Getting a 2nd opinion from inside the Mayo...is "offensive"?
My wife was recently diagnosed by a Mayo Clinic surgeon with an 80% failed lumbar fusion requiring complex removal, reconstruction, and extension to her pelvis and up her spine. We would like a second opinion from *another* Mayo surgeon. However, when we inquired about a referral for a second opinion (from the original referring Mayo doctor), ]we were called back by a nurse and passive-aggressively condemned for asking (even telling us she would delete the notes about the request from the patient file so "the doctor wouldn't be offended").
The level of attention she has received for this major surgery pales in comparison to the *minor* surgery she just had at the Mayo Clinic (which was an absolutely superb experience!). The spinal surgeon's office scheduled the surgery and pre-op without even a meeting (beyond the one in which she was diagnosed) to discuss recovery, rehabilitation time (we are planning to rent a local apartment for part of the recovery), expectations, preparations, etc. We don't even know what medications (eg. NSAIDs) she's supposed to stop taking before the surgery.
Is it truly "offensive" to request a second opinion from inside the Mayo because "the Mayo has already directed us to the best choice"? The doctor in question is fresh out of academia and just started there a few months ago, could this be to blame for the unexpected reaction?