I've lost all motivation, no sex drive, depressed. Ideas?

I had surgery in September 2019. I was put on Viagra after the catheter was removed. I take it every morning like a vitamin. That gives me a 4-hour window for activity. If I go past that, I have taken a second pill. They take about 45 minutes to kick in. I don't think I'd have much success without them and at 30 cents a pill, how could I go wrong? It was explained to me, if you don't use it, you'll lose it. I also bought a penis-extending device for $500 to maintain length during the healing process.

I am writing from Scandinavia. I had mine prostatectomy on 23rd Nov 2018. While catheter was on, I had mild erections, but these were weak for penetration. Viagra was prescribed but I had headaches and there was not much effect but by 25 Dec I had my first sex but still realised erection did not last more than 6mins. They then changed it 5mg Cialis daily. I realised an improvement. I contacted the hospital and they supplied me with penis pump. This was used in combination with 5mg Cialis from January – March 2019. Anytime I was about to take my bath I used the penis pump to make sure I had blood into the penis – just a way to exercise the penis. In April I stopped using the penis pump as I could now be on the 5mg Cialis. In June I had an appoint with the oncologist and suggested I needed a 20mg Cialis. This time it was not taken daily but on days I planned having sex. I was on 20mg Cialis till the end of 2019. Since 2020 January I do not use the Cialis any longer and I have a normal erection.
I would suggest you try the medication and penis pump. I am already on a hypertension and allergy medication, so I did not even notice taking that additional tablet of Cialis as cumbersome. I was told that there are some sponge-like tissues in the penis. If these are starved of blood for some time, they become inactive. Therefore, I chose to use the penis pump as a way of exercising the penis in addition to male Kegel exercises prescribed by the hospital.
Wish you the best.

HI, I understand your situation. I had surgery in 1995 at age 49 and lost libido, and the ability get a useful erection. I tried viagra, pump, shots into penis, and finally settled for a penile implant. I find the implant very convenient and useful. I noticed that one of the participants used a Cialis regimen with a pump to keep things alive and eventually returned to a new state of normal. If it were available at the time of my surgery, I would have tried that too. In the meantime you might consider getting our book “Making Love Again – Hope for Couples regaining intimacy” it is available on Amazon. I’m not trying to promote book sales, but I think you’ll appreciate the roller coaster journey we shared. Keith Laken