Maintaining an even keel: Meet @gloaming

Dec 8, 2023 | John, Volunteer Mentor | @johnbishop | Comments (17)

Member spotlight: Meet Gloaming

JOHN: What brought you to Mayo Clinic Connect? 

@gloaming: I don’t recall how Mayo Clinic Connect came to my attention, but it must have been in reference to a search I was conducting to learn more about a certain condition, and the algorithm offered Mayo Clinic as one of the most common or relevant sites. Once I saw the nature of the forum and sub-fora, I knew I might play a part in helping people to learn more about the subjects with which I am familiar.

JOHN: What motivates you to take part in the community?

@gloaming: At my stage of life, I have developed limitations or conditions that require the conscientious adult to know more. Apart from wanting to live longer and to live well, I feel averse to imposing on our struggling medical system more than is absolutely necessary. Anything I can reasonably do for myself I ought to do.

 JOHN: What about Mayo Clinic Connect makes you feel comfortable to share and to be open with the community?

@gloaming: The tone of the site instills confidence and the people who come to look for assistance, or to offer it, seem to be self-actualizing, empathetic, and knowledgeable.

JOHN: What support groups do you participate in?

@gloaming: So far, and perhaps luckily (heh!) I am involved only in the heart related support groups, like Heart & Blood Health and Heart Rhythm Conditions, and the Sleep Health support group. It’s not to say I don’t occasionally wander to other support groups now and then, but I’m only really active in those three.

JOHN: Tell us about a meaningful moment on Mayo Clinic Connect.

@gloaming: I have been fairly active in Mayo Clinic Connect for just over a year, and I don’t recall a singular event or interaction that stands out. I’m also active on many other sites, often submitting a comment multiple times each day across them (and yes, I DO have a life...it’s just multifaceted and...umm...busy.) I have interacted with numerous people literally at their wits’ ends, sometimes truly beaten and desperate to improve their circumstances. After many of those, they kind of all melt into a big clump with little distinctiveness...at least for me. 

Even so, I am very much into learning all I can about my conditions and am often looking at medical publications which are widely available online; PubMed, for example.

JOHN: What surprised you the most about Mayo Clinic Connect?

@gloaming: I was somewhat surprised to see how comprehensively and extensively the sub-fora range. There’s a wealth of information for anyone who comes and makes a reasonable effort to find it.

JOHN: What energizes you, or how do you find balance in your life?

@gloaming: Several pursuits keep me balanced and motivated. Firstly, being physically active. It helps to stave off so many physical ailments and diseases. If done properly, it builds muscle and capacity, and it keeps the brain bright and interested. Mood is almost universally improved after a brisk walk, according to so much of the relevant research. 

Secondly, hobbies, of which I have plenty: model trains, photography, music and choral singing, and astronomy. I’m currently building a small observatory to shelter my refractor telescope. 

Additionally, but perhaps first and foremost, my wife has a couple of medical conditions that make life often miserable for her. I work hard at keeping myself on an even keel and conditioned so that I can continue to be handy for her. If I am content and feel well, then I can help her more potently.

JOHN: Tell us about your favorite pastime or activity

@gloaming: Two recent forays have been model trains, building realistic layouts with functional trackage and pursuing a lifelong interest in stellar evolution and internal dynamics, as well as using a fine telescope, of which I have two. 

My education is not in STEM (science, technology, engineering and mathematics), so much of stellar physics is beyond me mathematically, but fortunately some very good authors have taken pains to make the physics understandable for the amateur. Similarly, I am interested in telescopes and their optical characteristics. 

I should also mention that I maintain a substantial garden each year which, if you do it yourself, you’ll know involves a lot of planning, some expense, a lot of time and physical effort seasonally (yes, in the winter, spring, and fall as well), and the yield of a lot of pleasure.

JOHN: Do you have a favorite quote, life motto or personal mantra?

@gloaming: Not one great favorite, but several:

The people gladly believe what they wish to.” Julius Caesar

“But lay up for yourselves treasures in heaven, where neither moth nor rust doth corrupt, and where thieves do not break through nor steal. For where your treasure is, there will your heart be also:” Matthew 6:20-21

“War is an ugly thing, but not the ugliest of things: the decayed and degraded state of moral and patriotic feeling which thinks nothing worth a war, is worse. A man who has nothing which he cares about more than he does about his personal safety is a miserable creature who has no chance of being free, unless made and kept so by the exertions of better men than himself.” John Stuart Mill

JOHN: What do you appreciate the most in your friends?

@gloaming: My friends are smart, good listeners, honest, aren’t afraid to argue with me, and wish me happy birthday on the right day.

