1. < Caregivers
Profile picture for cwendel77

Need transplant, don't have a caregiver: How to find a caregiver?

Posted by cwendel77 @cwendel77, Nov 13, 2022

I have been on the kidney transplant list for 2 years. My wife was going to be my primary caregiver after surgery and my mom agreed to be my secondary. Now, things have changed and neither are an option for me. I don't have any friends or coworkers that would take that role either. Are there any options for someone in my position?

Interested in more discussions like this? Go to the Caregivers Support Group.

Profile picture for Jennifer
Jennifer | @jenniferla | Aug 2, 2025
In reply to @jjones2025 "Hello to All and best wishes, I had kidney failure in May 2023, after a couple..." + (show)
Profile picture for jjones2025 @jjones2025

Hello to All and best wishes,
I had kidney failure in May 2023, after a couple of months I was approved for the waiting list. My wife tested and actually matched me,I now have a living donor. Several family members all volunteered to be the caregiver. Now roughly six months later, each one has had a life event or commitment or just can'tor WON'T. I feel lost. The excuses we're I'm going through a divorce (friend), my job will fire me (son), I can't miss church (mother), It's peak COVID season (niece), your mother doesn't like being alone (dad), I got a new job (sister), I'm looking for a job (step-daughter), I just started a bowling league (daughter in law), it's not my problem (son in law).
Any suggestions?

Jump to this post

I have 6 years experience taking care of my Dad through his heart attacks and LVAD surgery. I was approved by the VA to be his caregiver with stipend. He recently “fired” me as his health his worsening and other family members took over.

REPLY
View MoreView Less
Please sign in or register to post a reply.