Importance of focusing on Positive with Depression & Anxiety.

Posted by BoneHead @stsopoci, May 27, 2019

In my journey with the millions of humans who are brave enough to go down the path of recovery without alcohol, bad drug and more drugs, I have gradually more and more discovered how important it is to crawl out of my deep hole, bad attitude, self-importance, feeling sorry for myself, angry, sad, etc, etc, condition and more toward the LIGHT!!! That means changing and moving for me away from some friends that are very negative about everything. That means walking around the block when I get upset so I can calm down and see the light. That means taking care of myself, exercising, eating right and meeting new friends and keeping old friends that are well-balanced. Positivity in life is available to everyone and it’s FREE. I have gone on a path throughout my early days of self-medicating with lots of alcohol, drug, etc. I cleaned myself up in 1996, OCT 13th but I still did not feel right until I could ask for help from a professional. Found out I was GAD (inherited from my MOM) and a few other close seconds. I went on medication for years on various meds until I found the chemical that keeps me pretty normal. BUT, BUT…something else was missing because I still suffered through the negativity of every situation that I could create in a moments time.

I love these groups because you are honest with yourself which is very important.
Finding good friends that understand you and the importance of staying positive with your journey through life.
Taking good care of yourself.
We all are unique so what works for me does not always work for you. I’m on 20mg of Lexipro.
What do other people do to stay positive?

Such a wealth of knowledge and information you have shared with me.
Knowledge is power so I will take all on board .
The accident happened on New Year’s Eve 1986.he was 36 .I was 28.and had 4little girls at the time
Youngest just 5months.
They are amazing girls,and want the best for their Mum now
Yes my husband is kept very busy
I got him a lovely greenhouse with double doors a year after his accident now lots of fruit etc grown and vegetables too,!
Now ,I need to focus on getting this Anxiety out of my life so I can be the best I can be
Thank you again..🥰

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@hearttoheart1 What’s the old axiom? With age comes wisdom or something like that. But you’re right, knowledge IS power. And you’re a true dear heart who possesses an enormous capacity for love, patience and understanding. What a wonderful role model for your daughters. The greenhouse for your husband was brilliant! I have no doubts you’ll tackle this anxiety head on and be the victor! Sending you positive vibes!

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@merpreb

Hi, @nla4625. Good afternoon, from the snowy east coast. Like you, I have suffered a lot of depression and PTSD during my childhood and adulthood. I agree that giving someone advice vs. sharing is much different. Not only do those statements hurt people but they sure made me very angry, which of course made me feel worse and feel guilty that I couldn't just snap out of it by opening the door and stepping outside.

When I feel like this, yes there are times that I still do, I take my dose of CBD oil for my anxiety. And I do take an anti-depressant and sometimes it's just not enough. When this happens I just wait it out if I can't get rid of it.

I am not a positive person by nature but have learned to think positively sometimes. I might say to myself, "It's only a few more minutes" or "this won't last forever." These might not seem very positive to others but for me, it works."

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Hi Merry @merpreb, @BoneHead, and @ginger. Thanks for your notes. My mantra that has extended over from my youth was "This too shall pass." A couple of things that helped me slog through depression, chronic fatigue, and debilitating headaches were (1) accepting the concept of enough…whatever I could do that day, even if it was just getting out of bed, was enough and (2) celebrating small accomplishments, such as avoiding a headache that day, as victories. As a former Type-A personality, these three illnesses almost literally stopped me dead in my tracks and forced me to change to cope with them. I agree that having a positive attitude makes a huge difference in everything we do and need to clarify that from my previous post. I just couldn't be positive when I was chronically depressed. People use the term depressed to mean sad, blue, low, etc; and a positive attitude and doing things to lift our spirits at such times definitely helps. I just hope they never experience episodes of major depression. Thanks again for your insights. Nancy

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@nla4625 Only those of us that have experienced major depression have any idea what it is like. I know I work hard at not allowing depression to reach that volume again. Not always easy either. Takes work on a daily basis. In 2013 the depression became so severe I became psychotic. Very frightening. I new what I was seeing and hearing weren't there yet I couldn't stop it. Fear can be a powerful thing. I did get through it and thankful for the things I have learned since then. Self care is important and not a selfish thing. Connect is a place of help and healing.

