Gratitude Discussion Group

Posted by Debbra, Volunteer Mentor @debbraw, Nov 24, 2018

Hi everyone! Just before Thanksgiving @michellegraffradford posted a blog called Gratitude Changes Everything. She suggested three techniques to help incorporate gratitude into our daily lives:

  • Start the Day with Gratitude (before getting up think of three people you are grateful for)
  • Maintain a Gratitude Journal to record times when you are grateful
  • Count Blessings – not sheep! (Review the day and remember moments of gratitude)

Her blogpost was so inspiring that a lot of us decided we wanted to form a Gratitude Group to keep the attitude of gratitude going. The blogpost area is not an ideal space for a big discussion group so I am moving the discussion over here to the “Just Want to Talk” Group. Let’s use this space to share and discuss our Gratitude Journey. I’m going to suggest that we each try to take a minute from the day and post here what has made us feel thankful today. It can be as small as a stranger’s smile on the bus or as large as fulfilling a major life dream – or anywhere in between. We can also discuss how we are doing with the three techniques. Sometimes it is easier to form new habits with support from others.

Michelle’s full blogpost is at the link below. You may want to review it or print it out to help get started!
https://connect.mayoclinic.org/page/living-with-mild-cognitive-impairment-mci/newsfeed/gratitude-changes-everything/
I look forward to hearing from others in the Gratitude Group and to having others join us here! Thanks to those who already shared great stories. If you haven’t yet, what gratitude will you share today?!

@jenniferhunter

@gingerw Can you share a picture of your sweet Tessie Belle? I bet if you got another cat, it would also be attached to you. They show affection for the person who feeds and plays with them. The other day my girls were chasing each other and the calico missed on her jump and fell into the water bowl splashing water onto the floor. Then a few seconds later, the tabby streaks in on the chase and slips on the water on the floor and wipes out. They just get up and pretend nothing happened, but I could not stop laughing.

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@jenniferhunter All the cats are so cute and sounds like they give you enjoyment I want to get a pet I live alone and had dogs all my life but to much for me now but not ever having a cat I don't know a thing about the care of them @gingerw can either of you enlighten me ?Id appreciate it.

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I was hurting so bad this morning but since I'm the one that does our exercises I had to go .Im grateful I did as the stretching made me feel better.

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@jenniferhunter

@gingerw Can you share a picture of your sweet Tessie Belle? I bet if you got another cat, it would also be attached to you. They show affection for the person who feeds and plays with them. The other day my girls were chasing each other and the calico missed on her jump and fell into the water bowl splashing water onto the floor. Then a few seconds later, the tabby streaks in on the chase and slips on the water on the floor and wipes out. They just get up and pretend nothing happened, but I could not stop laughing.

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@jenniferhunter As requested here is Tessie Belle. Completely black, but takes a slight reddish cast in sunlight, like a jaguar. Waking from her nap, she is a petite thing, about 7 lbs at 2.5 yrs.
Ginger

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@lioness

@jenniferhunter All the cats are so cute and sounds like they give you enjoyment I want to get a pet I live alone and had dogs all my life but to much for me now but not ever having a cat I don't know a thing about the care of them @gingerw can either of you enlighten me ?Id appreciate it.

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@lioness Hope you are feeling better as the day has gone on. I was pretty stiff this morning, also. Cats are pretty easy keepers, that is they take care of themselves. I only keep indoor kitties now, so there is the litter box to clean each day, but it's a small price to pay for their companionship. As many will say cats don't have owners they have staff! They can be a lot of company. Tessie Bell suffered with abuse we think from a man and that's why she is so reluctant with my husband. She also has severe fright with loud noises especially somebody yelling.
Ginger

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@gingerw

@lioness Hope you are feeling better as the day has gone on. I was pretty stiff this morning, also. Cats are pretty easy keepers, that is they take care of themselves. I only keep indoor kitties now, so there is the litter box to clean each day, but it's a small price to pay for their companionship. As many will say cats don't have owners they have staff! They can be a lot of company. Tessie Bell suffered with abuse we think from a man and that's why she is so reluctant with my husband. She also has severe fright with loud noises especially somebody yelling.
Ginger

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@ginger thank you Ginger I think I,ll go to a shelter my dogs all came from a shelter I think they appreciate there owners better.

