Hurt by Daughter’s Travel Plans

My married 34 daughter lives in VA and because of their busy work schedules, we usually don’t see her unless we travel back east. We were in DC mid-October for just a short trip related to my husband’s job. We rented a car for a few years and drove to their home, took them to lunch then returned to the airport. She texted me last weekend that they would be visiting her in-laws in Tucson to attend an AZ football game this weekend and hopefully they will have time to visit us. They arrived yesterday, will be leaving Tuesday morning and haven’t heard anything from her regarding seeing us. They visited in-laws in April, we found out about their trip after the fact. She was in Phoenix for business in May, visited with us one evening over dinner and also made arrangements to visit her in laws for a day in Tucson borrowing our car. I’m hurt, confused and sad that she goes out of her way to see them but can’t for us. I don’t know how to address this with her. I shared my feelings with her after the April trip and her response was that it was a short visit to attend the car races with them. We are only 90 minutes away from the in-laws and would be happy to drive there just to spend some time with her. I’m 68 and I can’t get her to understand that I don’t have many more years left and just seeing her for a short time is precious to me. This year isn’t unique…Am I being selfish?