Dismissing doctors: How do you find a doctor who can help?

Posted by mahenoor108 @mahenoor108, Mar 28, 2022

I have had chronic pain since 10 plus years, I’m 34 now a mother to a 4 year old and life is getting harder day by day
Ana titer positive
D dimer high
All autoimmune panels negative
No other signs of inflammation
But when doctors examine they can feel the muscles are stiff, contracted, rigid.
They think it’s fibromyalgia but nothing has helped me. Since the past 6 years I’ve been on different medicine, therapies everything.
Every other month a new symptom appears and now I don’t know what to do.
Left thigh is the oldest problem, I have sore rigid muscles and I don’t even know what relaxed muscles feel like.
Some doctors think it’s some autoimmune but are unsure.
My new symptoms in the last 2 months
Extreme anxiety/over eating a lot due to anxiety
Insomnia very recent cannot sleep at all
Contracted muscles/ rigid muscles all the time unintentionally I try to realease as soon as I realize they are contracted
Forgetfulness - forgotten a lot of important times of my school/college life
Brain fog
Sleep talking very recent
Pain in my left knee
As soon as I wake up an put my feet on the ground they feel extremely sore.
My neck is tilted to the left side all the time because of extreme pain
In the past I have had high crp
But not anymore.
Can someone please help me.
I can’t function most days

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@7lilsnkr

I've seen Pain specialist, Orthopedic specialist, Internal specialist, Rheumatology specialist, Gynecologist, Infectious Diseases specialist, Psychology specialist. I have had MRSA for over a year, Shingles around my eye and been dismissed that it was something else, UTI's, BV(Gardnerella -which during my yearly I had to beg, plead and argue with gynecologist to test for something cuz things were not right, after she kept giving reasons and excuses to explain my reasons away to test me ...hmmm... I was right...GRRR), Polymorphic Light
Eruption, Carpal Tunnel, Plantar Fasciitis, Thrombocytosis, Fibromyalgia, Psoriasis(on and off since I was 2), Multiple fatty deposits on my head, High Cholesterol/Hyperlipidemia Mixed, Mono, Strep throat(even had Mono and Strep at the same time), Hernia at age 7, Heart Murmur when I was 6 months old and it went away, celulitis, Gastrointestinal infection, IBS, Hyperthyroidism, Hypothyroidism, Vitamin D Deficiency, Adjustment Disorder Mixed Reaction, Depression/Anxiety, Depression Major Recurrent Moderate, Koilonychia Acquired, Migraines, Neuropathy Peripheral, Numbness Hand, Raynaud's in hands and feet, Scoliosis, Pain in Lumbar and Thoracic, Pain in both shoulders, Sacroiliac joint dysfunction, narrowing of C5-C6, minimal straightening of Lordosis, degeneration of my facet joints, sclerosis of the greater tuberosity, lazy eye, Thrombocytosis Unspecified, kidney stone, ringworm etc. etc. etc.....lol...I have done a immune system genetics test which came back not finding any pathogenic variants but found 4 variants of uncertain Significance (Variants they don't know enough about to determine any pathogenic relation to disease). I have all these issues and symptoms but tests always seem to show negative or I am missing the 1 or 2 significant criteria in order to be diagnosed for any diseases that are so close to anything! I don't have Lupus, Hashimotos, Psoriatic arthritis,
etc...etc...etc... They have never scraped my skin to test for a negative or positive identification for psoriasis so then when I go to Rheumatology specialist and he sees no evidence of psoriasis( because it is in dormant state) and nothing in records except me saying I have had it I am made out to be crazy or untruthful or making up stuff! Also after 3 separate
radiologists with 3 different xrays in a span of 4 years that state there is small erosion of my bone on finger the Rheumatologist states in my record that he looked over one said xray and saw no evidence of small erosion!! WTH. Patients should not be expected or have to doctor sit and battle over things that we do or don't know to try and fix ourselves or get them to step up to our plate! Sorry this is just a cycle of the lifelong continuation of frustration, disappointment, dashed high hopes of getting answers or getting better but I know I am not the only one . It feels good to vent a little and be emotionally validated.

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Have you seen an immunologist?

After seeing so many specialists, I would again also suggest a functional medicine doctor who will look at the whole picture rather than specialists who are kind of siloed in their particular area.

I wonder if the Epstein Barr virus (mono) is causing issues for you. It remains in the body and can create problems for some.

