Cancelled my wedding, depressed

Be proud of yourself for doing the right thing. This shows incredible strength. Right down goals you want to accomplish now that you no longer have to live a life of mental abuse. Be grateful for the new life ahead of you. Visualize yourself as happy and productive. No more tears. Get out of bed in the mornings and be thankful you are free. Start achieving your goals even if you have to take baby steps. Cut off contact with abusive individuals. God Bless!

Hello @ammy Nice to e-meet you here, even if it is under less than happy circumstances. I am Scott and you are to be congratulated for taking such a momentous step! Good for you and your own preservation!

One of my favorite quotes is "Remember sometimes courage does not roar, rather it is a quite voice at the end of the day saying 'I will try again tomorrow!'"

You will find an accepting, listening bunch here at Connect and we all hope we can help you along your journey by sharing our experiences and ideas. Remember, too, that often times these types of burdens are bigger than any one person so perhaps seeking out a qualified therapist would be a positive step for you as well.

Peace & Strength

Hi Scott, Nice reply to @ammy. Suggesting that she might want to seek out a qualified therapist reminded me that I need to do the same. Put it on my "to do" list for tomorrow.

And, @ammy, you are no longer a victim and are now a survivor. Change your thoughts, change your life. Change your situation: find a support group or join a group with people of similar interests. I enjoy meetup groups that involve physical activities: hiking, cycling, walking, running, yoga, Pilates, etc. Great was to reduce stress. Also, kickboxing or the martial arts help release repressed anger and other emotions. Cancelling the wedding to your abuser was the hardest part. The rest will be a breeze and a lot of fun!

@ammy Congratulations on not getting tied up with an abuser. No one deserves to be abused. You did the right thing. Try to gather some strength in caring about yourself. You are hurting and angry-you are also free.