M to F surgery: Anyone else transition? Feeling alone

Posted by dsjohnston53 @dsjohnston53, Oct 24, 2023

I had male to female reassignment surgery about 12 years ago. However, my surgeon caused a fistula, and I was on a colostomy for 13 months. They could not close the tear and ended up suturing my “vagina” shut. Obviously, very depressed. Would love to talk to someone who has experience the same as I feel very lonely. Thank you.

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Ray Kemble | @ray666 | Oct 24, 2023

Good gawd! I'm so sorry to hear that. I can't relate, but I thought –– since this board has been so sleepy lately –– I'd at least acknowledge your message so that you know it's been seen. I hope others see it and reply to you, too. I'll be watching. Take care! ––Ray (@ray666)

dsjohnston53 | @dsjohnston53 | Oct 24, 2023

In reply to @ray666 "Good gawd! I'm so sorry to hear that. I can't relate, but I thought –– since..." + (show)

Thanks for responding! I was hoping to get some information, obviously. Whatever, I’ll keep trying! Thanks again!

Colleen Young, Connect Director | @colleenyoung | Oct 31, 2023

Hi @dsjohnston53, you might find posts in this related discussion relevant for you:
- Has anyone had personal experience with rectovaginal fistula repair?
https://connect.mayoclinic.org/discussion/has-anyone-had-personal-experience-with-recto-vaginal-fistula-repair/
Was the colostomy reversed after 13 months? Is the suturing of the vagina permanent?

dsjohnston53 | @dsjohnston53 | Nov 1, 2023

In reply to @colleenyoung "Hi @dsjohnston53, you might find posts in this related discussion relevant for you: - Has anyone..." + (show)

Yes, she is no longer on the colostomy. Vagina was permanently suture shot. I was hoping to find others who have the same experience for her to connect to percent of support.

jeri444 | @jeri444 | Nov 4, 2023

Part of the reason I want a Vulvoplasty, it’s safer.

Colleen Young, Connect Director | @colleenyoung | Nov 5, 2023

In reply to @jeri444 "Part of the reason I want a Vulvoplasty, it’s safer." + (show)

Welcome, Jeri. All the best with the vilvoplasty. Are you having the surgery soon?

jeri444 | @jeri444 | Nov 5, 2023

In reply to @colleenyoung "Welcome, Jeri. All the best with the vilvoplasty. Are you having the surgery soon?" + (show)

I would like to have it in June. I am a retired teacher but still work as a para until in 62. So it will give me the summer to recover if I can get it done in early June. I have my consultation this week on November 10. I am so excited.
Jeri

jeri444 | @jeri444 | Nov 5, 2023

In reply to @jeri444 "I would like to have it in June. I am a retired teacher but still work..." + (show)

I work with Plume with my HRT Therapy. I have already been able to change my name and gender. I so look forward to having the Volvoplasty. I might still do facial surgery but I think that will be enough other than working on my voice.
Each of us needs to choose what is right for us. I am happy to be on this journey.
Jeri. She/Her/ Hers

dsjohnston53 | @dsjohnston53 | Nov 6, 2023

Best of luck to you! I am looking for a physician or endocrinologist to help with HRT. You mentioned Plume. Is that a doctors name or what? . You are fortunate to have so many options today, when I transitioned 12 years ago, it was very different. I am happy you’re enjoying the journey!

jeri444 | @jeri444 | Nov 6, 2023

In reply to @dsjohnston53 "Best of luck to you! I am looking for a physician or endocrinologist to help with..." + (show)

Thanks, Plume is an organization, they have Sr’s and help you get your HRT, I wirk with a doctor there named Latasha Warren who is wonderful. They cost $99 a month or with insurance only $40..
Thanks Again,
Jeri. she/her/hers

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