JOHN: What food can you simply not resist?

@gloaming: Brownies, mixed salted nuts, a fresh crisp apple, and peanut butter with jam. None of it particularly good for me, except maybe the apple, and then only for lower motility.

JOHN: If Hollywood made a movie about your life, whom would you like to see cast as you?

@gloaming: This is tough. I don’t identify with any actors; at least, not any that are living. However, one non-actor comes close, and that would be Freddie Dodge, the gold mine guru on Discovery Channel.

JOHN: What do you love about where you live or vacation?

@gloaming: The mountain vistas, the local glacier (beaten up badly by climate change), the ocean, the 150 foot Douglas firs, Sitka spruce, hemlock, Western red cedars, the pathways through the rain forest. Where I live you can run up to the local ski recreation area and snow shoe, return home for lunch, and play golf that afternoon. I don’t play golf, but...you know. Also, where we’re located, a distance from the mainland cities, we have clean air except during forest fire season.

JOHN: Puppies or kittens?

@gloaming: Not terribly keen on either, although I have raised three puppies. Once they’re adults, I can tolerate some cats. My daughter had a lovely cat. I suggested she name him  Merlin. That worked. Otherwise, I love dogs. We have had a Basenji, a Whippet, and are currently on our second IG (Italian Greyhound).

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Hello @gloaming

I so enjoyed reading your Spotlight and really appreciated you saying, "Apart from wanting to live longer and to live well, I feel averse to imposing on our struggling medical system more than is absolutely necessary. Anything I can reasonably do for myself I ought to do."

I see that as one of Connect's purposes: to help others learn about their disorders and limitations so that they can help themselves. I also enjoyed being introduced to the quote by John Stuart Mill. I was not previously familiar with this very interesting English philosopher. The quote took me to Google to find out more about him. I must learn more!

Thanks to you, @johnbishop, for this great interview. This Spotlight by @gloaming is just great!

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Thanks, again, all of you, for welcoming me so enthusiastically. In reply about the telescope, sadly our verve washes over us in waves....at least it does for me. I'll go madly on one hobby or pastime for several weeks, then tire of it and try something else. I have had some kind friends take me aside and tell me that I should learn to talk more about what I'm not doing and less about what interests me because I become unidimensional and boring over time. That was a welcome kick in the pants, even if a bit embarrassing, but I appreciated the candor. So, I understand when you say you need to collimate the scope, scottij. It gets easier with practice, but some scopes seem to need to be collimated (lining up all the optical components so that they show a well- focused and high-contrast image) before every viewing session, which kind of draws down the enthusiasm and the mojo after a few sessions. It's why my main scope is a refractor. 🙂 As for celestial events, I live in the PNW, in British Columbia, and as anyone who has spent a year here knows, from about mid-November to the end of March is when we accumulate our 50-100 inches of annual rainfall. IOW, it be cloudy....a LOT! And strong gale-force winds. In fact, a pet peeve of mine is that, as a person who enjoys a few minutes in our hot tub just before turning in (which is rarely before 0030 hrs for me), I go out to it only to find a mostly starry sky. It had been cloudy just an hour earlier when I went out for something else, but now I'm ready for bed~ GRRrrr....! Astronomy requires oodles of patience. Well, yes, and a sense of humor.

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Great interview, quotes and responses!

Since @gloaming mentioned astronomy and humor in the same breath, I feel compelled to attach a classic "Far Side" cartoon to this post.

When I was in high school, I was once sent to the principal's office with a referral slip that read, "Student burps in class and calls it a larynx fricative. He finds only humor in everything he is told." (The "larynx fricative" was a reference to a George Carlin routine I heard in 8th grade.)

I've found that humor and passions like music have been helpful in dealing with my recent cancer as much as they were in dealing with every other trial in my healthier, younger life.

Although we live on opposite corners of the country, @gloaming and I share a lot in common (heart rhythm issues included). Since he also mentioned music and astronomy in the same interview, I should mention the band Blue Oyster Cult released a song called "Astronomy" on one of their first albums in the early/mid-1970's. They've also released remixed studio and live versions of the song, which has also been covered by other bands including Metallica. I really like the lead guitar and vocal harmonies in all of those, and hope someone reading this enjoys them as well.

Cheers to all, and thanks again to @gloaming for putting such inspiring words on paper!

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What is lower motility?

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Movement in the lower portion of the alimentary tract. A BM.

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@johnbishop interview was great to read. Boy a well rounded human he is. He needs to add that he very likely has great literary skills and good sense of humor. To survive in this world one must balance their life with humor! Thank you John💖🙋‍♀️

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