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@parus

@nla4625 Only those of us that have experienced major depression have any idea what it is like. I know I work hard at not allowing depression to reach that volume again. Not always easy either. Takes work on a daily basis. In 2013 the depression became so severe I became psychotic. Very frightening. I new what I was seeing and hearing weren't there yet I couldn't stop it. Fear can be a powerful thing. I did get through it and thankful for the things I have learned since then. Self care is important and not a selfish thing. Connect is a place of help and healing.

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@parus. I too work hard to hopefully avoid another episode of major depression. I use a light box during the winter and on gloomy days, take supplements, eat well, get enough sleep, and take breaks from the news. Whenever I make a major life move that could trigger another episode of depression, such as leaving the farm I loved in SE MN or leaving Minnesota, my chosen home of 40+ years, I plan and take a great adventure to ease the transition. Due to a problem I'm having with my lungs, I get breathless easily so don't get enough exercise. I have learned a lot from people on MayoConnect, particularly on the hearing site, that is really going to improve my quality of life once I feel it's safe to visit an audiologist and get a hearing aid. I'm glad you are taking care of yourself and hope neither of us ever has another bout of major depression. Thanks for your nice note. Nancy

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@nla4625

Hi Merry @merpreb, @BoneHead, and @ginger. Thanks for your notes. My mantra that has extended over from my youth was "This too shall pass." A couple of things that helped me slog through depression, chronic fatigue, and debilitating headaches were (1) accepting the concept of enough…whatever I could do that day, even if it was just getting out of bed, was enough and (2) celebrating small accomplishments, such as avoiding a headache that day, as victories. As a former Type-A personality, these three illnesses almost literally stopped me dead in my tracks and forced me to change to cope with them. I agree that having a positive attitude makes a huge difference in everything we do and need to clarify that from my previous post. I just couldn't be positive when I was chronically depressed. People use the term depressed to mean sad, blue, low, etc; and a positive attitude and doing things to lift our spirits at such times definitely helps. I just hope they never experience episodes of major depression. Thanks again for your insights. Nancy

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@nla4625– Good morning Nancy. Nancy, I find it interesting that you claim to no-longer be a type-A personality. How is this possible. I found that my anger and aggression increased when I was at the worst of my anxiety/depressive stage. Is there a trick that I missed?

I agree that doing things that people suggest, like having a positive attitude during very low times seems so impossible to me. At other times I think that I have a handle on it. Even with anti-anxiety and anti-depressant meds it sometimes breaks through. I believe that it's chemical. Zoloft and bupropion are good for me most of the time. I just hesitate to jump around trying others maybe 3 times during the year.

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@merpreb

@nla4625– Good morning Nancy. Nancy, I find it interesting that you claim to no-longer be a type-A personality. How is this possible. I found that my anger and aggression increased when I was at the worst of my anxiety/depressive stage. Is there a trick that I missed?

I agree that doing things that people suggest, like having a positive attitude during very low times seems so impossible to me. At other times I think that I have a handle on it. Even with anti-anxiety and anti-depressant meds it sometimes breaks through. I believe that it's chemical. Zoloft and bupropion are good for me most of the time. I just hesitate to jump around trying others maybe 3 times during the year.

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@merpreb. I'm not sure what a TypeA personality means to you or to a professional psychologist. I've never been aggressive or angry, although in my readings about depression I found some believe depression is anger turned inward. To me a TypeA personality is very competitive, controlling, driven to excel and succeed, leads rather than follows, handles numerous things well at the same time, and rarely takes time to relax and smell the roses. I used to be that way but found I couldn't do much of anything when I was depressed, suffering from horrendous headaches, or experiencing debilitating fatigue caused by chronic fatigue. I had no energy to do anything other than meet my basic needs and came to realize how much energy I had expended trying to control things, excel, do too much, compete, etc. I was forced to change my behavior and priorities by my depressions, headaches and chronic fatigue and than chose not to go back to my old ways when I was better. It's wonderful and freeing to let other people lead, solve their own problems, realize control is an illusion, and not having to compete, win or weigh my worth through what I achieve. I'm much happier not being a TypeA personality. I'm really in awe of all the medical issues you are dealing with and yet you spend so much of your time helping others on MayoConnect. Thank you! I'm glad you have your art and gardens. Spring is coming…
Take care. Nancy

