Anyone else feel Isolated and not go out due to chronic pain?

@denniesue if you had friends leave you because you are always in pain then they are not true friends. You sure it’s from chronic pain that is chasing them away? Do you sit and whine about your pain? Is that your only topic of conversation? I’m not saying you are saying it. I’m asking if you are. How is your behavior and how are your conversations with them? You may be driving them away without knowing you are. I do my best to not talk about what I’m going through. Just my husband knows. Sometimes they can see I’m really hurting but they do not see me complaining. I do apologize for being slower on my walks. I am working on trying to get better. Things like that I say to them. What happened to me is Covid. I had it bad and for a long time. It put me in a wheelchair for a year. I fought to get out and I got out but, I can’t lose the cane. My legs are still weak. My right one is better. So many things I used to do I cannot due still. I don’t complain. I say sorry guys, I have to pass. The legs aren’t quite like they use to be, yet.
6yrs later and I’m a bit stronger but I’m not 100% and it has destroyed my spine. I’m lucky to be walking now. Anyway. I don’t share unless they ask and how much do they want to know. I will not complain. My husband or grown children see my face and just watch me to make sure I don’t fall. I have a walker with all terrain wheels and it has a seat that I can rest on. It has brakes. I use them so I don’t fall and I lock them on when I’m resting on the seat. I’m still slow in walking and hoping I don’t fall with this apparatus so maybe I can push my legs more. I don’t complain. I do what I can and if I see them stopping waiting for me then I say sorry. The legs are still fighting with me. I’m with you in my head but the legs have the final say. They laugh. I make jokes about my disability. It lightens the mood and I don’t complain. I only complain to my doctors. Sometime I ask for help, that is not complaining. I thank them for their help and keep on moving on. If I can’t, I say have fun guys. This is my limit. Catch y’all later???

Is this what you do or is it all complaining? Did they just leave or did they hear your complaining all the time. Think and maybe change how you interact with them? If they ask you can say not a lot has changed, but I’m doing. Know what I mean? Sometimes I need a bit of help, but for the most part I get it done. I say thanks for asking. I’m doing alright. Still slow but I’m still working on getting a bit faster. How about yourself? Switch it on them. I bet they won’t mind being around you.

I pray for you and I pray your friends want to see you. So sorry for your struggles all around and no support system. I pray all this will change for the better for you. Remember, always be positive to everyone instead of your doctor. Be brutally honest with her/him. 🤪♥️💐