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@anniebrook

what are your symproms and how do they affect you if you don't mind me asking. I am like the lady that posted the problem.I have constant stiff muscles and now Osteoarthritis everywhere with Erosive type in my hands. Tendonitis in feet/ankles,neck and shoulders. If one pain calms for a while lets say in my right shoulder then my left picks up the pain to keep me on my toes. I started with pain in my right shoulder girdle/neck when I was 29yrs old within hrs of giving birth to my 4th/final child I am now nearing 69yrs old with not one day of being anything but riddled in pain from these stiff muscles,they feel like they made of thick old rope and are being twisted. I demanded being referred to a rheumatologist but although a lovely man they don't deal with Osteo so sent me on my way with a plan of meds which didn't work. How is it there isn't a specialist for this. I go to the pain clinic for nerve ablation but any other shots in my spine don't work and they don't really deal with anything beloew the neck and above the lumbar area.

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You know it is just amazing to find your own journey in these posts. I have a friend who, after being dismissed from doctors and running around to all kinds of specialists, it was also an Immunologist who helped her. By diagnosing Lupus. Another autoimmune disease. I am tempted to drive to her city and go to him. And, when did it EVER become okay for doctors to dismiss patients they couldn't cure?????????

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@evergreen2022

You know it is just amazing to find your own journey in these posts. I have a friend who, after being dismissed from doctors and running around to all kinds of specialists, it was also an Immunologist who helped her. By diagnosing Lupus. Another autoimmune disease. I am tempted to drive to her city and go to him. And, when did it EVER become okay for doctors to dismiss patients they couldn't cure?????????

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Now that "... when did it EVER become okay for doctors to dismiss patients they couldn't cure..." is an interesting question. I asked my RN daughter who has worked in several large general and specialty hospitals.

Here is what I learned:
"It is called scope of practice. When you have a specialist, of any kind, they have a narrow "scope of practice" - sometimes dictated by the organization (clinic or hospital) where they work, other times by their comfort zone, and sometimes by their malpractice insurance and sometimes by the patients' insurers." And when you have a family doctor, Nurse Practitioner, Physician Assistant, Physical Therapist, etc - each of them has a defined "scope of practice" as well - for many of the same reasons.

So, in this age of specialization, if a doctor cannot help, you get sent to someone else.
The difficulty for patients is immense, especially in areas where there are not large integrated group practices, where the doctors can refer to others within their group.

My husband just experienced this in our winter home - serious bladder/kidney infection sent us to Urgent Care. After 2 rounds of treatment, the doc said "go see a urologist, here is one we recommend." I called, and they said "we can see him in 4 months" - Whoa, this guy was in intense pain and really sick! So after several tries, I was switched to a nurse, who said "Take him to this ER, if he is as bad as you say they will get him an emergency appointment with us." So that is what I did, and he got basic treatment and an appointment in 7 days - follow ups were tougher, but he was flexible.

I'm sure there is a good side to this - doctors who are not familiar with your condition don't "spin their wheels" costing you time and money without a solution. But that's no consolation when you cannot get an answer.

That is why you will often see people here suggesting that if you have been looking unsuccessfully for answers, it is time to find a large multi-disciplinary hospital or clinic where they have the specialists available to evaluate everything - Mayo Clinics (https://www.mayoclinic.org/appointments) is one, but there are others like Baylor in Texas.

