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My gf thinks she's pregnant because someone touched her butt..
I have OCD and this is triggering me too. Not in the way she's been triggered though but I need help.
I don't want advice on how to reassure her. Reassurance doesn't help but no reassurance doesn't help either. Nothing helps and I need new advice
So I live with my gf and her boyfriend (polyamory. I don't wanna hear anything about it)
I don't have the parts to get her pregnant.
Said bf touched her bare butt and she's like "omg what if he had sperm on his hands and it somehow made its way down and now I'm pregnant"(????)
Which isn't possible.
Doctors have told her it's not possible.
She said she didn't believe them. She doesn't believe me.
She's lashing out at me because I keep reminding her it's not possible
She's freaking out
She's 2 steps away from doing something stupid (yes I will call someone if I think she's in a genuine danger)
The funny part is she just started her period. The butt touching happened yesterday
She told me telling her the same thing over and over doesn't help and to try something new (?? I don't know what's new)
Her period always makes her ocd worse. Every month is stressful because of that.
I don't know how to help her. I need help please help me. I'm scared for her wellbeing.
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@emi00309, it sounds like the actual issue worrying about pregnancy is resolved. However, the underlying triggers for both of you remain volatile, ready to flare at any time. The unpredictability of that situation must be hard.
At the same time, I find your description of the whole situation very articulate. You appear to be able to see the situation somewhat rationally, even when some of her expressions or beliefs may be irrational and you're feeling worn out and worried.
Your first concern is her immediate wellbeing. Has she found some peace and acceptance that she's okay now that she started her period? How might you focus on your own self care?
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2 ReactionsFunny enough her period did not stop her from worrying about pregnancy 🙁
It is hard and I feel like I don't know how to cope with it ATM. I can't even get therapy because my insurance keeps screwing me over and being unhelpful.
While I have OCD I can see her OCD very rationally and her triggers realistically which doesn't always help her. And when that doesn't I feel lost and confused. I am tired. I am worn out. She knows this and feels awful and is trying to fix the issue but unfortunately it's not an overnight thing.
She seems to have gotten better because her boyfriend very clearly told her "I did not have sperm on my hand..I would not lie to you about that"but I'm still scared.