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Struggling mentally post op. Feeling isolated

Posted by kandidubrall @kandidubrall, Jul 14, 2023

I am starting to struggle mentally , post op 5 mouths. Still not being able to go any where ,gets very lonely . Not on medications but I cry alot these days

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kandidubrall | @kandidubrall | Jul 16, 2023
In reply to @mitfit "I experienced the same thing for many months post op. I think it is common. We..." + (show)
@mitfit

I experienced the same thing for many months post op. I think it is common. We cannot do what we are accustomed to and it’s a huge adjustment. Socialization is so important to our wellbeing.

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I take alot on the phone but I miss going out and be social

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kandidubrall | @kandidubrall | Jul 16, 2023
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@andytheman

Crying is good for the soul. But you need to do more than that. You need professional help or advice. Make an appointment to see a psychiatrist or psychologist. It would help get you out of your cocoon. It’s not easy but you can’t just cry and do nothing else. You have to help yourself. If I seem harsh that is not my intention but get some mental help or it will just get worse

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I see a counselor by video but I would like to see her more

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kandidubrall | @kandidubrall | Jul 16, 2023
In reply to @andytheman "Crying is good for the soul. But you need to do more than that. You need..." + (show)
@andytheman

Crying is good for the soul. But you need to do more than that. You need professional help or advice. Make an appointment to see a psychiatrist or psychologist. It would help get you out of your cocoon. It’s not easy but you can’t just cry and do nothing else. You have to help yourself. If I seem harsh that is not my intention but get some mental help or it will just get worse

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I see a counselor by video my insurance now will only let me have one appointment month

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@seekinginfo | @nrd1 | Jul 16, 2023

@kandidubrall-

Try to put a few small outings on your calendar that are doable for you at this time.

Can you find a local support group of some type?

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sisyphus | @sisyphus | Jul 16, 2023

Seems you r doing quite a bit. Great!
What I didn't get to see is TALKING with people...especially about the things/interests/hobbies you might've in common with them. After physical presence, the next best/important thing to feel socially connected is to be on the phone with a LIVE person .. to exchange jokes, insights, just-stuff.

I do short breaks with puzzles (I do wordle that appears in New York times and is a good challenge for our logical and word-memory skills. It feels good if you get an "Impressive or Splendid score" which is if u solve in 3 or 4 trials.

Good luck ...and the laughs section in Mayo Support are enjoyable too!

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retirement75 | @retirement75 | Jul 17, 2023

I’m struggling with this also. Not enough social and unable to recreate this because of health issues. I also have a therapist and a home care person who comes once a week for household jobs. I had a group of friends who were like my family that disappeared from my life. I haven’t been involved in a church but wonder if I might find someone to spend some time with me. Just an idea. No family nearby.

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heisenberg34 | @heisenberg34 | Jul 17, 2023

I am guessing that you do not have a spouse to keep you company. Or, kids nearby who can look into, You can my suggestions anyway you want, but, I would pick up a bible and start reading the encouraging words of Jesus in the Gospels. Then look to Paul's words in his letters. Try to find a local church, synagogue to become involved in. Serving others will often fill the void of lonliness. Realizing that you are never truly alone if you accept Jesus as your Savior. He will walk with you each day. Most churches have mid-week bible studies that you could become involved in.
If possible, join your local Y or some other local group where you can exercise, swim, and become engaged with others. Staying behind closed doors is no way to live your life. In Jesus' words. "Come to me all you who labor and I will give you rest". Prayers for your improvement!

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skullbasecancer4 | @skullbasecancer4 | Jul 17, 2023
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@kandidubrall

I had liver transplant, I walk in the morning and evening, unable to go out no one is wearing masks I have very low immunity, can’t get sick, need to have another procedure 10/2 doctor will not do it if I get sick I do video appointment with my counselor

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So sad that know one is masking ! So upset and has made my anxiety through the roof. I am
so sorry .

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kandidubrall | @kandidubrall | Jul 17, 2023
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@nrd1

@kandidubrall

Best advice I can give is stay as engaged as possible with friend/family visits and some type of activity in your community.

I would work with a professional for the situational anxiety/depression that post op health worry can bring. It is good to be able to process this through with someone who is trained.
It also allows you to not be in your own head with worry.

Do small things everyday that make you feel good about yourself. Even something small is a big step.

The professional talk/processing will be key.

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I have to take to everyone over the phone, none of my friends wear masks now, have to limit my exposure,
Thanks Kandi

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andytheman | @andytheman | Jul 17, 2023
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@kandidubrall

I see a counselor by video my insurance now will only let me have one appointment month

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My insurance provider has unlimited mental health coverage and that includes Telehealth.

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