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Busy day today and right now I'm just grateful for a freezer that has a few items we can use as leftovers for dinner!
PS: I loved seeing all the cute kitties on here today! Hope you all have a great evening. Stay warm – it's cold now even in Florida!

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@debbraw

Busy day today and right now I'm just grateful for a freezer that has a few items we can use as leftovers for dinner!
PS: I loved seeing all the cute kitties on here today! Hope you all have a great evening. Stay warm – it's cold now even in Florida!

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@debbraw its chilly here for n California.

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@lioness

@ginger thank you Ginger I think I,ll go to a shelter my dogs all came from a shelter I think they appreciate there owners better.

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@lioness We adopted Tessie thru PetSmart. She came from the Fresno area, and had a litter of kittens before age 1 ;((

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@lioness

@jenniferhunter All the cats are so cute and sounds like they give you enjoyment I want to get a pet I live alone and had dogs all my life but to much for me now but not ever having a cat I don't know a thing about the care of them @gingerw can either of you enlighten me ?Id appreciate it.

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@lioness You might want to spend time at a shelter in the cat room and play with cats or volunteer and see how they respond. Some are outgoing and will come to you. Some are afraid. My tabby kitten was one of those who needed extra socializing and it took a full 15 minutes of me rubbing her face when I met her until she took a breath and relaxed. That is how I knew she would be OK and trust me. My tuxedo cat confidently sat in my lap at an adoption event and purred right from the start. He learned to trust humans from the person who bottle fed him and raised him. Some will let you hold them, and some will not. I can pick the girl kitties up for about 3 seconds before they start kicking and squirming to jump down. They have claws that need clipping frequently which they hate and that is a 2 person job. Cats will bite their claws to remove layers to sharpen them and they keep growing, so they can accidentally cut you. I suggest work with a shelter or rescue group to find the right one. Usually an older cat will be calmer while kittens will race around the house and bounce off the walls. I clean the litter box daily and use recycled paper litter to be as dust free as possible. After I got my cats, I found out I was allergic, so I do allergy shots and recently started new asthma medication because the dander was causing me too much phlegm. I also wipe them with a damp cloth to try to prevent dander and vacuum, If you spend time with cats before you bring one home, hopefully you'll know if you are allergic or not. I promised my cats a home, so I will do what it takes to co exist which includes running HEPA air filters. We are most vulnerable at night with allergies, and wearing a good filtering disposable surgical mask works to prevent my asthma problems. It would be best not to have them with me while I sleep, but it's nice. I keep my bedding covered and change it often and vacuuming daily sure helps. I just wanted to bring up allergies in case it would affect you. I feed grain free foods that are more expensive and higher quality to prevent health problems, also avoid fish because of mercury concerns, and my kitties love canned and dry duck. They must have essential minerals which are added to cat food. Cats are very intelligent and creative and do silly tings that make me laugh. They need toys to attack and destroy. You have to careful with string and ribbons and lace trims. Years ago, had a Siamese who swallowed a foot of nylon lace trim while I was traveling and someone else was feeding them. My mom figured out something was wrong, and by the time I got home, my cat already had emergency surgery that saved it's life, and I had to feed it like a baby to help it recover. Later in old age, he developed kidney failure and I did IV fluids to try to help. In general, neutered males are calmer and easy going, and the females are a little high strung. Some are more independent and some want lots of attention and cuddling. My Siamese was like a dog demanding attention and fetching toys. You can find them in shelters too. Think about how that would fit in your life and what cat personality you might be looking for. They have a personality as kittens that you won't be able to change, for example, my tabby is a bit hissy with my male tuxedo, but they do get along and sometimes have words between them if they both want the same spot right next to me. I think they both want to be dominant, but my tuxedo will back off and find a new spot to curl up. Having more than one gives them a lot of fun playing and ambushing each other. I got the kittens because my tuxedo cat seemed to be lonely and had been very social with other cats before I got him. If you have only one cat, you are it's playmate. I hope that gives you a lot to think about. I've had a dog too, and cats are easier to care for and happy to just stay in the house, look out the window, and hunt the bugs that manage to get inside. Having a kitty curled up in your lap and purring is really nice.

