I grew up with an abusive older brother, and parents that did not protect me. Now, with my bad health I am back living with my parents. Just a few years ago I broke and confronted them all. It went very poorly, although I was very fair, and mostly even tempered. Since, I have disconnected from my brother. Anyway, my daily struggle is trying to interact with my parents. My dad has always been emotionally unavailable. He pisses me off a lot with his arrogance, lack of contributing, and total self -centeredness. Ive recently been working on letting that go, the relationship i always wanted with him.
It helps to think of him as handicapped, his limits of interacting as a human do not near match mine.
My mom and i have a love/hate relationship. Shes very closed off and rigid. She can still be verbally abusive, although im always the bad guy.
They just dont have enough touch with reality. My mom tries to will problems away, ignore them, then they arent real.
Right now im tolerating a lot, trying not to say anything, not wanting confrontation. But still setting boundaries and standing up for myself in a right way when need be. My heart pulled in every direction. Confusion. Hurt. How can they not see such simple things? The truth?
Its extremely difficult when they cant even talk about a problem. To work through it. But what do i know??…ive only been in therapy over half my life..
They wont go.