Anniversary date of trauma, loss of my son

Posted by georgette12 @georgette12, Jan 13, 2018

Today is my son’s birthday. January 13. He took his life on the 13th of August 2016. I saw the aftermath in his apartment. I will spare you guys what I saw so you don’t have the images in your head. Then I unfortunately watched the movie “The Hours” last night. Bad idea. Bad dreams. I knew better than to watch that but I did.

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Teresa, Volunteer Mentor | @hopeful33250 | Jan 13, 2018

@georgette12

I am so sorry you have come up on an anniversary date that is so difficult for you. Do you have any plans today that will help you through the day? Can you talk with family or friends?

Keep in touch, we would like to support you during this time of remembrance of your son, his life and what he meant to you.

Teresa

kdo0827 | @kdo0827 | Jan 13, 2018

I know today must be very painful. Hoping the sweet memories of him will be a great comfort. If only those who do take their lives could know the pain & suffering of those they leave behind, perhaps they’d change their minds. Definitely praying for you!

georgette12 | @georgette12 | Jan 14, 2018

Thank you all for your support. My computer is acting up so I could not respond yesterday. Blessings.

cdcc | @cdcc | Jan 14, 2018

So very very sorry for your loss

Teresa, Volunteer Mentor | @hopeful33250 | Jan 14, 2018

@georgette12

If it would be helpful, feel free to share a pleasant memory of your son.

Teresa

Lisa Lucier | @lisalucier | Jan 16, 2018

@georgette12 — how would you say the day of the anniversary of your son’s birthday went, overall?

georgette12 | @georgette12 | Jan 18, 2018

The anniversary date was very bad. But because of my husband’s ill health and loss of job I was unable to cope. I saw my Dr today and he prescribed zyprexa. I feel really not good!

georgette12 | @georgette12 | Jan 18, 2018

In reply to @hopeful33250 "@georgette12 If it would be helpful, feel free to share a pleasant memory of your son...." + (show)

Teresa. .. Re sharing a pleasant memory of my son. We were estranged for a number of years due to his father and stepmother’s influence. My son had a mental illness. When his father died 2 years before his suicide, I tried to help him with his loss. His mental illness got worse. He told me he planned to kill himself. I was not able to stop him in time. I have tried to recall pleasant times and find that recalling those times makes me feel awful. I just live with the fact I could not save him. Thank you for asking.

Parus | @parus | Jan 19, 2018

Those anniversary dates have a way of sneaking up on me. I endeavor to remember the good times.

Parus | @parus | Jan 19, 2018

In reply to @hopeful33250 "@georgette12 If it would be helpful, feel free to share a pleasant memory of your son...." + (show)

@georgette12 I get it about even recalling the good times. Still, I try to hold onto these even if the horrific memories oft accompany the happy ones.

Parus | @parus | Jan 19, 2018

In reply to @georgette12 "The anniversary date was very bad. But because of my husband's ill health and loss of..." + (show)

@georgette12 It can take your body a while to adjust to a new medication. Is the “not good” feeling physical?

Teresa, Volunteer Mentor | @hopeful33250 | Jan 19, 2018

In reply to @hopeful33250 "@georgette12 If it would be helpful, feel free to share a pleasant memory of your son...." + (show)

@georgette12

It is often hard to communicate with someone with mental illness.You reached out to him and you tried to communicate. Even though it might not feel like it made a difference, he did know that you cared and that is important for both you and him.

Teresa