How to handle when spouse has cancer, is in pain and isn’t active?

I'm so sorry to hear that. There's no easy answer, but it is important to set aside time to take care of yourself and to let friends and family take care of you.

When spouses become caregivers, they often neglect themselves ("I'm not the one with cancer"), but that's a big mistake. No matter how bad things are, taking care of yourself helps both of you, because you'll have more energy and be able to be more present.

If you set aside a couple of hours every day to go out with friends, take a book to the park and read, or even visit a spa, you're not being a baf person; just the opposite.

Best wishes at a tough time.