-loathing. The best response to this is to live in a world of love. To be surrounded by those who care.
I do hope your post made you feel a little better. Putting things down in writing can be therapeutic.
Isolation was what I was looking for, I didn’t want to communicate with them. They would come up with new ideas to pick on me, calling me names. Laughing at me for crying, making up lies even my parents! I was hated I couldn’t understand why! I had a collapsed lung, a cut above my eye, I would never sit on my dad’s lap without crying! I had pneumonia at 9 mos. In the hospital for 10 days. My mom never visited me. My dad did on his short lunch brake. I do believe the doctors were suspicious, my dad talked about an arguments he had with the doctors and pulled me out of the hospital! I only found out about some of this just a few years ago! I have a collapsed trachea every time I exhale! It’s so hard to do anything! When my lung or lungs collapsed I tried so hard to breathe I damaged my trachea! They never took me to the hospital or doctors so the fact I even survived was a miracle in itself!
As I get older they are weakened again, I struggle all the time to breathe!
I would go in my closet when everyone would be sleeping at night and cry! I would pray with all that I had in me, God would please take me home! As I got older I would dream of running away! But I knew I never could! I knew he would find me, really hurt me then! I believe to this day he would have. In our living room where he sat every day he had 4, 5 maybe 6 rifles with a box of bullets next to the rifles. He had me against the wall one night by my neck, slapped me I had his hand print on my face for hours! My mom again watched. he had taken to many of his pain medications started yelling at me for not changing the channel on the tv fast enough!!
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