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@jenniferhunter

@lioness You might want to spend time at a shelter in the cat room and play with cats or volunteer and see how they respond. Some are outgoing and will come to you. Some are afraid. My tabby kitten was one of those who needed extra socializing and it took a full 15 minutes of me rubbing her face when I met her until she took a breath and relaxed. That is how I knew she would be OK and trust me. My tuxedo cat confidently sat in my lap at an adoption event and purred right from the start. He learned to trust humans from the person who bottle fed him and raised him. Some will let you hold them, and some will not. I can pick the girl kitties up for about 3 seconds before they start kicking and squirming to jump down. They have claws that need clipping frequently which they hate and that is a 2 person job. Cats will bite their claws to remove layers to sharpen them and they keep growing, so they can accidentally cut you. I suggest work with a shelter or rescue group to find the right one. Usually an older cat will be calmer while kittens will race around the house and bounce off the walls. I clean the litter box daily and use recycled paper litter to be as dust free as possible. After I got my cats, I found out I was allergic, so I do allergy shots and recently started new asthma medication because the dander was causing me too much phlegm. I also wipe them with a damp cloth to try to prevent dander and vacuum, If you spend time with cats before you bring one home, hopefully you'll know if you are allergic or not. I promised my cats a home, so I will do what it takes to co exist which includes running HEPA air filters. We are most vulnerable at night with allergies, and wearing a good filtering disposable surgical mask works to prevent my asthma problems. It would be best not to have them with me while I sleep, but it's nice. I keep my bedding covered and change it often and vacuuming daily sure helps. I just wanted to bring up allergies in case it would affect you. I feed grain free foods that are more expensive and higher quality to prevent health problems, also avoid fish because of mercury concerns, and my kitties love canned and dry duck. They must have essential minerals which are added to cat food. Cats are very intelligent and creative and do silly tings that make me laugh. They need toys to attack and destroy. You have to careful with string and ribbons and lace trims. Years ago, had a Siamese who swallowed a foot of nylon lace trim while I was traveling and someone else was feeding them. My mom figured out something was wrong, and by the time I got home, my cat already had emergency surgery that saved it's life, and I had to feed it like a baby to help it recover. Later in old age, he developed kidney failure and I did IV fluids to try to help. In general, neutered males are calmer and easy going, and the females are a little high strung. Some are more independent and some want lots of attention and cuddling. My Siamese was like a dog demanding attention and fetching toys. You can find them in shelters too. Think about how that would fit in your life and what cat personality you might be looking for. They have a personality as kittens that you won't be able to change, for example, my tabby is a bit hissy with my male tuxedo, but they do get along and sometimes have words between them if they both want the same spot right next to me. I think they both want to be dominant, but my tuxedo will back off and find a new spot to curl up. Having more than one gives them a lot of fun playing and ambushing each other. I got the kittens because my tuxedo cat seemed to be lonely and had been very social with other cats before I got him. If you have only one cat, you are it's playmate. I hope that gives you a lot to think about. I've had a dog too, and cats are easier to care for and happy to just stay in the house, look out the window, and hunt the bugs that manage to get inside. Having a kitty curled up in your lap and purring is really nice.

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@jenniferhunter Thank you for a good dialogue on cats That does me alot go think about.My grandson is allergic to cats but doesn't come over that much .I do have phlegm now .Thats a good suggestion about putting time in at a shelter I will do that first to see how it goes Thanks .

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@gingerw

@lioness We adopted Tessie thru PetSmart. She came from the Fresno area, and had a litter of kittens before age 1 ;((

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@gingerw that must have been hard on her dont know the age of cats to have kittens but sounds young to me.

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My sister-in-law gains quite a bit of joy from volunteering at a shelter. When their dog died, that shelter work was especially good for her. And when she was ready, she was able to meet the dog she knew was supposed to come home with her. I have cats that were rescues as well. A few months apart in age, but brought them home together, and they get along great. Cats are easier to take care of than dogs, but they do better with a buddy I think, than alone – especially if you are away a lot of the day. Mostly our cats bring joy too, except when they are clawing holes in my Persian carpets. But art is meant to be seen, and rugs are meant to be used, so we just encourage them to use the cat tree (get a big one) and got a small scratch station for upstairs too. Grateful that I have a house where I can lay down my rugs, and for that matter, for the time abroad that got me to the rug merchant.

