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I am having difficulty being intimate with my injured wife
Been together with my wife now for 22+ years. Have had her in my life longer than I have had without her. Due to her hip, Avascular Necrosis, she is in incredible pain all the time. Walking is almost impossible without a walker or just me helping her in a wheelchair.
But she still desires me, wants to have sex. We have had a very active one up until this point.
She is hurting mentally because we are not able to have sex as much and now going on three weeks. I still desire her but have a hard time staying in the mood when I know she is hurting. Or thinking that she isn't in pain currently if I move or do something wrong, lose myself I will cause her pain.
But by not being intimate with her is hurting her heart mind and soul. She thinks I will cheat because of this.
How do I overcome my fear of hurting her and just let go so we can be intimate again?
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From a different point of view, I am the one in pain and recovery. My wife and I were honest and communicated with one another. We developed a trust that I would not push myself too far as allowed or caused pain. We promised to trust that one may need a break, different position, or just a 30 second time out that we do the same. As of now it is not the physical passion that was previous, but it has a new dynamic of feeling close, intimate-you can still feel the love for one another. It's actually really great feeling when we can both be open and feel. We started very slow. Your wife's feeling are very understandable.
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1 ReactionWonderful teachers in Social psy of Sexual Behavior taught at college Level EVENING classes have many answers !Loving another is spirit to spirit ,mind to mind Then body to. body !
Enjoy each other for the other !