Emotional Rollercoaster

Here is a link to a study about the emotional problems of having cancer
https://www.patientpower.info/navigating-cancer/in-your-own-words-the-emotional-impact-of-cancer-and-loss-survey-results

After 6 months of ADT and the RB surgery, and more, I found that I was very emotional and teared up too often, which was not my style. Also sleep disorder. My GP prescribed Trazodone which helped me with both issues. Time also helps, 30 months now past all treatment and meds. It used to be staying alive was a slam dunk but now it requires more effort. I’m G9, CR, incurable, advanced, aggressive etc here so I am sure of issues in the future but presently ok. Good luck

Hi jjm, it’s totally normal - and GOOD to let it out with tears. You’ve been thru physical and emotional trauma and have had to swallow your fears to get thru it. We call that ‘manning up’ but it’s one of the worst things we do.
As children, we cry at many things - trivial things in fact - but those are our true emotions. Our elders offer support, such as “Oh don’t cry!” or “It’s not so bad!” or worse “Only babies cry!”
They mean well and we do need to be able to function in life without falling to pieces at every little thing; but we lose the ability to cry when we really need to and that’s not good.
So cry if you feel like it, break something too if it helps but please don’t “be a man” and keep it all inside. Best,
Phil

Yes; short answer.

Your emotions are, well, your emotions. And try to be comfortable with them. Mine often surprise me.

Do not minimize that you have just been through an ordeal: Diagnosis of cancer, medical tests and meetings with Drs, consideration of treatments, major surgery and initial recovery of (only) 2+ weeks.

If I imagine a scenario for you, perhaps you have focused your mind and energy on all of the necessary steps and decisions that needed to be taken and made, and now your mind, subconscious or otherwise, is drifting toward what has happened to you, where you are today and what in the world does this mean for me now and in the future.

All of this is speculation on my part, of course.

Best wishes for continued recovery, and good post treatment results going forward.

I would say all of it is normal and I have experiences many of those. Just stay away from the Lifetime channel lol! In 4-5 weeks you will be back almost as good as new. I had surgery the first week in Nov. and was officiating high school lacrosse at the end of February at the age of 68. ADT and radiation stopped me 2.5 years later.
Best wishes on your journey.
chip

It's hard to find the actual questions on here anymore, it seems to be all pseudo entertainment blog posts lately.

Anyway, after my first cancer I had what I call a "dark year", because I was told that if it came back then it was likely to be terminal so I let that creep in on me for a long time and was in a bad place waiting for the other shoe to drop.

Ten years later and still no recurrence, but then I got PC.

This time around, I didn't have the same dark space as I had before, perhaps because I'd already been there and recognized that and actively stopped it, or maybe I just realize the futility of wasting precious life on another year of worry. The funny thing is that I probably have more to worry about now than before since this often jumps up and bites you repeatedly through your life, but I also know there are a lot of different treatments to try to keep it at bay.

Try to take deep breath's and don't dwell on the bad, focus on the fact that you fixed something that was bound to take you out if you did nothing and it's gone and maybe forever. Truly one day at a time!

Makes sense and thanks. I actually worked for close to 15 years in the field of radiation oncology at numerous hospitals across the country and intellectualized "a lot" of what was happening right up through the surgery and have always been a patient advocate. That brought meaning to the job. I ca speak and understand the medical terminology with providers and for myself had treatment setup almost like a project plan( dates times, who, where , when dependencies, etc). Looks like I left out the line item for contingencies - emotion. As my wife says I'm a planner so I need to put together a additional questions for the care team. I did come to the realization that for myself there was a clear misunderstanding of what incontinence meant. My expectations (dribbling) do not match the realty at this time of loss of control. Still very early and looking for any sign of improvement going forward. Thanks again for everyones reponses.

LOL! No Lifetime channel. dont even have cable. Catching up on some old comedy specials (Kathleen Madigan/Lewis Black etc). Taks the edge off.

"It's hard to find the actual questions on here anymore, it seems to be all pseudo entertainment blog posts lately."
-yes!!

I've been on ADT for 11 months now and have found that my emotions are extremely sensitive the longer I'm on ADT. I can cry at the drop of a hat (TV commercials, movies, or talking with someone about sensitive issues) at least once or twice a day. I try to control it when others are around by stopping the conversation or apologizing for it. I understand the cause to be that the ADT is taking away my T which makes me more emotional. Hey, it is what it is - not sure there is a cure or medication to address it.