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@lioness

@gingerw that must have been hard on her dont know the age of cats to have kittens but sounds young to me.

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@lioness Female kittens come into their first heat around 6 to 7 months old which is pretty young. If a cat is not kept inside whether they're male or female, nature takes its course. Tessie Belle is a loving little girl, pretty much like a dog following me around most of the day. Everything that @jenniferhunter
Ginger

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@jenniferhunter

@lioness You might want to spend time at a shelter in the cat room and play with cats or volunteer and see how they respond. Some are outgoing and will come to you. Some are afraid. My tabby kitten was one of those who needed extra socializing and it took a full 15 minutes of me rubbing her face when I met her until she took a breath and relaxed. That is how I knew she would be OK and trust me. My tuxedo cat confidently sat in my lap at an adoption event and purred right from the start. He learned to trust humans from the person who bottle fed him and raised him. Some will let you hold them, and some will not. I can pick the girl kitties up for about 3 seconds before they start kicking and squirming to jump down. They have claws that need clipping frequently which they hate and that is a 2 person job. Cats will bite their claws to remove layers to sharpen them and they keep growing, so they can accidentally cut you. I suggest work with a shelter or rescue group to find the right one. Usually an older cat will be calmer while kittens will race around the house and bounce off the walls. I clean the litter box daily and use recycled paper litter to be as dust free as possible. After I got my cats, I found out I was allergic, so I do allergy shots and recently started new asthma medication because the dander was causing me too much phlegm. I also wipe them with a damp cloth to try to prevent dander and vacuum, If you spend time with cats before you bring one home, hopefully you'll know if you are allergic or not. I promised my cats a home, so I will do what it takes to co exist which includes running HEPA air filters. We are most vulnerable at night with allergies, and wearing a good filtering disposable surgical mask works to prevent my asthma problems. It would be best not to have them with me while I sleep, but it's nice. I keep my bedding covered and change it often and vacuuming daily sure helps. I just wanted to bring up allergies in case it would affect you. I feed grain free foods that are more expensive and higher quality to prevent health problems, also avoid fish because of mercury concerns, and my kitties love canned and dry duck. They must have essential minerals which are added to cat food. Cats are very intelligent and creative and do silly tings that make me laugh. They need toys to attack and destroy. You have to careful with string and ribbons and lace trims. Years ago, had a Siamese who swallowed a foot of nylon lace trim while I was traveling and someone else was feeding them. My mom figured out something was wrong, and by the time I got home, my cat already had emergency surgery that saved it's life, and I had to feed it like a baby to help it recover. Later in old age, he developed kidney failure and I did IV fluids to try to help. In general, neutered males are calmer and easy going, and the females are a little high strung. Some are more independent and some want lots of attention and cuddling. My Siamese was like a dog demanding attention and fetching toys. You can find them in shelters too. Think about how that would fit in your life and what cat personality you might be looking for. They have a personality as kittens that you won't be able to change, for example, my tabby is a bit hissy with my male tuxedo, but they do get along and sometimes have words between them if they both want the same spot right next to me. I think they both want to be dominant, but my tuxedo will back off and find a new spot to curl up. Having more than one gives them a lot of fun playing and ambushing each other. I got the kittens because my tuxedo cat seemed to be lonely and had been very social with other cats before I got him. If you have only one cat, you are it's playmate. I hope that gives you a lot to think about. I've had a dog too, and cats are easier to care for and happy to just stay in the house, look out the window, and hunt the bugs that manage to get inside. Having a kitty curled up in your lap and purring is really nice.

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@jenniferhunter
You have given me some great ideas on having cats, in spite of allergies. Thanks so much!

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Today I am grateful for stepping out and driving the 40 miles each way to a Zentangle meet up last night. I was a rebel [of course] and did a design completely different than everyone else, hearing the guidelines through another filter. To my amazement, amusement, and gratefulness, there were a lot of positive comments! Today I may get a chance to do more on that project, but it's okay if not because there will be more time later this week.
Ginger

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