Managing Lifelong Mental Health as a Senior

Posted by georgette12 @georgette12, Jan 13, 2017

I have just started using this site so this is my first message.

Interested in more discussions like this? Go to the Mental Health group.

@amberpep

Hi there and I add my “welcome” to all the others. This is a wonderfully safe place to come during those down times and in the up times. I, too, am a senior woman – 72 – and I just moved about 1-1/2 years ago from MD to VA to be closer to my 2 girls. I’ve been very unhappy here and wish I’d have stayed in MD, but what’s done is done, and now it’s for me to adjust. My kids don’t want to hear anything about how I’m feeling …. I think they’re afraid they’ll “catch” it. Well, it can be genetic ….. my mother was bi-polar and medicated herself with alcohol. She died at age 60 of liver failure. Watching all that, and growing up as an abused (in every form) only child, I have never touched a drop of alcohol. Being depressed at our ages isn’t easy but it isn’t for anyone. I guess I just thought that at 72, my life would be all peaches and roses (WHAT was I thinking???), and, surprise, it’s not. But, on we trudge my friend ….. just know you’re not alone. There are a lot of us out here, older folks dealing with depression. You’ve got plenty of company, my friend. Stick with us ….. you’ll find these people safe and wise.
abby

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So sorry about that sleep problem. It’s awful when that happens.

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@amberpep

Hi there and I add my “welcome” to all the others. This is a wonderfully safe place to come during those down times and in the up times. I, too, am a senior woman – 72 – and I just moved about 1-1/2 years ago from MD to VA to be closer to my 2 girls. I’ve been very unhappy here and wish I’d have stayed in MD, but what’s done is done, and now it’s for me to adjust. My kids don’t want to hear anything about how I’m feeling …. I think they’re afraid they’ll “catch” it. Well, it can be genetic ….. my mother was bi-polar and medicated herself with alcohol. She died at age 60 of liver failure. Watching all that, and growing up as an abused (in every form) only child, I have never touched a drop of alcohol. Being depressed at our ages isn’t easy but it isn’t for anyone. I guess I just thought that at 72, my life would be all peaches and roses (WHAT was I thinking???), and, surprise, it’s not. But, on we trudge my friend ….. just know you’re not alone. There are a lot of us out here, older folks dealing with depression. You’ve got plenty of company, my friend. Stick with us ….. you’ll find these people safe and wise.
abby

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Dr. Had put me on prednisone so I just left it off and slept well last night. I just can’t take it.

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When you go through mental illness it is a life changing experience. I know it has been for me. All we can do is be strong and talk to our Lord and ask for his strength and ask for him to hold you in his arms. I get great comfort from that.
Your in my prayers
Patti

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@brit

When you go through mental illness it is a life changing experience. I know it has been for me. All we can do is be strong and talk to our Lord and ask for his strength and ask for him to hold you in his arms. I get great comfort from that.
Your in my prayers
Patti

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Patti, you are so right about trusting in the Good Lord. He loves all of us and wants us to be well and happy. I know he does give me strength!
Rick

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Rick so happy that you read my mail. It isn’t always easy to put your entire “self” into one great Man but sometimes its what it takes. Please talk to him every day and thank him for getting you through these difficult time…….promise he will come through for you.
Patti

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@hopeful33250

Hello @georgette12 and welcome to Mayo Connect. You have joined a wonderful online community of folks who are interested in health topics and sharing information about what has helped and encouraged them. Please feel free to share with us as to what brought you to Mayo Connect. Is there a specific health issue you or a family member/freind is dealing with? All of us came to Mayo Connect as a result of some health-related issue and we have found support and help along the journey. We look forward to getting to know you! Best wishes. Teresa

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You will find caring loving people here. So glad to have you and hear what you have been going through. I am also person that suffers mental illness. My Mother and Sister have had it for years. But you know something…………sometimes when you share your thoughts and feelings it lifts a big burden from your body. You will hear from a lot of very special people and they are eager to help.
God Bless you and keep you strong.
Patti

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Hi, I only just joined and have not a clue why other than I am old and have treatment resistant depression and PTSD. Other things too. Also feeling foolish coming here.

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@parus

Hi, I only just joined and have not a clue why other than I am old and have treatment resistant depression and PTSD. Other things too. Also feeling foolish coming here.

