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Anybody else feel like this?

Posted by imnotthere666 @imnotthere666, Mar 28 8:18am

Does anybody else want to get close to people but hate being close to people at the same time? I also fear abandonment and fear everyone will leave me which makes it worse
If anyone else has gone/is going through this can I have some advice? 🙂

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shmerdloff | @shmerdloff | Apr 12 10:53pm

Try getting a copy of Colin Wilson's THE OUTSIDER.
No one comes up to me at gatherings to talk. When I overhear their conversations, I don't want to talk to them. Mostly stupid chatter. Maybe they sense this about me and respect it or avoid it. I found I am a Meyers-Briggs INTJ, a "difficult" type. I get along with other INTJs and my opposite ENFPs. I clash a lot with the latter, but it's beneficial.
Colin Wilson's Outsiders struggled with this. Be your own best friend first, then see if there can be a "fit" with some else. I find most people to be insensitive at best, and narcissistic exploiters at worst. My circle of friends is therefore very small. I think Erich Fromm said something like the precursor to being able to love is the ability to be alone.
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itchyd | @itchyd | Apr 13 11:38am
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@shmerdloff

Try getting a copy of Colin Wilson's THE OUTSIDER.
No one comes up to me at gatherings to talk. When I overhear their conversations, I don't want to talk to them. Mostly stupid chatter. Maybe they sense this about me and respect it or avoid it. I found I am a Meyers-Briggs INTJ, a "difficult" type. I get along with other INTJs and my opposite ENFPs. I clash a lot with the latter, but it's beneficial.
Colin Wilson's Outsiders struggled with this. Be your own best friend first, then see if there can be a "fit" with some else. I find most people to be insensitive at best, and narcissistic exploiters at worst. My circle of friends is therefore very small. I think Erich Fromm said something like the precursor to being able to love is the ability to be alone.

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Yes. I also feel like an outsider most of the time. It used to really bother me when I was younger. But I came to accept the fact that there's a deeper satisfaction in sticking to your guns and holding fast to opinions that may make you less than popular. Popularity's overrated.

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