Happiness a One Week Journey

Posted by Teresa, Volunteer Mentor @hopeful33250, Apr 30, 2017

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As you have all posted in Mayo Connect’s Mental Health Group, I wanted to invite you to join in a program by Dr. Amit Sood, entitled Happiness a One Week Journey. Probably many of you are familiar with Dr. Amit Sood, a psychiatrist at Mayo. This is a free online program that addresses the issue of happiness. Here is what Dr. Sood says about this program.

Dear friends,

You and I face one common enemy – suffering. Pain, physical or emotional, when it becomes unbearable, is experienced as suffering. Pain is unavoidable, but suffering is optional. My goal is to help you find a path so you can bypass suffering in this life. One reward of traversing that journey is finding greater happiness.

Happiness is a habit. Some of us are innately happy. But most others have to choose. We often, however, don’t realize we have that choice. We also don’t know how to exercise that choice. As a result, we push happiness away. Let that not happen to you.

Join me, if you wish, to spend the next week of your life, choosing greater happiness. Each day, you’ll be guided to a practice that can make you happier. To enroll, you’ll need to register with your name and email address to connect with us for the next week. Select ‘Happiness: A One Week Journey,’ below for more information.

Take care.
Amit

Here is the website where you can sign up and join me on this journey: http://stressfree.org/happiness/

@johnjames

I’m sure your right- I just have a hard time not pulling my weight in helping her,

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@hopeful33250 Thanks Teresa, that’s a good question, it never occurred to me but I cannot imagine why it would be a problem at this point post-transplant (I am 7.5 months now) since I do not seem to have any other physical restrictions. Before I do get one though I will check, just in case.
JK

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@johnjames

I’m sure your right- I just have a hard time not pulling my weight in helping her,

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@contentandwell Good idea. I’ve known people with cancer treatments who have been advised about massages for a certain period of time, but I’ve never known anyone personally who had a transplant. Teresa

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@johnjames

I’m sure your right- I just have a hard time not pulling my weight in helping her,

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@hopeful33250, I had to pull out my “Going Home with Your Transplant” binder for this question. I did not find any reference to massages. I have to agree with @contentandwell about checking with her doctor.
As additional information, I have learned that when I ask my PCP questions, he will often refer me to discuss it with my transplant team.
Rosemary

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@johnjames

I’m sure your right- I just have a hard time not pulling my weight in helping her,

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@hopeful33250 @rosemarya Hi Rosemary and Teresa, I sent a message on the portal to the surgeon. Those are generally actually answered by the nurse and unless she considers it to be important in her opinion she will wait to answer it so I have not heard back. I figure though that if it was something I should not get she would get back to me in a more timely manner so I plan to make an appointment for one tomorrow. I need to use this G/C so that my husband or son will get me another one for Mother’s Day! Actually I hope my son give me what I asked him for, for him to sign up as an organ donor. I think young people like him tend to think there’s no rush because they’re young, strong and healthy, and also they just do not want to consider that accidents do happen. His “girlfriend” (what do you call them when they’re in their 30s?) is a nurse at UCLA medical center and prior to that was a traveling nurse so she has worked in all of the departments, including post-transplant, so maybe she will encourage him.
On a little aside, she sent me a mother’s day postcard with a baby picture of my son on the front, thanking me for bringing him into the world. She is very sweet, must be her southern roots.
JK

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@johnjames

I’m sure your right- I just have a hard time not pulling my weight in helping her,

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@contentandwell She does sound like a lovely girl! Enjoy the gift card and happy Mother’s Day!

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@johnjames

I’m sure your right- I just have a hard time not pulling my weight in helping her,

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@hopeful33250 Teresa, she does sound like a lovely young woman, I am dying to meet her. I have been pretty happy with most of the people my son and daughter associated with, even his ex-wife of three years. She was really nice, even was praying for me prior to transplant, but my husband and I always felt they were not well matched, and apparently we were right.
JK

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@johnjames

I’m sure your right- I just have a hard time not pulling my weight in helping her,

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@contentandwell It sounds like you are insightful and you know your children well! Teresa

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@diana11

Thank you very much hopeful33250 have done so .Take care!

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Has anyone signed up for the “Happiness is a One Week Journey” Program?
Thank you Teresa for bringing this to our attention.
Rosemary

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@diana11

Thank you very much hopeful33250 have done so .Take care!

