How to overcome grief over deceased donor after transplant?
I received a kidney transplant from a deceased donor in 2017. My life has been a bit of a cascade of grief lately, due to a good friend, coworker, and my aunt dying within the last 5 months. I'm approaching my 4th year transplant anniversary, and I'm finding myself beset with grief over my donor, and their family. It has hit me hard that I am benefiting greatly from someone's death, and I keep thinking about the family of my donor, and how this will be their 4th year with out their loved one.
I am so thankful and grateful for my donor and their family, but I can't seem to stop thinking about the pain of the family, or the fact that my donor will never get to experience another sunset, or snowfall, will never get to listen to their favorite song. Will never get to experience the wonders of being alive, or fulfilling their dreams…
If anyone else has experienced this, how did you come to term with it, or just develop some form of peace with it? Any advice you could offer would be greatly appreciated.