Grandmas and grandpas...opportunity knocks! Ideas during COVID

They say you have never loved so unconditionally as when that first grandchild arrives. Your capacity for forgiveness increases, you let go of your critical and judgmental side and you laugh joyously and frequently.

And now???? Now you have an opportunity to spend more quality time with your “grands” as they are called. You may have to learn how to be part of a group going live on Instagram. I barged in on my granddaughter and her friends one day when I figured it out. Oops…not the right time. She just looked at the screen and when someone asked, “What’s the matter?” her mouth dropped, and she just said, “It’s my grandmother.” Everyone immediately disappeared. Ha ha ha ha…….!

So while we are isolated let’s take advantage of an opportunity to spend more time playing with, talking with, singing with, messaging, facetiming. Let’s use the technology that’s available to us. Set up a schedule, or a show and tell, or a teaching session. Let’s present some options for every age.

Take some photos to share and don’t forget to look at the post downstream about killing two birds with one stone. I am using just initials and no names. That is your choice. Please do not use identifying names, phone numbers, emails, or locations.

Ready…..set……go gramps…….this was the first time he got to take a walk in the forest with his new grandson. Biggest smile I have ever seen on that loving face,

@lioness, Yes, I started all in water and then a few green onions in potting soil to see if there was any difference. I change the water daily. My carrot top got mushy on the bottom so tossed it but the celery continues to add leaves and both onion "trys" have lengthening stems. I put mine in a sunny place … don't know if they, like humans need Vit D but most veggies do well in sunny landscapes. Have fun…something to look forward to each day.

Yes, it is wonderful that the daughters are here for Fred. They insisted on staying at a motel. My friend went home yesterday and the hospice grp came to turn her and hurt her….hadn't realized she was as frail and injured as she is. The daughter has already been confrontational with Fred which was terribly upsetting for my friend. The last thing she needs is strife; the pain meds sent home aren't working so Hospice is changing those. What needs to happen is that daughter be made to leave; nurses be hired round the clock and Fred and friend be surrounded by peace, cooperation, help, and comfort. I feel so helpless not being there with them but I cannot make the daughter leave or hire the pros needed to care for her. Thank you for your good will and thoughts. We can be more merciful for our pets than for those we dearly love; that I can hardly bear.

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@fiesty76

@lioness, Yes, I started all in water and then a few green onions in potting soil to see if there was any difference. I change the water daily. My carrot top got mushy on the bottom so tossed it but the celery continues to add leaves and both onion "trys" have lengthening stems. I put mine in a sunny place … don't know if they, like humans need Vit D but most veggies do well in sunny landscapes. Have fun…something to look forward to each day.

Yes, it is wonderful that the daughters are here for Fred. They insisted on staying at a motel. My friend went home yesterday and the hospice grp came to turn her and hurt her….hadn't realized she was as frail and injured as she is. The daughter has already been confrontational with Fred which was terribly upsetting for my friend. The last thing she needs is strife; the pain meds sent home aren't working so Hospice is changing those. What needs to happen is that daughter be made to leave; nurses be hired round the clock and Fred and friend be surrounded by peace, cooperation, help, and comfort. I feel so helpless not being there with them but I cannot make the daughter leave or hire the pros needed to care for her. Thank you for your good will and thoughts. We can be more merciful for our pets than for those we dearly love; that I can hardly bear.

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@fiesty76 Yes this is true . My next door neighbor had hospice care which I was on duty for they take good care of there patient . It is true the daughter needs to hire them she will need 24 hr care . This will relief her also

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Just reread this now have gotten some ideas so will get out my albums I have been sending him some crazy cards but will put photos in also any ideas for Halloween He won't be going out this year first year I won't be there giving out candy either so any ideas will be appreciated

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@artscaping

@feisty76, @colleenyoung, And good afternoon from chapter two of entertaining and supporting the grandkids development. In this photo, also part of the chipmunk saga, we see the gender roles being acted out with harmony. He, at three and she, at eleven, come together on the front porch to feed Javier, our best-trained chipmunk.

Notice that she leans in to see his sample peanut…..after all she is the chipmunk expert. He is showing her the peanut he has selected for Javier. She approves and he will now hold it out and call Javier. Sorry I didn't video that transaction. Just imagine…..at this age, these young ones can teach us so much about collaborating that comes naturally and shows human respect.