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@parus Welcome and please never feel foolish for coming to a discussion group. We are pleased to have you! It sounds like you belong here given your history of “treatment resistant depression and PTSD.” If you are comfortable sharing more about yourself, we would love to get to know you. Feel free to share what kinds of treatments you have had for your depression and/or how PTSD affects you. Teresa

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@hopeful33250

Hello @georgette12 and welcome to Mayo Connect. You have joined a wonderful online community of folks who are interested in health topics and sharing information about what has helped and encouraged them. Please feel free to share with us as to what brought you to Mayo Connect. Is there a specific health issue you or a family member/freind is dealing with? All of us came to Mayo Connect as a result of some health-related issue and we have found support and help along the journey. We look forward to getting to know you! Best wishes. Teresa

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Hello Rick @ricktrout

How are you feeling these days?

Teresa

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@hopeful33250

Hello @georgette12 and welcome to Mayo Connect. You have joined a wonderful online community of folks who are interested in health topics and sharing information about what has helped and encouraged them. Please feel free to share with us as to what brought you to Mayo Connect. Is there a specific health issue you or a family member/freind is dealing with? All of us came to Mayo Connect as a result of some health-related issue and we have found support and help along the journey. We look forward to getting to know you! Best wishes. Teresa

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Hello georgette: Same disease, different (?) circumstances perhaps. I’m 75 and I so relate. This is my first visit to the site and my first entry. It is comforting to find others to whom no explanation is needed. I didn’t know I had an illness until the late 80’s. I simply attributed my behaviors to being of poor character. Alcoholism (I’ve been sober 47 years), multiple sexual partners, three marriages but single since 1985. I knew back then no one should have to ‘put up with me’. Pre-menstrual times were pure insanity for me and all around me. My relationship with my two sons suffered to the point that I had no contact with one for almost twenty years; it’s been almost 35 years since my older son has visited me. They’ve both called me ‘crazy’ but don’t quite get that crazy is an illness over which I’ve no control.
I have two granddaughters I don’t know. And I don’t know how I am still alive. I do believe in God and that is the ONLY help I get. I have nothing to lean on but this. I wish I had a solution for you and for the younger people who’ve written in. Not by choice do we live in a world not of our choosing. Recently I went through about two months of Hell with as deep and dark a depression as I’ve ever experienced, desperately wanting to end my life and exploring online every form of suicide. Only through prayer was I able to slowly come out of it, sort of. It doesn’t leave…It only goes into hibernation. To outward appearances I am an intelligent, composed elderly lady. But the truth lies within.
No one but we understand the level of pain that mental illness creates. Thank you for this opportunity.

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@hopeful33250

Hello @georgette12 and welcome to Mayo Connect. You have joined a wonderful online community of folks who are interested in health topics and sharing information about what has helped and encouraged them. Please feel free to share with us as to what brought you to Mayo Connect. Is there a specific health issue you or a family member/freind is dealing with? All of us came to Mayo Connect as a result of some health-related issue and we have found support and help along the journey. We look forward to getting to know you! Best wishes. Teresa

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Hi melsy. Hi brit: I am seeing numerous messages posted months ago. I’ve just found this site and your messages are months old already. As a sober alcoholic for many decades I can relate and sympathize since depression and bi-polar are so common among our numbers. Mom, Dad and brother (all passed now) were all alcoholic. I was the only one who got sober. But, as we know sobriety was the ‘easy’ part. It is dealing with the illnesses that made us drink that are the true challenges.
It isn’t our imaginations that let us think that the world doesn’t understand.
Other than the addiction to alcohol we share the devastation of depression and bi-polar with others.
It is a lonely disease, isn’t it. Thank you everyone for being here. Thank God for standing by.
sharpei

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@hopeful33250

Hello @georgette12 and welcome to Mayo Connect. You have joined a wonderful online community of folks who are interested in health topics and sharing information about what has helped and encouraged them. Please feel free to share with us as to what brought you to Mayo Connect. Is there a specific health issue you or a family member/freind is dealing with? All of us came to Mayo Connect as a result of some health-related issue and we have found support and help along the journey. We look forward to getting to know you! Best wishes. Teresa

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Hello @chsharpei
I am glad that you found Mayo Connect and that you posted here. I appreciate your honesty in sharing your experiences and feelings in such an open, honest manner. You describe what many of our Members have talked about regarding the mask that many depressed people wear. Your phrase that “it only goes into hibernation” is very descriptive. I’m glad that you are on the other side of your 2 month battle with depression and hope that you continue to share with us at Mayo Connect. Also, congratulations on your 47 years of sobriety. What an accomplishment! I would like to invite some others into this conversation including volunteer mentors, @jimhd, @johnbishop, @windwalker and a moderator at Mayo Connect @lisalucier. I am sure that others will also join me in welcoming you to this conversation as well.

We look forward to getting to know you in the coming days.

Teresa

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