Cancer Ghosting - Losing Friends

That appendix can be played like a card...anytime you want. I really laughed when you said you really had the surgery...no lie there!! You are funny.
For three years, when I returned to Indiana, I had not left the house except to walk outdoors or go on errands or appointments with my husband. Finally, just weeks ago, I joined a senior center. It was like a candy store...chuck full of people smiling and waving. Right now, I only go once a week for art classes, but that will increase once I get back from my trip. PLUS, I have the forum...and luckily, the forum has you.💞

I’ve been battling my disease since January and I have been blown away by the support and prayers that have been lifted up for me. Not only members of my church but fellow believers in several churches in multiple states. My experience has been positive in regards to the support and encouragement I have received in my battle with cancer. Relying on God’s will and provision to get me through this difficult time. May you feel His presence too.

I am going to give a different view on this based on my personal experience. I think people that ghost you think cancer is a death sentence and they just don’t care about you as a person since you will be gone. It is the time when you discover your true and sincere friends/family members. We are the ones with the disease. Why do we give excuses to people as to why they ghosted us? We already have a lot to deal with physically and emotionally. You shouldn’t feel a need to hide your cancer. You are tough. Please don’t let their behavior make you sad. I know it’s harder said than done but you already have a lot to deal with and unworthy friends ghosting you don’t deserve a minute of your day. I know I sound harsh but this is what I believe after my experience. Like you, I’m an introvert and literally have just one close friend that is in a different state. We talk often. Have family members overseas that always followup on my progress and unfortunately lost contact with a sister that proved to be selfish. Those selfish people around you will down play what you’re going thru. No one has the right to do so. Wish you the best!

So sorry to hear that you are experiencing this. People respond in so many ways that take us by surprise. Not only re: health, but anything they feel they can't or don't want to cope with. These forums are so important to understand how we need to take care of ourselves. Reaching out will put you with the right people to help in your journey. Wishing you good health.

From my heart....if it had not been for forums when I was diagnosed with GCA three years ago~I really don't know what I would have done. Not only had I never heard of it, but all the doctors I'd seen the previous nine months hadn't either. After the worst hurdle, without the forums, I would never have gathered the knowledge to advocate for myself. After the forums, I could discern between a Doctor, capital 'D', and doctor, small 'd'.💞