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@dianrib

Broke sick open heart surgery, lonely Frozen.. I doubt I will be here after covid best to all

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@dianrib I wanted to check back. How are you doing?

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@parus

@nla4625 Only those of us that have experienced major depression have any idea what it is like. I know I work hard at not allowing depression to reach that volume again. Not always easy either. Takes work on a daily basis. In 2013 the depression became so severe I became psychotic. Very frightening. I new what I was seeing and hearing weren't there yet I couldn't stop it. Fear can be a powerful thing. I did get through it and thankful for the things I have learned since then. Self care is important and not a selfish thing. Connect is a place of help and healing.

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@parus– Welcome back. It is so good to hear your voice and read about your experiences. It really is very difficult to explain to someone what a dark pit depression is and how debilitating it can be. I find that sometimes I have to just ride the wave and let it be. Other times I find it easier to dig out.

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This anxiety has been raising its head too much , so I took myself off to the doctor.got overall check up and bloods done.
I’ve been having this wavy lighthead,and sore heart it is not my defibrilator ,so all is well there and it is the Anxiety.
I booked myself to see a reflexologist,but didn’t get to the reflexology part as the session was purely me talking, mostly crying but so therapeutic and beneficial, I will go back and I must say looking forward to it .
I need to keep up the walking but observe more of nature using all my senses.
I had given up crochet but recommended to start up again,she wants me to make some blankets for a nursing home near by.
It will make me happy to do this.
I will also make her one as a surprise for her couch
I am a bit more positive now. I need to keep strong and beat this and do what’s needed,to try to beat this ,or manage it better.
I have received great help from this forum,
My motto is now …Keep talking…keep walking..
Keep well
Happy Valentine’s Day to you all💖💖

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@hearttoheart1 Happy Valentine’s Day! This news is better than chocolates! (Well, almost…LOL). But you’ll always be able look back on this date and remember when you took control!
Heading to the doctor to rule out any underlying condition, then getting a clean bill of health had to be a huge relief! You said it yourself the other day, Knowledge is power! Now you can face this anxiety monster head on!
It sounds like you’ve found a wonderful therapist. Was she recommended to you? How often do you have appointments? She certainly wasted no time in giving you some tools to propel you forward. The idea of crocheting blankets for the nursing home is a special way for you to reengage with an activity you enjoy and use it to heal! It’s awesome that you’re making one for you therapist too! She’ll love it!
This is all so positive and uplifting to hear this morning. Thank you for sharing with us. You’re an inspiration for anyone suffering from anxiety! Armed with your new motto, you’re invincible!!
Keep talking…keep walking!! You’ve got this girl!! Wishing you continued success, Lori. 🤗

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@hearttoheart1

This anxiety has been raising its head too much , so I took myself off to the doctor.got overall check up and bloods done.
I’ve been having this wavy lighthead,and sore heart it is not my defibrilator ,so all is well there and it is the Anxiety.
I booked myself to see a reflexologist,but didn’t get to the reflexology part as the session was purely me talking, mostly crying but so therapeutic and beneficial, I will go back and I must say looking forward to it .
I need to keep up the walking but observe more of nature using all my senses.
I had given up crochet but recommended to start up again,she wants me to make some blankets for a nursing home near by.
It will make me happy to do this.
I will also make her one as a surprise for her couch
I am a bit more positive now. I need to keep strong and beat this and do what’s needed,to try to beat this ,or manage it better.
I have received great help from this forum,
My motto is now …Keep talking…keep walking..
Keep well
Happy Valentine’s Day to you all💖💖

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@hearttoheart1 Keep trying!👏

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