Loss and grief resulting from death of a pet

Posted by mojosteve1961 @mojosteve1961, Dec 16, 2020

Something that doesn't get talked about often is loss and grief resulting from the death of a beloved pet. I've been through this, it's almost as devastating as the loss and grief of a loved person in your life. I had to have to have my beloved cat, Pepe, put to sleep because he was too ill to carry on a meaningful existence. This cat was MORE than JUST a cat to me. He was my best buddy, always there to greet me when I would come home. He never left my side, except to eat or use his litter box. He sat and slept right next to me on our couch, and would often come into my bedroom at night and sleep right up by my face in the crook of my arm. So, when he passed I was devastated. I went in with him when he was put to sleep, to comfort him, and to give ME closure. Knowing that, yes, he was no longer with us. It took me a couple weeks to REALLY get over his death. I went through periods of anger and denial. I checked out a couple books from my local library on how to deal with the loss of a beloved pet. These books, although I don't recall their titles,(this was over 11 years ago) were very helpful in dealing with my loss. I've read about, and have actually READ parts of Fred Rogers' (Mr. Rogers Neighborhood) book on dealing with the loss off a pet, and the parts I've read are fantastic. Wonderfully gentle, kind, and caring. Does anyone else want to share their experience(s) in losing a beloved pet? Thank you for your time.

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I am so sorry for your loss.
You say you fail to see how people can grieve the loss of humans unless they were blemish free as much?
If I got that correctly, I can tell you that NO human is blemish free. That said, I have now lost my father, mother and best friend (lifelong) and the grief, especially for my mother has been unbelievable. Was she blemish free? No. No one is. But she was a good, loving parent and I will forever miss her.
If I have, in any way, misunderstood your post, you have my apologies.
Again: your point about animals being innocent, loving and pure in their love for us was not lost on me. I get it as much as I can, given I have not grieved a pet.
I believe grief gets better over time, but that it never totally ends.
I am much better, but there are times. We carry their memory until we are gone.
Take care

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I said largely, not entirely. I think most close familal and intimate human relationships are fraught with moments of what I call slight betrayals, frustrations, misunderstandings and fights. Albeit repairs are made, the scars are there. Those for me tend to get in the way to the pure unadulterated love that I have for my pet, which is free of that. I for example have not felt moments of "unloved" by my pet, I have not felt not considered by my pet. I have not felt even the slightly bit betrayed by my pet. Those complexities with human relationships make it much harder for me to completely grieve a loss to the extent that I have with my dog. I have not lost a family member that has played a significant role in my life, so only time will tell, but to me because I know that the relationship with my dog is so uncomplicated and so pure, I do think that this is likely the most devastating loss I will experience of my family members. I either don't know them well enough to grieve them deeply, or I have complicated relationships with them, that I think it eclipses the full extent of grief that I will endure with them. Again this is me, I am not saying this as a generality for anyone.

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I have loved and lost so many pets that i call our back yard the pet cemetary. They have all given unconditional love, never expecting anything in return. I adored them all!! I also have 2 urns, one for my cat and one for my dog. I still grieve for them!!!

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