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Hi, 49 year old women who needs help. I keep staeling. I have to stop, it is ruining my life. HOW. I do not know what or how to stop. Can someone please help me stop destroying my life and my families.
Stealing is a maladaptive method of dealing with stressors many times depression. People start off by rewarding themselves and if not caught they begin to experience a sense of euphoria, a lift in mood, a sense of the risks associated with breaking the law and getting away with being worthwhile.
If you are stealing for resale to maintain another habit like drug addiction then I would recommend drug treatment and if you’re stealing to fill a void or to cope with a stressful and unhappy life I would suggest treatment from a mental health professional. Or, if you have a co-occuring disorder you will need to address both!
I admire your honesty and your insight that people including yourself are suffering but the real issue to be confronted is the casual factors behind your stealing.
I hope you look for help in your community. Here if you need additional support!
What happened? Are you ok?
Does not want help. Feel for the person but if you know you are destroying family get help.
Hi China welcome . In this situation I feel that they do want help. I feel this situation with the stealing may be a cry for help. Wouldn’t have posted if not in need.I am always here and other members are if you need us Piglit
Hi just wanted you to know that we are here if you need us. So glad that you have come on and taked about the situation that you are facing. Please think of your family and also think of you. It is so important that you talk to someone. Please try and find a counsellor in your region to help you. Always here if you need me. Take Care Piglit
Sorry my day was bleak and intention did not include being insensitive. A nerve was struck because my dad would give us allowance then steal it to buy his drugs.
I want to be helpful to but destroying your life compared to the entire family unit really strikes a nerve that should be let go I guess. Thanks
Hi China Please don’t ever think that I think that you are not a sensitive person, I am so sorry for what.you have been through with your Dad. It must be very hard for you.It is so hard to let go sometimes and in this situation my dear you just need to give yourself time. You are helpful and never think that you aren’t. You have openly and honestly talked to us, and are very much appreciated. We all care for you as you do for us Take care Piglit
This post caught my eye and thought I would answer. A number of years ago I knew a wonderfully kind lady. She was a good mother (I had her daughter in a couple of my music classes) and she had a very nice husband. The neighboring small towns knew of this lady’s habits and would simply call the husband who would then either return the item(s) or pay for them. This went on for several years. She got to the point where she had a nervous breakdown and had to be committed for a few weeks. Had she had proper psychiatric help, as she realized later, this would not have happened. She recuperated, was put on meds, and thanks to a lot of friends, is still to this day — doing just fine!! Please don’t tell yourself “I can’t”…tell yourself “I will get the right help and I WILL be OK!” :)
I would NEVER EVER judge you!! We know this is a real problem and that you WOULD ‘stop it’ if you could on your own. You can…but you do need really GOOD help from a trained professional… not just a good listener or a priest/minister. Loving wishes to you.
Hoping things have improved for you.
I hope too that things are better for you. Take care Piglit
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