How to stay positive when spouse has no energy

It will never be the same as it was before (at least not in my case), but you can get used to the new normal. If your husband is sad, speak to his doctor. This is something that they monitor when I go to see mine. Although I did have a double lung transplant, I would think it would be the same for all transplants.

Sure, you want things to be the way they used to be (or at least the way you remember them being). I'm 2 years post kidney transplant and what I'd like even better is for things to be the way they were 30 years ago! But I'm 78 years old and things aren't going to be the way they used to be and wouldn't be the way they used to be even if I didn't have CKD. Our lives are not static events frozen in time. I try to live as completely in the moment as I can. Yesterday's gone and tomorrow isn't here yet. I try to deal with what's here now and not worry about what isn't here. I'm still alive. I'm not on dialysis. I can try ot make myself feel better about myself by meeting challenges and try to find ways to make myself feel better about myself. Life can be tough but I still find it better than the alternative. Fight the good fight. You can do it

I am sure your husband would also like to return to a normal life too. There are many bumps in the road following a transplant. My surgeon said it best: “You have a condition and it’s called a transplant and you will have it for life”.