May you be content and at ease.
Chris

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I think that picture is wonderful! The children are adorable and the landscaping (?) is simply gorgeous! Love the brick work! My family (father, grandfather, uncle, husband, sons — all bricklayers to say nothing of brothers, brother-in-law, nephews–all bricklayers who are teachers of bricklaying and tile and I don't know what else. I didn't realize how excited I got over that subject. My sister and I when we were really young maybe seven and eight, took hoes and stirred mortar for our dad. It was really hard but we wanted to do it. We tried lifting blocks but couldn't even pick them up. So, the girls didn't become bricklayers, just wives of them. The boys took up the trade. I don't think my grandchildren have done it yet. My one grandson finishes cement. They are all perfectionist. I am so proud of my porch. My son laid the block foundation. It's perfect. He has two daughters who are in school. I don't know what they will be. My granddaughter is a social worker. She has two little boys whom I miss with all my heart. I miss all of my grands and great grands. I don't see them on the social media or whatever it's called. Oh how I miss them.

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@artscaping

Good afternoon grandparents, I hope you have a chance this holiday weekend to have a chat, maybe a zoom or facetime with your grandchildren. Even those who cannot yet talk have ways of communicating a lot with smiles and gentle touches. This is Amelia, also known as Millie. I just love, love, love her.

Be happy and content this weekend.

Celebrate our veteran caretakers for supporting our country. We appreciate their dedication.
Chris

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Oh, she's so adorable. I'd love to see that little one and love her. She looks a lot like mine when they were babies. I just love babies–that's my thing. They just blab to me. My daughter got upset when her baby started smiling and cooing and talking to me. I was saying: "tell grandma all about it". She did. Just talked and talked. My daughter got upset and said: Mom, how come she talks to you like that and not to me". Well, babies know when you are crazy about them and you talk to them and smile. Babies love it. Just lie that little doll baby is talking to her grandma! I loved babysitting my great grandson when he was born and until he was two and one/half. I just fell in love with him. I can't explain it but I fell completely in love with my grandbabies! I love them so much! Some of them are adults. My one grandson wrote me a message saying: I have loved you since I was born and you give the greatest hugs.

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@lioness

@becsbuddy I was fortunate this Sunday my niece had a zoom party to celebrate her babies 3rd birthday and my grandson was there on zoom so did get to see a fleeting minute of him being 12 now . It was nice to see him but I do miss those baby years with him

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Aren't our grandbabies just the most adorable, loving little precious angels when they are just babies! I fell totally in love with my grandbabies. They are no longer babies now and I miss having them as little ones. I LOVE BABIES!

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@artscaping

Good afternoon grandparents, I hope you have a chance this holiday weekend to have a chat, maybe a zoom or facetime with your grandchildren. Even those who cannot yet talk have ways of communicating a lot with smiles and gentle touches. This is Amelia, also known as Millie. I just love, love, love her.

Be happy and content this weekend.

Celebrate our veteran caretakers for supporting our country. We appreciate their dedication.
Chris

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Greetings again to all of the Grandmothers and Grandfathers. Are you already thinking about the holidays and remembering all the good times you have had with your grandchildren. They grow so fast. Unfortunately, this will not be the year to meet in person. We have spent a couple of weeks exploring options for physical contact and no matter how much we want to make arrangements, we just don't feel safe. Our two youngest live in Austin, Texas and we have decided that with the current rise in the COVID 19 spread, we will not want to risk infecting any of our family members. Our older ones have boyfriends now so it isn't easy to get their attention.

Do you have any ideas for how to have Thanksgiving and Christmas with little ones (1 and 3)…….on a Zoom call. Would you like to share them with all of us? We need an activity that keeps their attention for more than 90 seconds.

Thanks……
Chris

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@artscaping

Greetings again to all of the Grandmothers and Grandfathers. Are you already thinking about the holidays and remembering all the good times you have had with your grandchildren. They grow so fast. Unfortunately, this will not be the year to meet in person. We have spent a couple of weeks exploring options for physical contact and no matter how much we want to make arrangements, we just don't feel safe. Our two youngest live in Austin, Texas and we have decided that with the current rise in the COVID 19 spread, we will not want to risk infecting any of our family members. Our older ones have boyfriends now so it isn't easy to get their attention.

Do you have any ideas for how to have Thanksgiving and Christmas with little ones (1 and 3)…….on a Zoom call. Would you like to share them with all of us? We need an activity that keeps their attention for more than 90 seconds.

Thanks……
Chris

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Hi Chris – We have been distance communicating with our littles for 6 months every winter, and found a few tricks.

