Discussion on the topic of libido

Posted by gravity3 @gravity3, Jun 11, 2024

I am interested in how others are dealing with diminished or non existent libido.

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@kjoed53 Thank you for your input. My plan is to ignore what I’m feeling and concentrate on giving pleasure. I get great satisfaction in being the giver and don’t necessarily have to be the receiver, simultaneously. Gotta get out of my own head and focus on maintaining a loving relationship.

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@pmhpesp5
We all get in our own way sometimes. I'm like you in that I too get great satisfaction in giving, which definitely helps me get out of my own head when I go to that scary place...lol.

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My husband is not motivated to have sex either and refuses to take Viagra or anything else. He is also taking blood pressure pills. I have discussed with him about other ways to have sex that don't involve penetration but he is not interested.
To answer your question "Any ideas?"
I have always pleasured myself with orgasms except in the last 5 months. Coincidently Testosterone was added to my hrt and I was able to orgasm again. I also added a vasodilator cream and it made it even better. I don't know if my problem is something you experience but I would tell you to enjoy yourself without him even if he does not want to participate.

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@kisu, @alissahe
I’m not trying to sound weird here, but what if you included your husbands in watching you pleasure yourself? May sound odd, but having them close may spur some type of action?

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