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As far as I 'm concerned, pharmacists are like doctors and I trust their knowledge of drugs more than doctors. You guys know a lot about diseases. Amazing! Sunny
It’s amazing how different the care is when it comes from a provider who has or does experience Chronic Pain in their life.
Unfortunately it takes something horrific happening in someone’s life to teach them that money isn’t the most important thing to life.
It took someone exactly like this to eventually diagnose me with CRPS. It was a neurologist in Casper. We arrived at his office at 10:30am —the 9th specialist I’d seen in a less than a year— and waited, wondering what this one would say.
Nine hours later at 7:30pm, we began the long journey back to Newcastle with a diagnosis and in shock.
After 2 MRIs, 2 different nerve studies— one peripheral and one central, X-Rays, and numerous reflex, strength, and muscular exams in an eight hour period, Dr. Santiago discussed, examined, and reviewed the results. He finally reached the diagnosis of LUMBOSACRAL PLEXOPATHY from permanent damage sustained in my right total knee replacement in Salt Lake City at the University of Utah Orthopedic Clinic.
He also suspected that I suffered from a severe case of Complex Regional Pain Syndrome and referred my case to Interventional Pain Specialist. He confirmed Complex Regional Pain Syndrome with more needles and pain but at least I had a diagnosis even if it was to be the most painful disease known to mankind.
It was almost two years to the day after my knee replacement too. My life didn’t get “better” or “easier” but it at least made more sense.
@sunnyflower It hurt you that your daughters alluded that, "they did not want to enable" you and caused resentment between the three of you.
You are carrying heavy emotional burdens that I imagine a therapist could help you sort through. I'm not sure where your daughters are coming from. For now I'll give them the benefit of the doubt and say that there may be a misunderstanding or that it is easier for them to blame you for your illness than deal with the grief of your diminished quality of life. A therapist may also be able to mediate between you and your daughters and help clear up any misunderstandings.
I'm wondering if you'd consider seeing a therapist virtually?
@sunnyflower Hi there, Sunny. My heart breaks that you even had to feel you needed lists to share with your daughters to defend yourself and prove you need their help and their love. This is so awful, so unnatural. Good, caring daughters would be attune to you, naturally. This just kills me inside. And to then write to us, telling us here that a daughter said she spoke with her other siblings and they said they did not want to be "enabling?" How sick do you have to get, before they just help you? This infuriates me. You poor, poor, lady. I am sure they will say how much they loved you after you are gone. Just words. Love should be practiced and witnessed while we are still alive. I am heartsick from your daughters, Sunny. You give so much. And by the way, I have only one son, and he is no better. Perhaps I did something wrong as a parent, a long time ago, because he doesn't seem to connect with my pain at all. If he does, he does not show it. My love to you, Sunny. Lori Renee
@faithwalker007 Renee, I read everything you post, and you bring such great wisdom, compassion, kindness!!! I am touched by the love you and your husband have for eachother, and how you support eachother with both your serious illnesses. Your insights into family are spot on. Your courage astounds me, as CRPS is utterly devastating. You are a true hero, and a tough, but loving soldier!!!! I so admire you. I really do. And you help so much. Lori Renee
Thank you Lori Renee. You are an inspiration as well. I just want to help. I can’t do it through my job anymore so this is one avenue. Opioids are not made from the Devil but they should been respected as ALL medications. They are not natural (even if they are natural compounds) for the body and we should be careful what we put in it.
Our body is sacred and special.
I believe my body is the Temple of the Holy Spirit and it is my duty as a Christian to protect and care for it, not destroy it with chemicals. That’s why I don’t drink, smoke, do illicit drugs, binge eat, or starve myself.
I do my best to care for my body and my conditions and treat them.
That is my job as a Christian and woman.
@faithwalker007 The last pharmacist I had was a wonderful man from South Africa. I strongly suspect he had a different education, perhaps even a physician's degree, as his wealth of knowledge was astounding. He caught several things that my drs didn't. He guided me a lot in the early days of my rare kidney disease. On the other hand, my PCP freely used his apps to look up medications and interactions when we discussed things, to make sure he was accurate. I appreciated that he had not tried to "wing it" or "assume"; there is no way one human can keep all that information readily at hand in their mind!
Ginger
@jimhd Jim, I am so glad you will get meds you need!!!! You stuck to your guns, and will get what you need!!!! Keep us all posted on how the meds work for you..... Lori Renee
Pharmacists rarely assume or wing it. They pull from education, knowledge, and usually experience. PCPs and even specialists refer to resources readily and statistics to diagnose and treat.
Thx Lori. My heart aches so much about this. It keeps me awake at night. I have tissue by my bedside bc that's a common time for the tears to roll.
My kids tell me they love me and say incredible, meaningful things in cards but you're right, what will it take?
To be fair, they have huge hearts and servant hearts but are extremely busy with their large families. At the same time, they are always serving others. I think they rest on the fact that I have such a good husband. Plus, I do not like to ask for help. I do not want to be a burden.
My daughter who has adopted four of their foster children and is about to adopt a fifth, a year old baby that has been with us since birth, also works two jobs from home. A great mother. Overly busy. Same with my younger daughter. 5 kids, overcommitted life. My sons would help some, were I to ask but are so busy too.
I agree with you and realize that I am excusing them, probably because it hurts too much to admit the truth.
I appreciate your kind thoughts and words. Blessings, Sunny