Have you been seen in such a practice?
Sue

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@7lilsnkr

I've seen Pain specialist, Orthopedic specialist, Internal specialist, Rheumatology specialist, Gynecologist, Infectious Diseases specialist, Psychology specialist. I have had MRSA for over a year, Shingles around my eye and been dismissed that it was something else, UTI's, BV(Gardnerella -which during my yearly I had to beg, plead and argue with gynecologist to test for something cuz things were not right, after she kept giving reasons and excuses to explain my reasons away to test me ...hmmm... I was right...GRRR), Polymorphic Light
Eruption, Carpal Tunnel, Plantar Fasciitis, Thrombocytosis, Fibromyalgia, Psoriasis(on and off since I was 2), Multiple fatty deposits on my head, High Cholesterol/Hyperlipidemia Mixed, Mono, Strep throat(even had Mono and Strep at the same time), Hernia at age 7, Heart Murmur when I was 6 months old and it went away, celulitis, Gastrointestinal infection, IBS, Hyperthyroidism, Hypothyroidism, Vitamin D Deficiency, Adjustment Disorder Mixed Reaction, Depression/Anxiety, Depression Major Recurrent Moderate, Koilonychia Acquired, Migraines, Neuropathy Peripheral, Numbness Hand, Raynaud's in hands and feet, Scoliosis, Pain in Lumbar and Thoracic, Pain in both shoulders, Sacroiliac joint dysfunction, narrowing of C5-C6, minimal straightening of Lordosis, degeneration of my facet joints, sclerosis of the greater tuberosity, lazy eye, Thrombocytosis Unspecified, kidney stone, ringworm etc. etc. etc.....lol...I have done a immune system genetics test which came back not finding any pathogenic variants but found 4 variants of uncertain Significance (Variants they don't know enough about to determine any pathogenic relation to disease). I have all these issues and symptoms but tests always seem to show negative or I am missing the 1 or 2 significant criteria in order to be diagnosed for any diseases that are so close to anything! I don't have Lupus, Hashimotos, Psoriatic arthritis,
etc...etc...etc... They have never scraped my skin to test for a negative or positive identification for psoriasis so then when I go to Rheumatology specialist and he sees no evidence of psoriasis( because it is in dormant state) and nothing in records except me saying I have had it I am made out to be crazy or untruthful or making up stuff! Also after 3 separate
radiologists with 3 different xrays in a span of 4 years that state there is small erosion of my bone on finger the Rheumatologist states in my record that he looked over one said xray and saw no evidence of small erosion!! WTH. Patients should not be expected or have to doctor sit and battle over things that we do or don't know to try and fix ourselves or get them to step up to our plate! Sorry this is just a cycle of the lifelong continuation of frustration, disappointment, dashed high hopes of getting answers or getting better but I know I am not the only one . It feels good to vent a little and be emotionally validated.

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Wow! Actually someone else out there that sounds exactly like what I am experiencing.

Obviously different circumstances but the same issues.

In my case, the last 12 years, 14 surgeries later, 7 wrong diagnosis, more medicines than I can count prescribed that were not needed, months upon months of pic-lines due to 2 separate infections in my body that went un-diagnosed for 3 years because I was not believed and even after they discovered them, no apologies for calling me a liar, drug seeker, hypochondriac, faker, psycho, etc. etc., and even 5 seperate doctors telling me they did not want me to come to their practice anymore, including one of which was my Christian brother that I still see every Sunday at Church, one of which I paid $1600 a year just for the privilege of them being my doctor, to where I am now; which is, dismissed as a mental case just because the medical community has been unable to find, treat, fix or even help me.

Today the icing on the cake, went to a new doctor that was highly recommended to me to be my PCP, by an employee who has been a personal friend for 22 years. After only 10min with this doctor I was told I had to prove myself 1st before they would take me as a patient. 1) Wants me to provide a letter from my pain management doctor that I really am their patient and that they really do prescribe oxicodone to me for pain. Then 2) requiring a letter from a Psychiatrist that they have preformed a psychic evaluation on me and that I'm sane and of sound mind to make my own decisions on my medical care and that I am lawfully taking Aderall for exhaustion.

Just amazingly arrogant and very embarrassing to one's character, credibility and ethical make up!

Just a crazy world we live in where you pay to be treated like this. Where someone who is suppose to be a professional can still be paid for being 100% wrong and even if they hurt you can still get paid. I truly realize now why it's called a 'practice.

In my business, if I do something wrong I don't get paid or at least I have to fix it. Plus, having pride in my work and in myself, being an ethical person, would not accept payment if I did not deliver a quality product especially if it was the wrong one or if my customer was hurt because of it.

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The limited "scopes of practice" among specialists is one reason I have been mentioning functional medicine.

I do think there is a tendency to blame medical issues on psychological factors when doctors cannot find a diagnosis that fits. The body is complicated and diagnoses are determined by insurance codes, essentially using a recipe book rather than a narrative.

I do think we cannot take it personally when a doc's practice is nervous about getting in trouble for prescribing controlled substances like oxycodone or adderall. There are agendas we are not always privy to.

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@sueinmn

Now that "... when did it EVER become okay for doctors to dismiss patients they couldn't cure..." is an interesting question. I asked my RN daughter who has worked in several large general and specialty hospitals.

