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Anniversary date of trauma.

Posted by @georgette12, Sat, Jan 13 11:08am

Today is my son’s birthday. January 13. He took his life on the 13th of August 2016. I saw the aftermath in his apartment. I will spare you guys what I saw so you don’t have the images in your head. Then I unfortunately watched the movie “The Hours” last night. Bad idea. Bad dreams. I knew better than to watch that but I did.

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@georgette12

I am so sorry you have come up on an anniversary date that is so difficult for you. Do you have any plans today that will help you through the day? Can you talk with family or friends?

Keep in touch, we would like to support you during this time of remembrance of your son, his life and what he meant to you.

Teresa

I know today must be very painful. Hoping the sweet memories of him will be a great comfort. If only those who do take their lives could know the pain & suffering of those they leave behind, perhaps they’d change their minds. Definitely praying for you!

Thank you all for your support. My computer is acting up so I could not respond yesterday. Blessings.

So very very sorry for your loss

@georgette12

If it would be helpful, feel free to share a pleasant memory of your son.

Teresa

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@georgette12 — how would you say the day of the anniversary of your son’s birthday went, overall?

The anniversary date was very bad. But because of my husband’s ill health and loss of job I was unable to cope. I saw my Dr today and he prescribed zyprexa. I feel really not good!

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@georgette12

If it would be helpful, feel free to share a pleasant memory of your son.

Teresa

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Teresa. .. Re sharing a pleasant memory of my son. We were estranged for a number of years due to his father and stepmother’s influence. My son had a mental illness. When his father died 2 years before his suicide, I tried to help him with his loss. His mental illness got worse. He told me he planned to kill himself. I was not able to stop him in time. I have tried to recall pleasant times and find that recalling those times makes me feel awful. I just live with the fact I could not save him. Thank you for asking.

Those anniversary dates have a way of sneaking up on me. I endeavor to remember the good times.

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@georgette12

If it would be helpful, feel free to share a pleasant memory of your son.

Teresa

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@georgette12 I get it about even recalling the good times. Still, I try to hold onto these even if the horrific memories oft accompany the happy ones.

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@georgette12

The anniversary date was very bad. But because of my husband’s ill health and loss of job I was unable to cope. I saw my Dr today and he prescribed zyprexa. I feel really not good!

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@georgette12 It can take your body a while to adjust to a new medication. Is the “not good” feeling physical?

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@georgette12

If it would be helpful, feel free to share a pleasant memory of your son.

Teresa

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@georgette12

It is often hard to communicate with someone with mental illness.You reached out to him and you tried to communicate. Even though it might not feel like it made a difference, he did know that you cared and that is important for both you and him.

Teresa

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@georgette12

If it would be helpful, feel free to share a pleasant memory of your son.

Teresa

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Such a traumatic time in your life. I’m sorry about your husband. I pray he finds a job soon. I was the office manager for a counseling center for many years I’ve seen this many times. When a person decides to end their life they’re in such a dark hole. They don’t stop to think of how their death will affect their loved ones. I sure wish they would. I think you said you also found your son. That and seeing what you saw (I know, my uncle shot himself and without going into detail the stuff to be dealt with afterwards was horrific) I hope that you can find some peace in knowing that you loved him and he knew that. You were not the reason for his actions. Try to find a local support group. I think it would help. Praying for you!

@georgette12

The anniversary date was very bad. But because of my husband’s ill health and loss of job I was unable to cope. I saw my Dr today and he prescribed zyprexa. I feel really not good!

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@georgette12 — really sorry to hear that it was very bad. You definitely have a lot of very hard things hitting you all at once. Hope that your new medication, Zyprexa/olanzapine, offers you some relief.

@hopeful33250

@georgette12

If it would be helpful, feel free to share a pleasant memory of your son.

Teresa

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@kdo0827

Having attempted suicide a number of times, I can tell you that in that moment, suicide becomes a rational solution to resolve the pain. Normally, I see it for the irrational thought pattern that it is. The suicidal mind is out of sync.

My experience is that the suicidal decision is arrived at over a period of time. I imagine that the process is unique to each person.

@georgette12 I know that you saw your son move through a very painful couple of years, and it must have been hard to watch and feel helpless to stop it. He knew that you cared, and I suspect that he felt a lot of guilt knowing that he was a source of distress for you. At least, that has been true for me.

I know the harm I would cause if I were to end my life, especially to my wife and children, and that’s the primary motivator to keep going with life. As I said, though, those rational thoughts gradually disappear, the deeper I get into the darkness of depression.

I think that once a person has put a plan in place and decided to commit suicide, it becomes more and more difficult to get them to stop, unless you can physically restrain them in time. When I’m at that point, I don’t want to talk to anyone about it, and I’m very unlikely to call a suicide hotline or a person who might try to talk me out of it.

I hope that no one here feels responsible for a loved one’s suicide.

Jim

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