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I feel guilty about my caretakers taking care of me
Hi, I'm being treated at the Mayo Clinic, which is a wonderful experience. I'm staying at a hotel that has suites. My parents (father and stepmother) are my caretakers. My father has severe memory problems; he only knows why we are here when my stepmother and I tell him. I have a Glioblastoma. So, she's the caretaker for both of us.
Anyone else have this experience?
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I’m not being treated at the Mayo Clinic but I can somewhat relate. My parents have been helping out because currently I can’t drive due to my medical issues on top of the brain tumor. My dad has MS and so I have to rely heavily on my mom and husband. I often feel really guilty about leaning on them because it’s a lot on top of everything else going on with their health as well. But as a parent of three kids I know that if it were my kid going through this there is no place I’d want to be more. So remember that they are choosing to be there because they love you. They want you to be ok. I’m sorry to hear about your dad and I hope whatever health issues you’re going through you beat it. I know it’s hard to not feel guilty but you are allowed to have some grace right now and are allowed to ask for help.
I can understand that you might feel guilty for others taking care of you. But from a caregiver's perspective, I would not want to do anything else! Love rules. You need help right now and that's OK.