Here is what I learned:
"It is called scope of practice. When you have a specialist, of any kind, they have a narrow "scope of practice" - sometimes dictated by the organization (clinic or hospital) where they work, other times by their comfort zone, and sometimes by their malpractice insurance and sometimes by the patients' insurers." And when you have a family doctor, Nurse Practitioner, Physician Assistant, Physical Therapist, etc - each of them has a defined "scope of practice" as well - for many of the same reasons.

So, in this age of specialization, if a doctor cannot help, you get sent to someone else.
The difficulty for patients is immense, especially in areas where there are not large integrated group practices, where the doctors can refer to others within their group.

My husband just experienced this in our winter home - serious bladder/kidney infection sent us to Urgent Care. After 2 rounds of treatment, the doc said "go see a urologist, here is one we recommend." I called, and they said "we can see him in 4 months" - Whoa, this guy was in intense pain and really sick! So after several tries, I was switched to a nurse, who said "Take him to this ER, if he is as bad as you say they will get him an emergency appointment with us." So that is what I did, and he got basic treatment and an appointment in 7 days - follow ups were tougher, but he was flexible.

I'm sure there is a good side to this - doctors who are not familiar with your condition don't "spin their wheels" costing you time and money without a solution. But that's no consolation when you cannot get an answer.

That is why you will often see people here suggesting that if you have been looking unsuccessfully for answers, it is time to find a large multi-disciplinary hospital or clinic where they have the specialists available to evaluate everything - Mayo Clinics (https://www.mayoclinic.org/appointments) is one, but there are others like Baylor in Texas.

Have you been seen in such a practice?
Sue

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Hi, and thank you. The one which has upset me the most, the one I visited, is the multi-discipline hospital in the Dallas/Fort Worth area. Many doctors on the staff are on the front cover of D magazine with interviews. I think specialists have become a little over-specialized. And then, to have a new PCP tell me he does not believe in Fibromyalgia, who is not affiliated with them, I just give up. Also, you are certainly correct about the insurance. I worked in the health insurance industry for almost 40 years, in almost every position they have. I have had reason to be glad in order to fight my own battles. But it eventually, that does get so tiring. The best thing I have found were lectures on Youtube by the Mayo Clinic on Fibromyalgia. One thing stuck in my mind for sure, he said even if you are tired of running around to so many specialists, you cannot assume it is Fibromyalgia. Their job is to make sure it isn't something else. And, he is right.

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@lkel

Hi 7lilsnkr, I'm reading down your list of medical issues, and it reads so much like mine does - I have been "diagnosed" with many of the same items on your list. (I would name them but it would be much of the long, long list.) I also am frustrated by the difficult journey of diagnosis.

Many of your medical issues are also compatible with those that have Primary Immunodeficiency (also known as PID) patients have. One in 10,000 have a PID. That statistic alone makes it difficult to get a diagnosis. I have a subset of PID, Common Variable Immune Deficiency (CVID). About 1 in 25,000 have CVID. I was finally diagnosed at age 65. Your comment about Immune genetics testing makes me wonder if your Immunologist was leaning that way. Genetics testing, though, is not how most PID patients are diagnosed. It requires antibody testing, IgG, IgA and so on. As I mentioned in an earlier post, got my initial "hint" through my Endocrinologist. Generally, Endos don't do immunology treatment, but it got me on the right track for PID diagnosis. The number of PID cases are so small that there are few doctors that specialize in it. I struggled to find the right doctor. In the Pacific Northwest, there is a concentration of immunologists that specialize in antibody deficiency testing and treatment at Seattle Children's Hospital. I learned about it when I called and asked them for a referral for an Immunologist. I was told they take adult immunology patients. The Immunologist worked with my Primary Care to do preliminary blood work. This was a deeper look (than the Endo) to see if I had blood work showing I had any condition that looked like deficiency. I passed, or failed, depending on how you look at it. This allowed me to be taken on a Seattle Children's Hospital patient. My first appointment, blood work at an even deeper level was done. When that blood work came back it showed I have CVID. With that diagnosis I began treatment and am finally beginning to feel better.
I can't possibly diagnose you but I hopefully the information will help in your search. You might also look at the Immune Deficiency Foundation. They have an excellent website with lots of information.

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Wow, thank you for sharing your story in reply to my post. I have always figured something with my immune system but I couldn't put it all together. I figured I would try the genetic approach but when nothing came back with the genetic immune test I was dumbfounded cuz I know I had psoriasis for years growing up. I will check into PID! Thanks again.