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Yes, several people mentioned signing up. If anyone would like to report on their experiences, let’s hear from you! Teresa

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I can’t seem to get rid of this depression , Im going to see my doctor the 30th this month I hope he will up the dosage of my medication, my house has gone to pot, I never let my house stay a mess, I really need to know how to handle this dottie

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@misdeejon42

I can’t seem to get rid of this depression , Im going to see my doctor the 30th this month I hope he will up the dosage of my medication, my house has gone to pot, I never let my house stay a mess, I really need to know how to handle this dottie

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Dottie, You are doing the right thing by going to see your doctor about your depression concerns.
Hugs,
Rosemary

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@misdeejon42

I can’t seem to get rid of this depression , Im going to see my doctor the 30th this month I hope he will up the dosage of my medication, my house has gone to pot, I never let my house stay a mess, I really need to know how to handle this dottie

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The ones of us that know anxiety and depression know full well that everyone experiences it. It is not “if” someone will, it is definitely when. The trick is to accept it fully. That sound counterintuitive but explore that thought. It is here to teach you what you need at this very moment. Sometimes it is patience and sometimes it is to see our own behaviors and only our own. Expectations of life and love and others behaving badly really trips us up. It can be due to the dark years when you deal suddenly with a childhood abuse or neglect. It of course can be death of a loved one or betrayal, both equally nearly impossible to handle. Many books help depending on your own experiences, but acceptance of the tough time is key. If you are thinking your house is suffering, do one simple thing like making your bed and be grateful that you accomplished just that one thing. Pretend you are okay once in awhile, and take a short walk outside. Start small and be patient with your recovery. It hurts physically and your health suffers. Reach out and help someone else, that sends great hormones and the rush you get will help you to help yourself. Meds are very important but so is getting back in the saddle. Mimic your old self throughout the day and you will feel empowered. If you always feel sad and lonely remember that saying “pain is inevitable, suffering is optional”. That is a big bite of that elephant you have to devour, but just let it swim around your thoughts a bit. Wake up grateful for one simple thing. Force a smile and one happy memory. Take walks or just get your walking shoes on, sometimes just doing that lightens your suffering. You WILL feel better but it is a constant battle, make peace with the chaos. Life is messy hard and wonderful every single moment.

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@misdeejon42

I can’t seem to get rid of this depression , Im going to see my doctor the 30th this month I hope he will up the dosage of my medication, my house has gone to pot, I never let my house stay a mess, I really need to know how to handle this dottie

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Thanks. You have helped me,too. My meds are finally working properly, but I, too, have not got a handle on my house. I make the bed, I get the wash done, I get the dishwasher loaded and unloaded. I cant get past that, even on a gym or exercycle day…. Once I go out, I come back and just want to crash from tiredness. I spent too much effort while I was out. I am borderline in and lut of anemia due to Ulcerative Colitis. I am just SO disappointed in my inability to do more in the house. At least, my hubby is understanding. He still works at 68- a retirement job that started part time but worked into full time.
Still, I am letting myself down- my standards, my ability to find what I.need, my lack of interest at the moment, all concern me. Is it aging or depression or my chronic medical issues?
Thank you for giving me some thing to think about. It may be time to.hire.someone to clean once a week. i am 61… We will think about that too.

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@misdeejon42

I can’t seem to get rid of this depression , Im going to see my doctor the 30th this month I hope he will up the dosage of my medication, my house has gone to pot, I never let my house stay a mess, I really need to know how to handle this dottie

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You are doing amazing!!! You are way ahead of the curve!!! Whatever that means!!! Housework can be meditation or a nightmare!! I tried getting help twice but ended up with a bigger mess when they were done. I got several ibots, vacuums and dry and wet mops. I get everything done every week or every other week now but the floors are always clean which is helping so much!!! Make a plan that works for you and relax about an occasional mess or unfolded clothes or a few dirty dishes in the sink. We all get tired of routines as we age, mix it up. Get help once a month if that helps or a live in maid, we all do that differently. You are an inspiration with working out and maintaining, give yourself a big pat on the back!!!!

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Helping others is the best medicine. Feeling sorry for myself was just keeping me in the dark pit. I thought life had treated me so badly and I wanted to wallow in my self pity. However, I found I was hurting no one but myself. I found unconditional love from my God and that is sufficient. He is so good to me and I want to pass it on. I was so disappointed at one time because I felt I could trust no one, but now I know we are all human (including me) and God still loves us. His first desire for me is to love Him and others. Know why? It causes us to love ourselves and forget our hurts. We didn’t deserve to be loved, but He loves us anyway. Let your hurt go, my friend and enjoy the precious gift of today.

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