– We had success with a book on Zoom last winter – we each had a copy and we read to them, complete with sound effects.
– We have used a puppet to talk to them, practiced making silly faces together, and danced to kid music.
– One day we gave them a tour of our yard, another we just watched them play in the yard while we talked to Mom & Dad.
– Another day, Mom & Dad called us while they played in the ball pit in their playroom and let us watch them in action while the adults chatted. A kid jumped in to visit every few minutes.

Sometimes it works, sometimes not, we just roll with it. Sometimes we text ahead for them to have their favorite toy or recent project ready to show us. Sometimes Mom calls with just one on her lap and in a mellow mood for a little one-on-one visit.

If you are looking for a gift idea, we give our littles a subscription to Kiwi Company boxes (kiwico.com) – for 3 yo it is a Koala Crate and comes monthly, each has a theme & 4-5 age appropriate projects to do at home. For the 1 yo it is a Panda Crate and comes every 2 months. It spreads the joy, gives parent a tool on rainy days. We give a 6 month subscription to each for birthday and Christmas, and just a token wrapped gift like a puzzle or truck. This year they will get play cooking utensils and dishes, and a simple homemade "stove" as pretend cooking entertains them both for hours.

We found the best time to be right after breakfast on a "boring day" – they are too crazy on the holidays or special days to settle down. We have just learned to adjust our expectations to their development level.
Sue

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Hello everyone! While I am not a grandparent, I did want to jump in here to reply to @artscaping and share an idea for those of you planning a virtual holiday for Thanksgiving and/or Christmas and want to connect still with your grandchildren. Recently, my oldest brother who has step-grandchildren with his partner, purchased the Portal Video devices and have had great success with them. You mount the camera on/near your tv and then the lens follows movement in that room, which is really helpful for the kids. Also beneficial is that you are all watching one another through your tv rather than a laptop/tablet/phone. It might make a great early holiday gift that you can use throughout the winter! Here is a link to learn more if interested: https://portal.facebook.com

I don't personally own one… yet!

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Good afternoon Halloweeners. I hope you all had a great time. And it would be wonderful to share some of the costume pictures. How about yours Grandma and Grandpa? Who were you on Halloween?

Our children set up the house like a fort. You will see how our son created kid-sized doors from cardboard boxes in the family room. The sign on the floor says….Come to the Fort. And this is Milly. Her first Halloween (18 months) and she was just overwhelmed with joy and laughter. Here she is walking through the doors with a look that says…."Here I come!",

I guess the point is…..we can have fun creating make-believe for the grandchildren and for ourselves even though our NOW is a lot different.
May you have a day of comfort and ease.
Chris

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@amandajro

Hello everyone! While I am not a grandparent, I did want to jump in here to reply to @artscaping and share an idea for those of you planning a virtual holiday for Thanksgiving and/or Christmas and want to connect still with your grandchildren. Recently, my oldest brother who has step-grandchildren with his partner, purchased the Portal Video devices and have had great success with them. You mount the camera on/near your tv and then the lens follows movement in that room, which is really helpful for the kids. Also beneficial is that you are all watching one another through your tv rather than a laptop/tablet/phone. It might make a great early holiday gift that you can use throughout the winter! Here is a link to learn more if interested: https://portal.facebook.com

I don't personally own one… yet!

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Thank you @amandajro, those are very nice tablets ….. quite serviceable and showy.
Jay got a similar one for Christmas a few years ago. I think it needs updated photos. (Ha Ha……and so it goes).
Be content and at ease today.
Chris

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@artscaping

Good afternoon Halloweeners. I hope you all had a great time. And it would be wonderful to share some of the costume pictures. How about yours Grandma and Grandpa? Who were you on Halloween?

Our children set up the house like a fort. You will see how our son created kid-sized doors from cardboard boxes in the family room. The sign on the floor says….Come to the Fort. And this is Milly. Her first Halloween (18 months) and she was just overwhelmed with joy and laughter. Here she is walking through the doors with a look that says…."Here I come!",

I guess the point is…..we can have fun creating make-believe for the grandchildren and for ourselves even though our NOW is a lot different.
May you have a day of comfort and ease.
Chris

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Here are my puppies with Auntie and 2 of the dozen jack-o-lanterns she created. Mommy & I were jack-o-lanterns, Grandma was himself. The puppies and I played tag before supper. We had a picnic in the garage because the weather turned cold & a treat hunt afterward in the yard. We all agreed it was even better than trick-or-treating because the older one is very shy and approaching strangers is stressful for him.
We are so blessed!
Sue

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