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@sueinmn

Now that "... when did it EVER become okay for doctors to dismiss patients they couldn't cure..." is an interesting question. I asked my RN daughter who has worked in several large general and specialty hospitals.

Here is what I learned:
"It is called scope of practice. When you have a specialist, of any kind, they have a narrow "scope of practice" - sometimes dictated by the organization (clinic or hospital) where they work, other times by their comfort zone, and sometimes by their malpractice insurance and sometimes by the patients' insurers." And when you have a family doctor, Nurse Practitioner, Physician Assistant, Physical Therapist, etc - each of them has a defined "scope of practice" as well - for many of the same reasons.

So, in this age of specialization, if a doctor cannot help, you get sent to someone else.
The difficulty for patients is immense, especially in areas where there are not large integrated group practices, where the doctors can refer to others within their group.

My husband just experienced this in our winter home - serious bladder/kidney infection sent us to Urgent Care. After 2 rounds of treatment, the doc said "go see a urologist, here is one we recommend." I called, and they said "we can see him in 4 months" - Whoa, this guy was in intense pain and really sick! So after several tries, I was switched to a nurse, who said "Take him to this ER, if he is as bad as you say they will get him an emergency appointment with us." So that is what I did, and he got basic treatment and an appointment in 7 days - follow ups were tougher, but he was flexible.

I'm sure there is a good side to this - doctors who are not familiar with your condition don't "spin their wheels" costing you time and money without a solution. But that's no consolation when you cannot get an answer.

That is why you will often see people here suggesting that if you have been looking unsuccessfully for answers, it is time to find a large multi-disciplinary hospital or clinic where they have the specialists available to evaluate everything - Mayo Clinics (https://www.mayoclinic.org/appointments) is one, but there are others like Baylor in Texas.

Have you been seen in such a practice?
Sue

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I will add something that a doctor told me about going to the ER. He said to always go by ambulance if something is even a little serious as patients arriving that way get the most attention. I've never had to rely on that advice but remember it just in case.

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@callalloo

I will add something that a doctor told me about going to the ER. He said to always go by ambulance if something is even a little serious as patients arriving that way get the most attention. I've never had to rely on that advice but remember it just in case.

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My daughter is an ER nurse, was a paramedic and 911 dispatcher before that. She says that depends entirely on the hospital. That said, we had occasion last fall to make numerous ER trips, for myself & my daughter, and it was definitely NOT true then. Paramedics were seen several times transferring patients from gurney to wheelchair and placing them in the ER waiting room with the rest of us. The same happened when I took my husband to the ER in Texas this winter. I asked one triage nurse, and she said "non-emergency" patients were using it to try to jump to the head of the line and their medical director put a stop to it. So, it may have once been true, maybe still is in some places, but not so much these days.

Also, insurance companies have been known to decline to pay for the ambulance if, in their judgment, it was not medically necessary.

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I have psoriasis and a positive ANA and have suffered from tight, contracted muscles and pain for years. The worst part for me is the tight trapezius muscles in my shoulders, which were giving me severe headaches 2-3 times a week. I’m a plant based very fit person, and it’s been very frustrating and has definitely affected my quality of life. I still don’t know what is causing the pain - my rheumatologist has done a lot of tests but we’re still chasing a diagnosis. My suggestion is not a cure but it has really helped with the pain to the point that it is no longer much of an issue. A few months ago I began adding a big piece of fresh ginger root, peeled and sliced to my morning smoothie (kale, frozen pineapple and mango and banana and flax and hemp seeds). It was about a week before. I realized I wasn’t having any muscle pain or headaches and just figured that, for some reason, it had subsided for the time being. Then I saw an article about ginger root being a good pain reliever and migraine preventative in the news and a lightbulb went off in my head. I now make a point of adding the ginger root to my smoothie daily and use more if I feel a pain flare or headache coming on. It has changed my life — no more muscle pain and no more stomach pain and upset from too many NSAIDS. Hopefully this will help someone out there — my pain had been chronic for years before this and even narcotic pain relievers didn’t work. I’m happy and relieved and surprised that something so simple and without side affects has helped me and wanted to share with all of you. If you are interested in learning more, Dr. Neal Barnard has a book that I subsequently purchased called “Foods That Fight Pain.” It has quite a bit of interesting info on the pain relieving attributes of many foods. Who knew? Of course it doesn’t get studied extensively because there’s no profit in it for Big Pharma!

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