Chronic relapse and never ending addiction

Posted by Concerned father/husband @loveheals1, May 19, 2023

Our family has been struggling with alcohol (with recent the addition of THC) addiction for 25+ years. Four rehab programs (three residential of up to 9 months) have not been able to achieve consistent soberity for my wife. A relatively high functioning addict, many in our community/her circle would not know that she wasn’t 100 % sober. This includes her weekly AA/ friend group and addiction counselor.

Lindner Hope Center in Cincinnati has been suggested as a place to treat co-occurring (alcohol/drug addiction/other mental) disorders.

Wondering if anyone has found HOPE at Lindner (or another treatment facility?) for their loved one that otherwise feels apparently content to slowly die one drink, drug or cigarette at a time while her family watches helplessly despite trying every other possible approach to finally have their mom/my wife finally released from the prison of addiction. And for those wondering, yes we all have taken advantage of Al-Anon and therapy for our own recoveries from this family disease.

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Laurie, Volunteer Mentor | @roch | May 20, 2023

First, I am glad you and your family have not given up on your wife.

I know addicts that did countless rehabs only to relapse, and then it is like a lightbulb goes off and something works. Right place at right time.

It comes down to, is the addict REALLY ready to stop. Why is the desire to use stronger then reasons not to.

I am not familiar with Lindner Hope Center .

Hope you find a solution.

Laurie

Concerned father/husband | @loveheals1 | May 20, 2023

In reply to @roch "First, I am glad you and your family have not given up on your wife. I..." + (show)

Thanks Laurie for the encouragement. You have hit the proverbial nail in the head. My own therapist recently helped me see that I and my adult kids want a release from the prison of addiction for my wife more than she does. She may just like the position where she can continue lying and manipulating her way thru life, as long as she is calling the shots. I’ve recently concluded that enabling that to continue via maintaining the status quo isn’t helping her and more importantly it’s hurting me and the kids. She can’t break out the prison of addiction until she wants it more than we want it for her. And that outcome doesn’t seem within sight.

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